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I'm Scared (pg. 2)
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| j_spot |
'love' @ 18 is highly over rated.
Even if u do fall in love, u will probly do the average male thing and find a way to it up!
dont worry..itll come sometime when u arent expecting! |
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| Tranzmit |
Ah renegade but i thought the same as you for the longest of times. I'd given up finding someone really special and i was tired of the usual relationships. But then i met this girl who was visiting from London for a few weeks who changed my life. We both just connected at a lower level then i've EVER had happen. We used to sit up till 1 at night discussing the meaning of life (or lack thereof lol), She explained things to me about myself i never really had worked out about myself and i told her a lot about herself too she'd never really known too about why she thought the way she did etc etc.
unfortunately she already had a boyfriend so we both respected that though we very nearly broke it a few times.:whip: it was mainly because she really loved this guy and i didn't want to put her in the unenviable position of either telling about us or worse keeping it from him. She had to return to the UK and she's still with the same guy, though i hear they're not doing so well. I'd love to be with her and feel we probably will eventually but whatever happens just meeting her, someone who was just as interested in discussions on our thought processes as she was sexy as hell! I've never met anyone who was sexier yet. Ah well twas good for what it was |
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| Lilith |
Yes, burn the pron.
No point in advertising the fact that your a wanker to the whole wide world is there?
(eep! too much information kiddo!)
Time is too slow for those who wait,
too swift for those who fear,
too long for those who grieve,
too short for those who rejoice,
but for those who love, time is eternity.
Henry Van Dyke |
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| Zing |
| quote: | Originally posted by Lilith
Yes, burn the pron.
No point in advertising the fact that your a wanker to the whole wide world is there?
(eep! too much information kiddo!)
Time is too slow for those who wait,
too swift for those who fear,
too long for those who grieve,
too short for those who rejoice,
but for those who love, time is eternity.
Henry Van Dyke |
Uhm that might be outta the subject...but i was curious
Lilith how old r you? :) |
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| Suzaku |
WB The White Rabbi, I've missed your quirky posts.
Love... it's real, not like on hallmark cards ;) trust me I know.
I feel like I've been through it all, break-ups, make-ups, long distance, lesbians, suicide. I was with my last ex-girlfriend for 7 YEARS and I'm only 22 years old. There is no greater feeling than being in love and being loved in return. Of course there's also no worse feeling than being betrayed by someone you love :( Sigh... I need a cigarette.
What have I learned from my experiences?
Be social, be confident, ...and stop trying, one day love will find you. I don't mean to just echo everybody's advice but that's just the way it is. Like Renegade said, appreciate what you do have and don't cry about what you don't. You're 18, you've got the rest of your life to be in love. In the meanwhile, enjoy your porn, live your life and stop waiting for love.
Lilith, nice poem |
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| Fraggle |
hehehe...r u looking for a friend, or a root?!?!?
...or a friend to root?!?!!
ermm, well i have a good lot of close friends so i can't say i get lonely or bored often...but ya when it comes to girlfriends i gotta say i have no advise worth listening to :(:(:(
anyway, my thinking is just enjoy the life ur living & if ur not change it so u do...if u manage to find a nice partner who wants to come along on ur ride then bonus!!! otherwise, u're still having fun and not wasting time doing things that just make u feel worse :p:p:p
well, ya i guess this doesn't work for everyone, but just my thinking :)
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| Renegade |
Yep, but that's exactly what I'm talking about Tranzmit. :)
There will be people who pop up out of nowhere and change your life - be they friends (male or female) or lovers. But you can't assume that you're going to find someone special like that, because a lot of things have to go the right way at the exact same time for it to occur. If your happiness depends on finding someone like that, then chances are you're going to be disappointed.
Reading back I guess it probably isn't for me to say that love doesn't exist, but you've still got to be realistic and live as though it isn't going to happen. This isn't the perspective of a pesimist, it's the perspective of a realist. :) |
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| Suzaku |
| quote: | Originally posted by Renegade
If your happiness depends on finding someone like that, then chances are you're going to be disappointed. |
Well said, it's all about perspective. If you're constantly on the lookout waiting for that special someone, that someone might pass you by because they don't meet your expectations. |
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| trancaholic |
| quote: | Originally posted by Renegade
This isn't the perspective of a pesimist, it's the perspective of a realist. :) |
Somebody once said that a pesimist is a optimist grown wiser - I tend to agree with you Renegade. Personally I'm running at 25 and still haven't found anybody who remained interesting (or interested :)) passing the three month mark. I could sit in the corner crying my lungs out but instead I've chosen to exploit my freedom: I'm a great friend because I never have to ask for permission to go have a beer/dance/to the movies etc., I can devote lots of attention to my studies and I have the possibility to move whereever in the world that I please without worrying about my partners feelings/job situation.
I think that there's no other thing than platonic love, sexual attraction and fascination with another person. Most people I know involved in a long term relationship, are solely building it on the first part (their partner being their best friend) and they are staying in it because it's socialy safe and they're getting regular sex (well some of them do). One of my friends told me that according to her the definition of "get a life" was "get money, get a relationship and get a meaningful job" and around here a lot of people have the same criterias for a succesful life. This is the spot where it hurts me not to be engaged with somebody: You're kind of an outsider. You know: Going to everybody elses weddings with a new date, or none at all. But these situations are fortunately few and far between compared to the joys of having total freedom.
To sum up: Be happy for what you have, and be absolutely sure, when extending a relationship for more than the initial fascination, that this is what *you* really want...It could be, however, that I'm just a disillusioned grumpy old man, in which case you'd be better off ignoring my advice. |
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| Denser |
| White Rabbi ... lot of ppl here tell u things will work out and stuff..those r ppl for whom things look good...they have a bf/gf etc...but...dude...i feel for u...cos i am quite positive ... that i'll die alone too...and it doesnt bother me one bit. |
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| Lost |
| quote: | | All I'm saying is, is that if you make an effort to fall in love with someone, you're either going to be disappointed (because you don't find anyone who makes you feel the way you want to feel) or you'll deceive yourself into falling in love with just anyone. |
very well put. i've been trying to put it in those exact words for years but i'm not too concise with what i'm trying to say. you're a damn genius!
| quote: | | Personally I'm running at 25 and still haven't found anybody who remained interesting (or interested ) passing the three month mark. |
i have the same problem. it's nice to know i'm not alone. what is it about 3 months? every time. never fails. and don't worry about feeling bad. i'm 24 and it's kinda weird cuz all my friends are in stable relationships and all but i really don't care either. maybe in a few years when i feel like settling down it'll start to bother me but for now i like the freedom. i had one girl try to tell me that i couldn't go out and party anymore and she tried to get me to not play so much trance in the car and all. she started all that trouble three months into the dating thing and that was the beginning of the end for her. keep the streak alive! LOL |
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| Eugene |
| quote: | Originally posted by Lost
i had one girl try ... to get me to not play so much trance in the car ... |
Well, THAT is UNFORGIVABLE !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! :) ;) :stongue: :stongue:
Are we all agreed?? |
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