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I'm Scared (pg. 3)
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| Renegade |
| quote: | | what is it about 3 months? every time. never fails. |
lol
I'm with you Trancaholic and Lost, there's definately some sort of three month barrier there somewhere. :)
I've only been in three relationships (I'm only 18) but they have lasted for, respectively, 3 months, 3 months and 2 months. While the second one was kind of a mutual thing (very long story), with the other two I kinda reached this stage where I thought: "this person has nothing more to offer me. I've reached the point where continuing would just result in covering old ground. It gets boring from here."
And it's true though. I guess the 3 month to 1 year period would be the hardest in any relationship, simply because the thrill of the beginning of the relationship is gone, but you don't have the familiarity yet to be able to take things for granted.
| quote: | | One of my friends told me that according to her the definition of "get a life" was "get money, get a relationship and get a meaningful job" |
The problem is, the majority of society feels exactly the same way. :)
It's a fairly dangerous thing though, because these days you have people viewing money, career and relationships as an end, not a means, to happiness. And I think that's why so many people are unhappy these days: they've been taught that acheiving the above three things are a sure-fire way to acheieve happiness and success (which, in todays society, are viewed wrongly as being largely interchangable things). But the problem is, how can you possibly be happy when acheiving the first two things involves working in an office - in a vocational field that you'd rather not be in - for 15 hours a day, only to come home to the woman that you have no real feelings for, but married because you didn't want to be alone?
The problem is, though, society doesn't see this, and I don't think that society wants to see it. It is very important to society as a whole to have aims, tangible aims, for us all to aim towards, and aims that everyone must have in order to make them meaningful. For whatever reason, success in todays society is measured in the three things you mentioned above: money, career, marriage. Because it's been so drilled into us all that these are the three things that we need to acheive, we all set out to acheive them almost unconsciously. The off-shoot of this, though, is that if anyone refuses to aim towards one or all of these three things, like you said Trancaholic, you are made to feel like an outsider. Society tends to shun these sorts of people because all of a sudden, the fragile goals towards which they have dedicated their whole lives are questioned, and they begin to feel threatened. If they accept people who refuse to accept their goals and their meaning in life, then all of a sudden their life becomes meaningless, and their bucketloads of money and pretty wife all of a sudden begin to look like pretty shallow acheivements given what they have had to sacrifice in order to acheive them.
Anyways, I'm certainly not saying that finding money, a good career or a woman you care about isn't going to bring you happiness, but you just have to remember that they are the means towards happiness, not the end itself. I would certainly like to acheive these three things, but if I don't then I'm still confident that I'm strong enough to be able to cope without them. :) |
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| Phazon |
Rule #1. Dont look for love, it'll come to you
You dont wanna be in " love " at 18 bro. Its lust, not love. At your age , this is how it works from most important to least important...Sex,Communication, love...When you becoma married then it becomes...Communication, love, sex. When you've lost communication in a relationship that your fuked. |
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| Electric_Hybrid |
| Love Kinda sucks. I stopped lookin cause I been hurt too many times so I figure I will wait for it to come to me. I still go out and meet people and e but I just don't look for anything serious. If something is gonna happen it is gonna happen but don't expect too much from something you don't really know much about. I just go out with low hopes and if something comes up than I work my way up. |
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| Phazon |
The problem with guys is that we give in very easily. Kudoo's to those who dont cause thats what im tryin to be like. But we all just wanna love this beautiful girl as soon as we can get our eyes and hands on her.
The best advice i can give you is this..Dont show any emotions towards these girls. Trust me, they love being treated like cause they ALWAYS come back. Dont make it easy for them, once you've made it easy for them then thats it, they've got you and your screwed!
Just like Richard Gere said in Pretty Woman.." I cant mix my emotions with the people i do business with even if i really like them " Its so true |
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| ahyang |
Hehs
Didn't knew its hard to you guys over at U.S. there to get a girl friend too
Always thought it would be easy to get a girl friend in U.S. bcoz the girls there mostly are friendly and open-minded
Not like my country, all the girls equipped with attitude problems, only addicted to money
Even fat or ugly ones (man they suck big time!) also act expensive!
Damn, farked up country! |
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| ahyang |
| quote: | Originally posted by Phazon
The problem with guys is that we give in very easily. Kudoo's to those who dont cause thats what im tryin to be like. But we all just wanna love this beautiful girl as soon as we can get our eyes and hands on her.
The best advice i can give you is this..Dont show any emotions towards these girls. Trust me, they love being treated like cause they ALWAYS come back. Dont make it easy for them, once you've made it easy for them then thats it, they've got you and your screwed!
Just like Richard Gere said in Pretty Woman.." I cant mix my emotions with the people i do business with even if i really like them " Its so true |
Hey!
This is just so so TRUE!
Man, i got totally agree with this man....
I'm currently facing this problem now man...
Always giving in to my gf, treating nice...
and Now i'm screwed! |
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| ahyang |
| quote: | Originally posted by Eugene
Well, THAT is UNFORGIVABLE !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! :) ;) :stongue: :stongue:
Are we all agreed?? |
Hellsssss YEAH!
Life is nothing without trance! :) |
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| trancaholic |
Boy, Renegade, I must say that I'm impressed with the majority level and insight you're demonstrating considering your age.
...and, although it stinks to admit it, I really feel good that more people have problems with the obstacle at 3 months. |
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| Renegade |
Well, I must say that I'm impressed with your command over the English language considering that it probably wasn't your first :). What is it about the Dutch, the Swedes and the Danish when it comes to knowing like 5 different languages flawlessly?
Erm, I'm presuming that you were born in Denmark of course? (If you weren't then I take it all back. :D) |
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| trancaholic |
I don't know whether we're any better at languages in this part of the world (according to an unidentified girl in a London nightclub, you "can certainly hear" that I'm not English), and I actually only speak 3 (I'm considering taking Dutch-classes as well), but if it's true than maybe it's because we're small language areas and as such have a bigger enticement for learning other languages? And of course a huge part of foreign influences, be they books, movies, music etc. - are in English.
| quote: | Originally posted by trancaholic
...the majority level and insight... |
...and that should of course have been "maturity" - sweet, sweet irony :o |
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| Eugene |
haha, indeed :p ;)
Still, your English is excellent. I'm not a native English speaker myself, but English is considerably easier to learn than my native language, for example. English is not that hard to learn. |
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| Phazon |
| Me fail English? Thats unpossible |
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