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Being friendly and talking to people at clubs/parties. (pg. 3)
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| DigiNut |
| quote: | Originally posted by Nytehawk
LOL, Digi! Your certainly shy, I remember when I met you @ Viva for JOOF, and you kept staring at me, so I was like... "What the hell is he looking at" so I just went over and your like, "I met you somewhere before, didnt I?" hehehehe memories... I hope everyone has fun @ Armin, but work and making money comes first for me:(
Nytehawk |
Hey, that's a half-truth! I actually talked to you first and asked if I saw you at the Destiny party, remember? Then you said NO, and I stared a few times trying to figure out where it was that I HAD seen you. :p True, I only said it after like a half hour, but still. I didn't know ANYBODY there really, the J00F party was the first time I'd ever met any people from TA, and I was there by myself, so I was more timid than usual. I'm not usually THAT shy, and a lot of TAs know that 'cause I've been the one to introduce them to everyone. :)
| quote: | Originally posted by MarkT
What's sad is that half the time, guys kind of back off and walk away once I mention something. Um, we were obviously having a good converstaion, talking about DJs, parties, etc., and then because they find out I'm gay, now they can't talk to me anymore :rolleyes: That's kind of ty. Actually, it's really ty. I was "cool" enough to talk to before, but now I'm not because I'm not str8? ( |
Yeah that's crap, I'm not gay but a lot of times I've met gay guys at clubs and I never walk away after I find that out. I think a lot of people do though, because once I was talking to a group of gay guys (I think it was at EnTrance?), having a sort of minimal conversation, and they mentioned they were going somewhere afterwards. I asked where, and the guy was like "uh... just to a different club." I asked which club, he hesitated for about five seconds and finally said slowly "well... I don't know if you've heard of it... it's called Fly." I'm probably gonna find out sometime that those guys were TAs... lol... oh well.
Personally I just nodded and kept talking, but he obviously was hesitant to say anything, so I guess I know what you're getting at, Mark. Doesn't matter to me whether people are straight or gay or ugly or cute, as long as they're friendly. And maybe it's just a coincidence but it's usually the gays that ARE the friendly ones, because the straight guys are all on a "mission." :rolleyes:
My only problem is that I usually can't hear so I don't converse too well. :p Some of you know what I'm talkin' about!!! J? :p |
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| avikonen |
| Meeting open and friendly people is one of the coolest things about the Toronto scene. Canadians rock! :) |
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| The Highroller |
yes i definately do, but it's pretty sad that a good majority of clubbers think:
if you're a guy talking to a girl, you're trying to pick her up.
if you're a guy talking to a guy, you're gay.
pretty sad if you ask me. |
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| AmbiguousBliss |
| quote: | Originally posted by DigiNut
Doesn't matter to me whether people are straight or gay or ugly or cute, as long as they're friendly. And maybe it's just a coincidence but it's usually the gays that ARE the friendly ones, because the straight guys are all on a "mission." :rolleyes: |
I do agree, Aaron!
I can be shy sometimes, and at other times, the vibe from people in the place acts as a deterrent when it comes to striking up a conversation. All in all though, I have no problem with talking to anyone. Like MarkT said, I object neither to casual conversation nor to making new friends. I go to a club/party to have fun; friendly and cool people are an integral part of the experience. :) |
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| vodoochild |
hey all-
First off I've only been partying in this scene for the last 6months. Before that, it was good ol dance till 3am clubs ( yes you may feel sorry for me ):sadgreen:
I think that the friendliness is one key factor why I returned.ask my friends- I was a :nervous: :nervous: :nervous: :nervous: freak.
Its kinda cool to see boys and girls...getting along in a civilized manner- most there to enjoy music that kicks ASS!!! One day I will get the f$#@%^& genres right! There is much socializing, its kinda neat to spark up the most interesting conversation while taking a break from dancing)From what I see- its generally good natured. The spirit is of a certain comaraderie, and that is a pretty positive experience. For me anyway... so yes I have benefitted tremendously-
I hug my friends at clubs ( even those I have recently met but if someone asks me to stop, I would stop instantaneously- they all seem pretty openminded and cool )Its all about respect... I am friendly, touchy feeling, mostly ummm vivacious person who is just having fun.
The friendliness in this atmospehere I'm sure has helped many somewhat reserved people like myself come out of our shells. So its cool to be friendly- just a reminder go sit down if you want to socialize. I'm sure many dance freaks, like myself would agree. It is not cool( for a small woman like me) to have some tall freaking dude blocking my view standing right in front of me bleh! it makes me crazy.:wtf:
Its a great way to meet people as long as we keep it in check. Yes the odd :thepirate stumbles in sometimes too. But it is all our peeps like Michael, Marc, Steve, Carl( who gives great hugs!)and I am sure there will be others as well, who step in either as pretend b/fs or protective friends.
the women... well that's a kick ass positive story for another time...
but I don't want go on and on. Safe to say....being friendly is good bec. its good to know that we can rely on you guys to step in ( politely ) and set matters straight. All this could not have happened had it not been for all our friendliness.
peace,
VC |
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| PartEgurl |
| I always go around talking to random ppl. I can usually pick out TA's out of the crowd too. I guess you just know ! |
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| SoCaRavin |
| I personally like the atmosphere to be friendly, it makes the night much more enjoyable. I often talk to people sitting around me as does my fiance. As for gay poeple hitting on me, I just let them know that i'm straight and they stop. No problem talking though. :toocool: |
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| DJ El Kay Dee |
| quote: | Originally posted by MarkT
^^^ lol, that's ed up........blah blah blah...believe me :( |
dood dont get me wrong..taht incident i mentioned bout, ketp talkin to the dood after that....we just confirmed sexual orientation..lol
(oh and i cur ur quot only cos i didnt wanna put the whoooole thing in so dont get mad) |
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| chrismack |
Mark T has the right attitude about the whole gay/straight thing.
If you find yourself being chatted up by a gay guy he may just be enjoyign talkign to ya, or he may be trying to pick you up. Either way, take it as a compliment, tell him your straight, or if you're embarassed ask him if he thinks that girl over there is hot and go back to talking to him (or her).
I don't know one gay guy who wouldn't back off and respect your boundaries. If I am "interested in some guy, most of the time, I'm dying for them to tell me if they are gay or not (sometimes it is really hard to tell, especially when you're kinda ed up :-)... so you just help out the situation for everyone.
Oh ya. be sure to ask if he is there with any straight girls, cuz a lot of my women friends are really hot and I would be happy to introduce you (and chicks dig guys who are nice to their gay friends!). |
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| dEsidEL |
| quote: | Originally posted by chrismack
Oh ya. be sure to ask if he is there with any straight girls, cuz a lot of my women friends are really hot and I would be happy to introduce you (and chicks dig guys who are nice to their gay friends!). |
hmm.. no wonder all the girls here are always in such a bad mood! :toothless j/k
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| Trancewave |
Great thread. I too, love a friendly and openminded atmosphere at clubs and parties. I used to go up and chat with random people quite a bit when I first started raving a long time ago. Odd because I'm quite a shy person outside of a club , and when I hit a club I guess I come out of my shell.
I don't do it as much now but one thing I find is that people always come up to me and start conversations with me at clubs, guys and girls. I believe the reason is that everytime when I go to a club I'm always having a good time (or try to anyways). I'm very upbeat and when people look my way I smile back at them. I think when people see that you're having a good time and in tune with the music, they feed off your energy.
I hate going to clubs where everyone is just standing around and looking miserable even when the most amazing track is being played. I'm very friendly to people at clubs and sometimes that can get me into a lot of trouble because I get hit on by gay guys a lot, but it's all cool. I don't know what it is but guess I have this very 'boyish' look and I'm very openminded, so it really doesn't bother me.
I remember one time I was dancing and this guy was looking at me for a while so I looked at him and smiled. He smiled back and came up to me and started some small talk. Conversation was going good and then he said to me "listen, I know that you are probably straight but I just wanted to tell you that you are sooo hot" :eek:
To tell you the truth, I was pretty flattered. He wasn't trying to pick me up or anything, we were just having a good conversation. Especially flattering because funny thing was I found him to be really good looking :D , so it was a nice compliment. I didn't feel uneasy or anything because quite frankly I've been so used to being hit on by gay guys at clubs and my university. Now if only I could get so lucky wid da ladies. :p
Had an amazing time that night, the vibe was amazing. After when he had to leave I gave him a kiss and a hug and it actually felt kinda nice :) . I'm 100% straight so don't get any crazy ideas in your brains. ;) but yeah, I think people need to lose the attitude and have fun more and not be so judgemental when they're partying. |
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| drewfactor |
I'm glad so many people share the same attitude as me. ^^^that's a great story Trancewave, I can totally relate.
Highroller, you're spot on: We need to get over this "guy talks to girl is just trying to get a piece" and "guy talking to guy is gay"
Seriously, that's crap.
I agree also with what some other people have had to say about chatting with gays. I mean, I have honestly had some of the most interesting conversation with queers, but if I sense they are chatting me up, it kinda makes me uneasy. I suppose I could get over that, and just continue talking or whatever...but as long as the boundries are drawn with regards to being straight etc... |
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