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Ok, my girlfriend has a girlfriend (pg. 3)
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| Lira |
Shadowolf's tune has a point.
I've got a classmate at uni who is a bi, and she was telling me why she now fancies girls: she didn't feel loved by the blokes she had been with. She was with some jaded womaniser whose concept of relationship was "I give you popcorn, you let me bang you". One day, a friend of hers (who is a lesbian) showed her a letter her girlfriend wrote. My classmate was touched, thinking no lad would ever write such things to her.
As Frost_Melt said, it feels like she isn't giving herself 100% in this relationship, whereas you were (or you believed you were). If you were into it because of the relationship, talk to her, ask why she's got a girlfriend and then choose what you feel better for you. |
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| placebo |
| quote: | Originally posted by ShadoWolf
isn't that based on a song?
REEL BIG FISH LYRICS
"She Has A Girlfriend Now"
she has a girlfriend now
she has a girlfriend now
she has a girlfriend now, she said
"guys don't do no more for me"
"you never loved me, like i wanted you to"
"i loved you baby, what do you want me to do?"
she said she found someone who's gonna hold her hand
she said she found someone who's gonna understand
she don't need nobody to be her man
she don't need nobody to be her man
i never thought it would end like this
just because i've got no
i'll shave my legs,
i'll wear a bra
i'll even cut my &%#!$
off for you...
she has a
girlfriend
now. |
hahahahahahahahaha
REEL BIG FISH PWNAGE BAYB!111 w00t!111oneeleventeentrillion |
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| Floorfiller |
| quote: | Originally posted by Gordy
ok at first it sounded like this was going to be cool, but why did it end up being so wierd now? |
because her girlfriend can please her better than you :eek: |
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| DjSimonB |
I agree with the others.
Talk one of your mates into pretending he's your boyfriend. Go up to your gf and say 'hey guess what, I've got a boyfriend now" and see how she reacts. Or just get a new girlfriend. The way I see it she's with someone else, if you're the kind of guy who wants a girl to himself (and that's fair play, why not) then you might as well call it cheating.
Of course, by all means you should try and blag a threesome before you do that, assuming her GF is hot :) |
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| Slylee |
| quote: | Originally posted by Arbiter
You're probably a possessive person. Don't feel bad, you sure aren't the only one: I call it insecurity. |
well no . you can't make the assumption that he's an overall insecure person because he's a little disturbed/confused about sharing his girlfriend...that's ridiculous. anyone in their right mind who cares for and loves their gf/bf would have a problem with it, simple as that. if you don't care and you're all for it, then you don't have any feelings for him/her other than physical attraction. |
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| tu_face |
my girlfriend is bi, but we don't share each other with anyone else. i would go spare if i found out she was doing anyone else but me, regardless of whether they are male or female. i guess that does depend on what you are actually looking for. if you are looking for a serious relationship that is going to work, her having a girlfriend on the side is going to get in the way.
decide what you want, and go for it. if you are happy to share her with someone else (i.e. you are not that bothered about the serious relationship) then let her do it, and ask to join in :p if not, tell her, and let her reaction decide what will happen with the relationship. |
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| jcosgrove |
| quote: | Originally posted by Slylee
well no . you can't make the assumption that he's an overall insecure person because he's a little disturbed/confused about sharing his girlfriend...that's ridiculous. anyone in their right mind who cares for and loves their gf/bf would have a problem with it, simple as that. if you don't care and you're all for it, then you don't have any feelings for him/her other than physical attraction. |
well said ! |
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| Arbiter |
| quote: | Originally posted by Slylee
well no . you can't make the assumption that he's an overall insecure person because he's a little disturbed/confused about sharing his girlfriend...that's ridiculous. |
I can't? I just did. If you think it's ridiculous, why don't you posit a more plausible hypothesis for his clearly irrational feelings?
| quote: | | anyone in their right mind who cares for and loves their gf/bf would have a problem with it, simple as that. if you don't care and you're all for it, then you don't have any feelings for him/her other than physical attraction. |
Nonsense. Your significant other isn't a piece of your property, they're a totally seperate human being free to make their own choices about what to do with their lives. If you genuinely care about them, then you'll respect their freedom instead of trying to tie them down with commitments and restrictions just to satiate your own jealous insecurity. If you genuinely loved them, you'd wish them well in their quest for physical pleasure - regardless of the source - not try to restrict their options for your own selfish reasons.
It's always the companies offering the worst services which demand to operate with a monopoly. They know they can't meet the standard of the competition. In love, it is no different. Monogamy is a monopoly and it is little more than a cover-up of one's own inadequacy. |
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| dj tek |
| quote: | Originally posted by placebo
To get revenge, you should get a boyfriend. |
:haha: |
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| Slylee |
| sure honey, go screw anyting that walks in your quest for physical pleasure...don't forget to double up on the rubbers so you don't get infested with every STD known to mankind. i just want you to be happy. |
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| Deep88 |
interesting situation man!
Thinking about it, if I had a girlfriend with a girlfriend i don't think i'd have anything against it at all. I'm not talking about cause then perhaps i could join in... i mean i really dont think i'd mind, well only if she dumped me for her ofcause |
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| Lira |
| quote: | Originally posted by Slylee
sure honey, go screw anyting that walks in your quest for physical pleasure...don't forget to double up on the rubbers so you don't get infested with every STD known to mankind. i just want you to be happy. |
Well, I understand where you're coming from, and I also give Arbite credit.
You're right when it comes to commitment because, if the two people in the relationship dedicate themselves entirely for that particular relationship, it'll be better for everyone - not to mention that this part was somewhat implicit when they became "boyfriend" and "girlfriend": if you need someone else in the relationship, that's probably because something in the relationship doesn't suffice for one of the members, so it should be analised.
On the other hand, Arbiter's also right when it comes to respect: the other person doesn't belong to you. I love my girlfriend, for example, and I'm aware of the fact that I can't put her in a glass dome - if I were doing so, I would just show how insecure I am about the stability of the relationship and her capacity of judgement.
That's as brief as I can be about it - if I were to talk more about it, I'd spend a lot of time typing, but I've got to work. Hope this could help the situation. |
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