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| töbias |
Yeah, there is no way I would tell her what you intend to.
I read a book by a stockbroker once and what it said was something like this "instead of coming up with your own tips and ideas, just find someone that is doing really badly, and do the exact opposite".
So when in a situation where I have ed up somehow with a girl, either she doesn't like me, or is pissed off at me, or things are not going well, I think what my normal inclination is.
Usually its something like, be really really nice, buy her a present, get into a deep and meaningful conversation and open my heart up. But whatever I have been doing has not worked so its time to:
Do the exact opposite.
So in this case its something along the lines of, not getting into a serious conversation, not being over nice or friendly, not buying presents or gifts, not saying at all how I feel.
You wouldn't believe how many times this has worked for me... |
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| Omega_Blue |
| quote: | Originally posted by töbias
Yeah, there is no way I would tell her what you intend to.
I read a book by a stockbroker once and what it said was something like this "instead of coming up with your own tips and ideas, just find someone that is doing really badly, and do the exact opposite".
So when in a situation where I have ed up somehow with a girl, either she doesn't like me, or is pissed off at me, or things are not going well, I think what my normal inclination is.
Usually its something like, be really really nice, buy her a present, get into a deep and meaningful conversation and open my heart up. But whatever I have been doing has not worked so its time to:
Do the exact opposite.
So in this case its something along the lines of, not getting into a serious conversation, not being over nice or friendly, not buying presents or gifts, not saying at all how I feel.
You wouldn't believe how many times this has worked for me... |
...sad, but true. "nice guys finish last," right? maybe I'm just jaded. |
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| Spacey Orange |
| quote: | Originally posted by -=M=-
man - i can't even think about any other girl
what am i supposed to do? sit at home and screw my hand every day until she tells me that she and her boyfriend had an argument which i somehow doubt is going to happen???
something needs to be done for me to get over this girl - and talking to her and seeing her is certainly NOT helping |
stop talking to and seeing her. it will be hard at first but the situation is f'd up; she's has b-f. that all you have to say. she's not available.
yes, it will hurt and you'll have many 'what if's', but over time it will get easier. you may get stronger over time and develop better relationship skills.
u never know but you may hook up with her in the future when she's single and you can control your feelings a little better. beleive me, it happens sometimes. (its happened to me before several times. the sitution looked hopeless, i walked away, i hooked up later, and walked away again after i lost interest.:D) all hope is not lost, but right now its a losing situtation. |
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| Shudder |
| quote: | Originally posted by -=M=-
yeah true - however the whole *possibility* factor is still there
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no do not think like this. you are only thinking this way because you are still 'in love' with her and hope that she will come back to you. i say forget it because like the others said she's already said no to you but in her own way. theres tonnes of women out there so stop focusing on her like shes the only one in the whole world thats important. once women see that you are too obvious they tend not to be interested at all. so i say either stay friends but act like you're not interested in anyway or cut off all forms of connection no matter how close you are. sometimes its gotta be done |
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| töbias |
| quote: | Originally posted by Omega_Blue
...sad, but true. "nice guys finish last," right? maybe I'm just jaded. |
The natural inclination seems to be to be extremely nice and get all soppy, its just that it has not worked for me personally when in this situation... |
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| -=M=- |
| quote: | Originally posted by Orbax
Maybe shell realize how cool you are when you stop being her bitch and stop listening to her problems. So far it sounds like, except for giving you erections, she does more harm than good in your life.
Cut her off until she begins fulfilling something for you. It may be never. It sucks. Women suck. Relationships suck. its hard and not fun. Shell call you in two months after youve forgotten about her. |
doing nothing for me??? i've done next to nothing for this girl and she got me and 20 of my friends into see Johan Geilen on monday night for free!!! |
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| chavs |
| quote: | Originally posted by Omega_Blue
...and i'm sure most of us guys have all been through a similar situation like this before. you get over it. you may think she's perfect but come on, being hopeful for something that will probably not happen (you ing her) is just self-agonization. realize that all you really want, subconsciously or not, is her crotch, and move on to a different one (crotch, that is.) you coming on the boards and crying about it (not meant to be rude here) is just agonizing yourself. you'll help yourself in the end by moving on (and thus no longer crying about it). the sooner, the better. |
+1
I have been in this situation some years ago (like 6 years... I'm feeling old while writing it), and what I do was: I kissed her when she was drunk (and so was I), then I got pissed and left the party. Next day I started going out with other girls, and I forgot her in little time. It worked like a charm. So you have to see other girls and you'll fall in love with other one. |
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| CATHAIN |
dont try and make her break up with her current b/f. Imagine if you were going out with her and some guy was trying to make her break with you?
Bad buzz so just get on with it :whip: |
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| dj_bas |
| im not even going to bother reading this thread im just gonna post my response because this EXACT thing happened to me. im not kidding, i told her how i feel and she told me she felt the same way except....EXCEPT?!!? except what?! except she didn't wanna leave her "sometimes boyfriend" in ing illinois (we live in California). anyway the only thing i can suggest is staying away from her, i spent a good year with this girl, being her friend hanging out etc... all the while having these feelings for her. well anyway long story short i madea a decision either we're gonna be together or i don't even wanna be around her (too hard). so yeah i haven't seen/talked to her in about 2-3months and i tell ya i feel waaaaayyy better. |
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| bobba lou |
| quote: | Originally posted by dj_bas
im not even going to bother reading this thread im just gonna post my response because this EXACT thing happened to me. im not kidding, i told her how i feel and she told me she felt the same way except....EXCEPT?!!? except what?! except she didn't wanna leave her "sometimes boyfriend" in ing illinois (we live in California). anyway the only thing i can suggest is staying away from her, i spent a good year with this girl, being her friend hanging out etc... all the while having these feelings for her. well anyway long story short i madea a decision either we're gonna be together or i don't even wanna be around her (too hard). so yeah i haven't seen/talked to her in about 2-3months and i tell ya i feel waaaaayyy better. |
Good move man. She probably likes to be treated like .
but the author of this thread needs to grow a pair and follow the same steps. |
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| Xenocreator_PG_ |
| quote: | Originally posted by -=M=-
doing nothing for me??? i've done next to nothing for this girl and she got me and 20 of my friends into see Johan Geilen on monday night for free!!! |
yerr sit next to her & give some of teh ole fing3r acti0n!
Call h3r up & tell her how much you want to bang h3r. Love is war & at the moment your letting your army down. Your cannon is ready for action & you are gonna pull out of the battle!!???!? makes no sense. Toughen up soldier!!! |
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| MOSCHINO |
Dude,
If you ever need to wait till she break up with her guy so you can date her...STOP RIGHT THERE and MOVE ON. If she didn't go out with you when you asked her she prolly didn't like you enough and simply lied about her ex so you don't feel bad.
Anyways, never wait for them to come back to you after some guy. It's possible but not worth it. |
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