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| anuneventrade |
Javier.... shame on you!!!!!!  |
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| Rodrico |
| quote: | Originally posted by Mr. Pink
i hope my gf isnt thinkin that.
ok essentially its like this:
i love her
i want to be with her
At no moment have i thought of cheating on her
At no moment have I thought that her 3 months couldnt cut it
i do not think she is cheating on me
and i know she loves me....
we both wanted this to work
Im visiting her next week (going back to puerto rico to spend time with her)
and yeah........i fuked up :(
i didnt even remember. I thought it was a dream.
I was drunk off of 5 screwdrivers (1oo proof vodka)
and some hunch punch with everclear......i dont remember drinking the everclear
thats how messed up i was
but i dont blame the alcohol...cuz im not gonna be ghey like that.
i take full responsibility, but i really dont feel like i should tell her because i dont want her to lose trust in me, cuz i wont do it again. I know i wont.
........so now what?
how do i keep a chill vibe without thinkin that i cheated on the sweetest, most beautiful woman ive ever met? |
If your too drunk to remember it, it never happened, guy code 204 section b. |
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| DjWhooCares |
Well, I have cheated on most of my girlfriends...Its something im not proud of, but something that is hard for me to stop.
One reason i cheat is because i have NOT YET met that kind of girl that i think will give me her all....MOST girls down here are NOT faithful, and i learned that the hard way. Ive been put through by girls. Many of my friends have girls that i have seen "Flirt" or have "Actually" done something with someone else. That pisses me off, you hear girls say "guys are dogs", cheaters" blah blah blah...and they are gettin worse than guys nowadays.
Im not proud of cheating, but since im hardly in a real relationship, it makes it easy for me to cheat on a girl im dating.
Its just me tho....
But Javi, you got your girl man, and cherish it man. I would most def. Give up my cheating habits for a relationship in which i can just sit down and relax and not worry about my girl either flirting or cheating. You have stated that u are positive shes not cheating on u, and IMO..thats One in a million now a days..
and as for u, u did up..but the good thing is that u saw your wrongdoing, and fessed up to it. Many guys who do that wont give a . U do, that shows alot about your character. Love conquers all, so i shouldnt worry about that incident gettin in between u and your girl.
mah 2 cents
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| Floorfiller |
whoocares...
maybe you should stop dating soroctitutes then ;)
but seriously...you just said you always cheat...so are women wrong when they say men are cheaters? in your case obviously not. and if you aren't going to be faithful you can't expect them to be. being angry when you see that kind of behavior, but then doing it yourself is complete bull. |
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| DjWhooCares |
| quote: | Originally posted by Floorfiller
whoocares...
maybe you should stop dating soroctitutes then ;)
but seriously...you just said you always cheat...so are women wrong when they say when are cheaters? in your case obviously not. and if you aren't going to be faithful you can't expect them to be. being angry when you see the behavior, but then doing it yourself is complete bull. |
I understand what your saying..i see my wrongdoin...But u see...
maybe u havent gone through what i have, and all that anger i have i put through my actions...Thats why when im start dating a girl, i remind myself of all the bad things my ex's have put me through, and i find myself cheating on her.
understand, i dont want to...i hate it..but i just find myself doing it over and over again...
im not mad that they cheat..it just pisses me off that when u open your arms to a girl, they decide to give u the horns and just u over..but like i said, it might just be me..maybe it has never happened to u...but here where i live, ITS hella hard to find a trustworthy and faithful companion/// :p :p |
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| Arbiter |
I haven't but it's pretty easy for me to gauge how I'd feel.
Emotions are basically "triggered" responses in your brain which compare something you perceive with your pre-existing beliefs and prejudices. Incompatability produces unpleasant emotional feelings, while things that reinforce your existing beliefs, desires, et cetera produce pleasant emotions.
Basically, if you think cheating is wrong, you wouldn't want to be cheated on, and you generally value your relationship as monogamous, then your emotions will detect an incompatability between one of your actions (cheating) and your beliefs (cheating is wrong). This will trigger a "feeling" of guilt.
I myself view monogamy as an agreement between two people: not as the default state of affairs. So, if I had agreed to be monogamous, then I would feel guilty. If I'd never said anything of the sort and she was just taking it for granted, then I wouldn't feel a thing. |
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| Floorfiller |
| i can see you being hurt by things that have happened in your past, but you should realize all that hurt that you felt is exactly what you are doing to every girl you're cheating on. and as long as you keep that up...you're never gonna have a meaningful relationship with anyone. maybe you don't really care and that's your business, but i'm just saying that you need to take the first step towards solving the problem. and if the price is that you get hurt again...well...i'm sorry, but that's the way things go. and like i said..maybe you are dating the wrong kind of women. just as women like those "wild crazy" frat dudes when their younger...i'm sure you like girls that probably aren't looking to take you seriously and that's why they cheat on you. if you dated a woman that isn't into getting drunk every other night and hooking up with random men...which is just about every sorority girl i've ever met...then perhaps you wouldn't have as many problems with being cheated on... |
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| mezzir |
yeah my ex did the same type of thing it sounds like mr pink did, we were awesome together and everything, and then she was at a party and got not only drunk off her ass, but drunk in general for the first time
and she ended up making out with some dude
that was a saturday night, and sunday morning she was crying so hard she couldn't make it all the way to work so she called me
and i can't say i forgave her, but its more or just saying its something she regrets, i wish never happened, and something we're both willing to forget
never came up again after that
i'd say just come clean, be honest, and i guess hope for the best |
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| Slylee |
DJ whoo cares.......
it's hard to find a trustworthy companion ANYWHERE in this world. but you can't keep punishing other girls/potential girlfriends just because you’re still bitter from other experiences. the way I see it, is that she (whoever screwed you over) is still winning and getting the best of you, because you are still so screwed up from her/them, you are letting it control your life. how lame is THAT... is she THAT important of a person to still be affecting you in such a negative way? think about it... |
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| DjWhooCares |
OK well....i see your point
but tell me how weird this is....I live right next to Mexico..15 across the border. I go to the clubs down there every once in a while. I see 14-15 yr old girls PARTYING in what is supposed to be an 18+ event.(thing is u cant tell age) So u see, girls in my city start early..they are exposed to things u would usually see a 18+ college student go through. So they start on dating early, and they start treating guys like , cheatin and what not...Like u said, most sorority girls u know are jumpin from guy to guy..thats how the girls are down here (most of em). Yes there are many true ones, and faithful ones, but they are not necessarily "THE" type that you'd like. So i find myself cheating hoping to find someone im interested in and vice versa...
which I HATE DOING...no i dont em..im no whore...
but still...hope u get what i mean... |
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| DjWhooCares |
| quote: | Originally posted by Slylee
DJ whoo cares.......
is she THAT important of a person to still be affecting you in such a negative way? think about it... |
I have, and many of my friends have talked to me about..Im over them, just the fact that i was once "Wide Open" in arms, and stuff, and i still got ed over..Still haunts me i guess...
its not like if everygirl im with finds out about me cheatin and ...they never find out.:wtf: :wtf: :wtf: ...I know i need to stop and ..it IS LAME..
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but thanks for your replies...
i hope this doesnt make me into an outcast...:nervous: :nervous: |
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| N|te-L|fe |
| quote: | Originally posted by Mr. Pink
....but it must be asked!!!
Im curious.
Have any of you ever cheated on your girlfriend?
how did you feel after? etc...
give me the low-down ;) |
so how does it feel to cheat on your girlfriend?:stongue:
I always tought if your thinking of cheating on your GF, its cause your not totally ready to commit, so youd better dump her and be free then play games and take the risk of hurting her... |
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