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| samiotis |
| shes done the same to me, i couldnt even go out with my friends without having her calling me all night, and her thinking i was cheating on her, she was the same with her ex boyfriend and she'll always be like that |
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| malek |
there's no or almost no privacy in serious couples.
I give my email passwords to my fiancee so she can check at will, and I do have her passwords or can request them.
we barely ever check the others' emails. |
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| trancebrat |
| quote: | Originally posted by malek
replace her name by "do not answer" |
That's exactly what I did. People have even asked me why I have left people's numbers in my phone. Simple...I wouldn't want to answer if certain people called so it helps to have their names in there (or other names for them :p) so that I don't accidentally answer their call. Thankfully I haven't had that problem in a while. |
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| UWM |
| Don't check the lettar!!!1one |
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| ShadoWolf |
| quote: | Originally posted by samiotis
try to check you ex's e-mail?
even though i dont know her pass i'd love to check it, because i know she's been talking to this guy she met. even before we broke up. |
Yes it's wrong.
It seems that you two have serious trust issues. |
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| lücid |
| quote: | Originally posted by malek
there's no or almost no privacy in serious couples.
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i beg to differ. i am in a serious relationship and my bf and i both respect each others' privacy. he doesn't check my phone, email, etc... and vice versa. i won't even bother to check his phone if it's ringing and he is asleep in the other room unless he asks me to. it's not always about respect, but i believe if you're in a serious relationship, even if you have access to check someone's phone/email/whatever, you shouldn't. it just shows you don't trust them.
my ex used to check my call log on my cell phone, email, AIM, computer files, posts on message boards, etc... i couldn't stand it because it just showed how insecure he was and how little trust he had for me.
there's a difference between being comfortable enough to give your passwords to your significant other, and violating someone's privacy. |
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| ShadoWolf |
| quote: | Originally posted by malek
there's no or almost no privacy in serious couples.
I give my email passwords to my fiancee so she can check at will, and I do have her passwords or can request them.
we barely ever check the others' emails. |
Arab stereotype :stongue: :stongue: |
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| UWM |
| quote: | Originally posted by lücid
i believe if you're in a serious relationship, even if you have access to check someone's phone/email/whatever, you shouldn't. it just shows you don't trust them.
there's a difference between being comfortable enough to give your passwords to your significant other, and violating someone's privacy. |
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| Lephaid |
| me and my boyfriend know all our passwords and everything, but we never pry into eachothers lives because we respect our privacy. |
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| Halcyon+On+On |
| There's obviously going to be some differences between people who have ben together for a longer period of time. As their lives coalesce, 'his' things and 'her' things have a tendency of becoming 'our' things - you will only ever reach this point if you can trust someone for a long period of time, possibly even forever. It's all about intention: if you are searchign through 'her' things or even 'our' things with thoughts of mistrust or jealousy, it probably doesn't feel very good - it shouldn't. |
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| AwakenedAddict |
Don't steal teh lettar... but I guess you already did. Seriously man, just forget her no use in getting your panties in a bundle :rolleyes:
btw, halycon+on+on, nice bebop avatar ;) |
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| samiotis |
| the reason why its tougher for me is because im in a wheelchair chances of me finding another girl is slim to none, im not trying to say that i was using her because thats all i could get,i wasnt everyone knew we belonged together, it just didnt work out. i depend on my friends to take me out so i can meet new people and theyre always busy. its hard for me to get over her because all i do is sit at home and listen to music, only time i leave is when im doing therapy and stuff like that. i did love her alot and she says she loves me too but i dont know what to believe anymore. we were together for a good 5 months and been having sex on and off before my accident for a few years while she was with her ex |
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