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I'm VERY confused right now.... (pg. 4)
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| noonboy |
I went out with my ex when we hadn't been talking for a while, and I still missed her. We went to see a movie (just to have something to do) where she met a guy for the frist time and at the end of 3hr LOTR they were kissing. (so that's all I ment to you, huh?)
Later she was sorry, I said it's ok and all that. So I tried to be friends for 2 months until I found out she was hiding lots of stuff for me. I doubted she wanted our friendship to exist and I didn't call for a while, to leave her alone (after we broke up I always had to keep the contact. she never did)
So we met one week ago when she told me I was the negative person and she always had to keep the contact, she blamed me for all of it and told me she didn't want any contact anymore.....[/pointless]
My advice: Don't do it! But if you absolutely must meet her, stay on guard at all times! don't let love take over, even if she talks like she wants you back! I did right after I got over her, and it took me 2,5 extra months to get over my lady blue! Now I'm clean, though, and I've learned my lesson: Don't meet up with your ex until you've gotten properly over her and prepared a guard! |
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| dj_Vendetta |
| quote: | Originally posted by stk
My Ex, who found a new lover, out of nowhere calls me (its been about a year since we last talks) and asks how i am doing and stuff. And now she wants to meet up with me and see me in person and see how things are going...
I dont know if i should, i still love her, i stil miss her and she has a new lover who she has been dating for about 4 months now....I dont know why she just called me out of the blue, it seemed to good to be true....
Quite honestly, i was more shocked than happy when she called me, i was like why the is she playing with my mind again..i hate these games....
what should i do? should i meet up with her or no? and why does she want to meet up with me..after all these years of no communicatin? it seems a little odd |
STAY AS FAR AWAY FROM THIS FIEND AS HUMANLY POSSIBLE, SHE IS JUST GOING TO END UP IN UR MIND AGAIN, MOVE ON, PLUS THAT U MIGHT BE SOME RE-DEMPTION, BY NOT TALKING TO HER, SHOWING HER THAT UVE MOVED ON AND DONT HAVE TIME FOR THIS BULL |
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| DanAX |
| quote: | Originally posted by noonboy
I went out with my ex when we hadn't been talking for a while, and I still missed her. We went to see a movie (just to have something to do) where she met a guy for the frist time and at the end of 3hr LOTR they were kissing. (so that's all I ment to you, huh?)
Later she was sorry, I said it's ok and all that. So I tried to be friends for 2 months until I found out she was hiding lots of stuff for me. I doubted she wanted our friendship to exist and I didn't call for a while, to leave her alone (after we broke up I always had to keep the contact. she never did)
So we met one week ago when she told me I was the negative person and she always had to keep the contact, she blamed me for all of it and told me she didn't want any contact anymore.....[/pointless]
My advice: Don't do it! But if you absolutely must meet her, stay on guard at all times! don't let love take over, even if she talks like she wants you back! I did right after I got over her, and it took me 2,5 extra months to get over my lady blue! Now I'm clean, though, and I've learned my lesson: Don't meet up with your ex until you've gotten properly over her and prepared a guard! |
i feel you....
Girls are big liars....watch out for them |
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| jdat |
We're all too sensible unfortunately :nervous:
This girl which I'll say was the love of my life well we screwed around a lot breaking up and things of the like ( not that we would get into fights ... she just wanted "breaks" or to go and see somewhere else :rolleyes: ) ... well I tried my best to get back with her and it never did. It was all lies from her side.
I remember this case of major "humiliation" ... We went to different schools and we said we'd meetup downtown the day after and skip school so we could spend the day together... Well I see her the next morming she's with a friend of her's ( wtf ! ) and she tells I don't think I can do this I need to go to school blah blah blah ( like wtf we skipped classes all the time before! )... So she leaves I try and call her on her cell phone minutes later cannot get a hold of her ... leave a msg ... give up .... I talked to her that evening and she tells me she tried calling me back cause she'd changed her mind.....
After that it was all downhill. For the next two years each time I tried to spend some time with her ( being it mine or her idea ) it was always excuses at the last minute... I can't come blah blah... ( She would go on vacation on the other side of the country a lot and sometimes I would be in the area and she'd be like yeah yeah call me ! Lets hang out when you're over there .... but she would always make up excuses for not hanging out once we had plans ).....
I never figured it out but I just gave up.
I know I will never see her again ( different country so :rolleyes: ) but if I could just for a moment be with her again . I'd do without thinking.
This is one of the things we have to learn with time.
I don't think I'd be strong enough to push her back. |
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| DiMethGuy |
dat ho...
WORD
life's too short for girls with boyfriends/husbands. |
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| DjDarling |
| quote: | Originally posted by noonboy
I went out with my ex when we hadn't been talking for a while, and I still missed her. We went to see a movie (just to have something to do) where she met a guy for the frist time and at the end of 3hr LOTR they were kissing. (so that's all I ment to you, huh?)
Later she was sorry, I said it's ok and all that. So I tried to be friends for 2 months until I found out she was hiding lots of stuff for me. I doubted she wanted our friendship to exist and I didn't call for a while, to leave her alone (after we broke up I always had to keep the contact. she never did)
So we met one week ago when she told me I was the negative person and she always had to keep the contact, she blamed me for all of it and told me she didn't want any contact anymore.....[/pointless]
My advice: Don't do it! But if you absolutely must meet her, stay on guard at all times! don't let love take over, even if she talks like she wants you back! I did right after I got over her, and it took me 2,5 extra months to get over my lady blue! Now I'm clean, though, and I've learned my lesson: Don't meet up with your ex until you've gotten properly over her and prepared a guard! |
This is so weird! I'm in a relationship that's exactly identical to this one right now, unfortunately, I am the girl and I know that what I do is wrong most of the time. But lately I've been trying really hard to make it up to my ex, and I know we love each other a ton but seriously I dont know if it will work. Why is it that some people like actually get addicted to each other and feel as if they can't live without them? How do you know when it's the right guy |
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| smallSHEEP |
| quote: | Originally posted by DjDarling
How do you know when it's the right guy |
You know ;) |
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| Mr. Pink |
| quote: | Originally posted by smallSHEEP
You know ;) |
oh:wtf: |
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| Fraggle |
damn...i just want to thank everyone who posted in this tread :)
i got something simliar going on, or just ended now too...although i'm still too confused to explain it sorry...maybe sometime later.
anyway, it's really comforting to know i'm not alone with these feelings...and even tho i really don't know & haven't met any of you, i feel a lot of compassion for others who have experienced such heartache.
peace.
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| Mr. Pink |
| quote: | Originally posted by stk
Quite honestly, i was more shocked than happy when she called me.
what should i do? should i meet up with her or no? |
Out of experience.....you can either meet up with her and realize you dont need her....meet up with her and realize you still love her/go through pain/hate life/etc.....or you can just blow it over and move defuk on man...
Ive been there....i AM there...i was unlucky enough to see her over and over again after the dumping...I say just keep going on with your life and find the person that makes you happy...and yeah, it could have been her at one point, but believe me.....out of the bagillion women out there, out of all the personalities in this world there is bound to be ONE maybe 20 that could make you happier than she did pal.
good luck. |
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| keithos27 |
| quote: | Originally posted by Fraggle
damn...i just want to thank everyone who posted in this tread :)
i got something simliar going on, or just ended now too...although i'm still too confused to explain it sorry...maybe sometime later.
anyway, it's really comforting to know i'm not alone with these feelings...and even tho i really don't know & haven't met any of you, i feel a lot of compassion for others who have experienced such heartache.
peace.
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same here... well said. |
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| MERiDiAN5i2 |
save yourself the mind games, screw her.. she'll only cause you greef.
you could always hit n run :P |
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