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The official nice guys thread (pg. 14)
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| Jayx1 |
| quote: | Originally posted by LittlePoonzgirl
I like nice guys, just not doormats. People really should be who they are and that includes not acting like an ass just to get the girl, or letting girls walk all over you for the hopes of getting noticed. Be who you are and someone out there will love you:)
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exactly |
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| Jayx1 |
| quote: | Originally posted by Cal
A nice guy is someone who is corteous(sp?) to girls, someone who laughs at their jokes, gives them a break, makes their lives easier by being ready to do anything in his power if they ask him, does the flowers/dinners/gifts shtick, councils them on their problems, and just treats them like a gentleman.
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No thats a doormat.
A nice guy treats people with respect, doesnt play the mind games that girls want them to play, and generally makes people feel good about themselves.
That is a nice guy.
That doesnt mean he has to put up with bull. But there should be a line that should have to be crossed before you turn on the aggressive side.
Again, being a laid back and generally good natured person is pretty much associated with being a pushover or a wuss. What i am saying is that it's not so. |
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| DigiNut |
^ That may be how YOU define a "nice guy", and I'd imagine that's what women really mean most of the time when they say they like nice guys, but when people say "nice guys finish last" or "they always fall for the s and ignore the nice guys", they are usually using the definition that Cal posted.
| quote: | Originally posted by disko-kandi
...i also had a nice sandwich this morning! :D |
And that would be a prime example of grammatically incorrect use of the wordthat has weaselled its way into common use, sort of like impact being used as a verb.
If you're going to nit pick, at least be correct. ;) |
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| TheVrk |
| quote: | Originally posted by LittlePoonzgirl
Be who you are and someone out there will love you:) |
This is ALL u need to know;) :D |
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| richard raiban |
| quote: | Originally posted by DigiNut
And that would be a prime example of grammatically incorrect use of the wordthat has weaselled its way into common use, sort of like impact being used as a verb.
If you're going to nit pick, at least be correct. ;) |
diginut, be NICE :whip: |
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| DC- |
| quote: | Originally posted by Jayx1
No thats a doormat.
A nice guy treats people with respect, doesnt play the mind games that girls want them to play, and generally makes people feel good about themselves.
That is a nice guy.
That doesnt mean he has to put up with bull. But there should be a line that should have to be crossed before you turn on the aggressive side.
Again, being a laid back and generally good natured person is pretty much associated with being a pushover or a wuss. What i am saying is that it's not so. |
That should be how 'nice guys' are portrayed, but unfortunately it's not. What Cal posted is a more 'mainstream' definition of the term.
All that really matters is that YOU know which of the two you are, everyone else. |
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| disko-kandi |
| quote: | Originally posted by DigiNut
And that would be a prime example of grammatically incorrect use of the wordthat has weaselled its way into common use, sort of like impact being used as a verb.
If you're going to nit pick, at least be correct. ;) |
aaaw you're such a NICE guy, digi! :toothless
thanks for taking the time to correct my grammar mistake, which is, - BTW - by way of an example, part of my argument and hence 'legit' in this case. that's exactly the point i'm trying to prove since the term 'nice' can be & is being used for anything and anybody in our every day language B/C there seems to be a misunderstanding/ misconception by both genders of what it actually means for a guy to be NICE. ;)
oh yea...and one last thought: there's different degrees of 'nice-ness'. overbearing nice-ness makes me wanna barf; it's too much. i have to start thinking about the 'second agenda' and the return-of-favour-expectations.
being nice means being genuine!
know yourself & respect yourself then being nice is not such a hard thing to do & to receive! |
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| Cal |
| quote: | Originally posted by Jayx1
No thats a doormat.
A nice guy treats people with respect, doesnt play the mind games that girls want them to play, and generally makes people feel good about themselves.
That is a nice guy.
That doesnt mean he has to put up with bull. But there should be a line that should have to be crossed before you turn on the aggressive side.
Again, being a laid back and generally good natured person is pretty much associated with being a pushover or a wuss. What i am saying is that it's not so. |
Oh ok now were getting somewhere, its finally clear what a nice guy means for us.
Your definition of "nice guy" is pretty close to my definition of man," which is what every guy that wants to get with the ladies should strive to be. But I'll leave you with this:
1. DOMINANCE
2. CONFIDENCE
3. HUMOUR
4. LOOKS
These four traits determine how you affect the ladies.
Score low in the top three, and you're just not as interesting to the girl.
So when you "respect" the girl by asking what she wants to do for your date, you dip in your dominance and confidence levels in her eyes, and she thinks less of you.
When you "respect" her feelings and try to work them out with her, you again score low, and she starts thinking of you more like a girlfriend of hers than a potential mate.
Just a couple of thoughts to maybe think about what "respect" is, and what things are needed to be done to "make her feel good." |
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| The Highroller |
| quote: | Originally posted by richard raiban
diginut, be NICE :whip: |
Raiban to the rescue!
:toothless |
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| DigiNut |
| quote: | Originally posted by richard raiban
diginut, be NICE :whip: |
Define nice. |
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| TheVrk |
| quote: | Originally posted by DigiNut
Define nice. |
To me? All it means is treating someone with RESPECT;) :p |
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| DJ El Kay Dee |
| quote: | Originally posted by DigiNut
Define nice. |
nice is teh exterior display of somethign u (in most cases) dont really mean...
her: "I think i put on some weight...is my bum fat?"
him: "no its just right, always turns me on.."
thats nice...
this is being better than nice:
her: "I think i put on some weight...is my bum fat?"
him:"no sherlock...stop stuffing ur face" |
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