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virginity (pg. 5)
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| DarkAngel |
| quote: | Originally posted by Theresa
What is so funny?
vrahnos:
So you're saying that if you aren't going around ing random people that you have no interest in, you have psychological problems? That has zero logic in it.
Sex was originally meant to be shared with someone that you loved. It was an extention of those feelings. You became intimate with the person you had romantically connected with. This is even scientifically proven. When two people engage in sexual activity, chemicals are released in the brain and a sense of attachment is developed. That is just science... search it n00b.
Anyway, some people still respect that premise, and instead of giving into their raw desires, they want to keep sex as something somewhat special and meaningful. To AT LEAST share it with someone they care about.
I would have still been a virgin had I not fallen in love with my ex. Since he and I have been seperated, I have had innumerous amounts of opportunity to get laid, and I'll admit, I like sex... I would have loved to get some action. But I didn't. I don't just offer myself, my body, my trust, my respect to just any shmoe.
If that means I have psychological problems, well so be it. I personally think people who feel the need to have sex with any alive species that crosses their path has issues. Perhaps a sense of needing to feel loved, or accepted?
Either way, I stand by what I say. I think it is very admirable that people have a strong enough character to go against what society feeds them consistently; that sex with anyone, anywhere is ok. |
And this is why Theresa gets my vote for most Mature TA. |
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| ::TranceVanDyk:: |
| quote: | Originally posted by Theresa
What is so funny?
vrahnos:
So you're saying that if you aren't going around ing random people that you have no interest in, you have psychological problems? That has zero logic in it.
Sex was originally meant to be shared with someone that you loved. It was an extention of those feelings. You became intimate with the person you had romantically connected with. This is even scientifically proven. When two people engage in sexual activity, chemicals are released in the brain and a sense of attachment is developed. That is just science... search it n00b.
Anyway, some people still respect that premise, and instead of giving into their raw desires, they want to keep sex as something somewhat special and meaningful. To AT LEAST share it with someone they care about.
I would have still been a virgin had I not fallen in love with my ex. Since he and I have been seperated, I have had innumerous amounts of opportunity to get laid, and I'll admit, I like sex... I would have loved to get some action. But I didn't. I don't just offer myself, my body, my trust, my respect to just any shmoe.
If that means I have psychological problems, well so be it. I personally think people who feel the need to have sex with any alive species that crosses their path has issues. Perhaps a sense of needing to feel loved, or accepted?
Either way, I stand by what I say. I think it is very admirable that people have a strong enough character to go against what society feeds them consistently; that sex with anyone, anywhere is ok. |
AGREED, thank you teresa |
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| vrahnos |
| quote: | Originally posted by Theresa
So you're saying that if you aren't going around ing random people that you have no interest in, you have psychological problems? That has zero logic in it.
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i'm saying that if someone is 18-20+ and is still a virgin probably there's something wrong with him/her.
and if there is not something wrong, it will happen in the future, lack of sex causes serious problems :wtf:
| quote: | | Sex was originally meant to be shared with someone that you loved. It was an extention of those feelings. You became intimate with the person you had romantically connected with. This is even scientifically proven. When two people engage in sexual activity, chemicals are released in the brain and a sense of attachment is developed. That is just science... search it n00b. |
yeah i know what you mean, one time i was in love with a girl (and probably i'm still) and the sex was better with her, not like she was master in the bed, she was average....i was looking at her and i was "getting hard", not like he was a supermodel, she was average.....but we had chemistry...
i never found that feeling again
now i just like to :wtf: |
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| ::TranceVanDyk:: |
| quote: | Originally posted by vrahnos
i'm saying that if someone is 18-20+ and is still a virgin probably there's something wrong with him/her.
and if there is not something wrong, it will happen in the future, lack of sex causes serious problems :wtf:
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it does? actually, i lack the drama and problems some of my sexually active friends have.
two monthes ago, i hosted a little party at my house. turned it into a pretty nice party. underground breaks, house, and trance, laser lights, strobes, glowsticks and a 3 or 4 people strutting what they got (only two had any skill whatsoever). but yea, at its peak had around 20 people over. two of my friends hadnt met each other but, they totally had the hots for each other. my buddy gus and my best friend lindsay. i told gus to give her a lap dance, and she totally bit. i knew they would hit it off later.
so around 3-4, everything was winding down, and some people were going to be staying over. they asked for some vaseline, and i was pretty wasted, so i gave it to them without even thinking about what they were going to use it for. i through out a bunch of blankets, futons and an air mattress then passed out in my own bed. i had work the next morning so i told everyone to wake up at 8am.
turns out my living became an orgy as 4 people had sex at the same time in there, with two other people sitting there watching or listening, and probably thinking, wtf?
then two days later, i find out that the condom had broke. and they both were freaking out. so i skipped school for one day to take my best friend lindsay to the family planning center to get the morning-after pill. just in time, before the 72 hour deadline. she was fine after that.
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and another best friend is pregnant as we speak, at 18 years old. she no longer can smoke or drink or party much. its going to be damn hard going to college and having any fun that your supposed to have when your young.
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its like this is the reason that ive just decided to not even around with sex until i have a wife, and then i wouldnt have to worry about having a child or getting an std. and itd be fulfilling sex. i wouldnt need to have a new partner everytime if it was fulfilling. |
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| vrahnos |
| quote: | Originally posted by ::TranceVanDyk::
it does? actually, i lack the drama and problems some of my sexually active friends have.
two monthes ago, i hosted a little party at my house. turned it into a pretty nice party. underground breaks, house, and trance, laser lights, strobes, glowsticks and a 3 or 4 people strutting what they got (only two had any skill whatsoever). but yea, at its peak had around 20 people over. two of my friends hadnt met each other but, they totally had the hots for each other. my buddy gus and my best friend lindsay. i told gus to give her a lap dance, and she totally bit. i knew they would hit it off later.
so around 3-4, everything was winding down, and some people were going to be staying over. they asked for some vaseline, and i was pretty wasted, so i gave it to them without even thinking about what they were going to use it for. i through out a bunch of blankets, futons and an air mattress then passed out in my own bed. i had work the next morning so i told everyone to wake up at 8am.
turns out my living became an orgy as 4 people had sex at the same time in there, with two other people sitting there watching or listening, and probably thinking, wtf?
then two days later, i find out that the condom had broke. and they both were freaking out. so i skipped school for one day to take my best friend lindsay to the family planning center to get the morning-after pill. just in time, before the 72 hour deadline. she was fine after that.
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and another best friend is pregnant as we speak, at 18 years old. she no longer can smoke or drink or party much. its going to be damn hard going to college and having any fun that your supposed to have when your young.
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its like this is the reason that ive just decided to not even around with sex until i have a wife, and then i wouldnt have to worry about having a child or getting an std. and itd be fulfilling sex. i wouldnt need to have a new partner everytime if it was fulfilling. |
been there, done that....
i take extra precautions, i'm not putting my ep3n0r in every hole i see in my way.
the condom broke (in duo's) for me too one time...i paid for an abortion, i didnt like that, i felt bad...but we were to young to have a child.
another time, when i was in the army, after 2 months without seeing a woman :wtf: i had a week off, i went to a club and i hited the first woman i saw in front of me, i was SOOO horny and we had sex without a condom....after that i was sitting on fire for six months, after six months i went for std tests, i was clean, i was lucky.
anyway
abstinence isnt a solution.
sex is good, life is a risk and its a too in short risk...
edit: yeah i know that my english suck! :o |
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| prolikewhoa |
| quote: | Originally posted by ::TranceVanDyk::
it does? actually, i lack the drama and problems some of my sexually active friends have.
two monthes ago, i hosted a little party at my house. turned it into a pretty nice party. underground breaks, house, and trance, laser lights, strobes, glowsticks and a 3 or 4 people strutting what they got (only two had any skill whatsoever). but yea, at its peak had around 20 people over. two of my friends hadnt met each other but, they totally had the hots for each other. my buddy gus and my best friend lindsay. i told gus to give her a lap dance, and she totally bit. i knew they would hit it off later.
so around 3-4, everything was winding down, and some people were going to be staying over. they asked for some vaseline, and i was pretty wasted, so i gave it to them without even thinking about what they were going to use it for. i through out a bunch of blankets, futons and an air mattress then passed out in my own bed. i had work the next morning so i told everyone to wake up at 8am.
turns out my living became an orgy as 4 people had sex at the same time in there, with two other people sitting there watching or listening, and probably thinking, wtf?
then two days later, i find out that the condom had broke. and they both were freaking out. so i skipped school for one day to take my best friend lindsay to the family planning center to get the morning-after pill. just in time, before the 72 hour deadline. she was fine after that.
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and another best friend is pregnant as we speak, at 18 years old. she no longer can smoke or drink or party much. its going to be damn hard going to college and having any fun that your supposed to have when your young.
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its like this is the reason that ive just decided to not even around with sex until i have a wife, and then i wouldnt have to worry about having a child or getting an std. and itd be fulfilling sex. i wouldnt need to have a new partner everytime if it was fulfilling. |
yeah i ran into one of my friends from junior high and she was 7 months pregnant. it's hard to see your friends go through stuff like that. people aren't careful enough with their bodies. :( |
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| Mr. Pink |
I will take it upon myself to rid this world of all virgins....
.....cept fatties. I hate fatties :nervous: |
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| Dirtbag Magee |
| quote: | Originally posted by Theresa
What is so funny?
vrahnos:
So you're saying that if you aren't going around ing random people that you have no interest in, you have psychological problems? That has zero logic in it.
Sex was originally meant to be shared with someone that you loved. It was an extention of those feelings. You became intimate with the person you had romantically connected with. This is even scientifically proven. When two people engage in sexual activity, chemicals are released in the brain and a sense of attachment is developed. That is just science... search it n00b.
Anyway, some people still respect that premise, and instead of giving into their raw desires, they want to keep sex as something somewhat special and meaningful. To AT LEAST share it with someone they care about.
I would have still been a virgin had I not fallen in love with my ex. Since he and I have been seperated, I have had innumerous amounts of opportunity to get laid, and I'll admit, I like sex... I would have loved to get some action. But I didn't. I don't just offer myself, my body, my trust, my respect to just any shmoe.
If that means I have psychological problems, well so be it. I personally think people who feel the need to have sex with any alive species that crosses their path has issues. Perhaps a sense of needing to feel loved, or accepted?
Either way, I stand by what I say. I think it is very admirable that people have a strong enough character to go against what society feeds them consistently; that sex with anyone, anywhere is ok. |
hey Yo listen. yah to a woman virginity might be a special thing. but to men its just a barrier getting in the way of manhood. and when you say sex was origannaly ment to be shared with someone you loved thats bullsh*t sex was never ment to be with someone you loved, its a way to procreate. men dump their loads in as many women as possible to carrie on there seed and women are supposed to have sex with as many males as it takes to get pragnet. im not saying sex with someone you love isnt great and a hole lot better than with someone you dont know, but love is not a nicessity. and hey if you want to stay a virgin thats cool but be a sport and take one up the pooper for us. |
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| Arbiter |
| quote: | Originally posted by Theresa
So you're saying that if you aren't going around ing random people that you have no interest in, you have psychological problems? That has zero logic in it.
Sex was originally meant to be shared with someone that you loved. It was an extention of those feelings. You became intimate with the person you had romantically connected with. This is even scientifically proven. When two people engage in sexual activity, chemicals are released in the brain and a sense of attachment is developed. That is just science... search it n00b.
Anyway, some people still respect that premise, and instead of giving into their raw desires, they want to keep sex as something somewhat special and meaningful. To AT LEAST share it with someone they care about.
I would have still been a virgin had I not fallen in love with my ex. Since he and I have been seperated, I have had innumerous amounts of opportunity to get laid, and I'll admit, I like sex... I would have loved to get some action. But I didn't. I don't just offer myself, my body, my trust, my respect to just any shmoe.
If that means I have psychological problems, well so be it. I personally think people who feel the need to have sex with any alive species that crosses their path has issues. Perhaps a sense of needing to feel loved, or accepted?
Either way, I stand by what I say. I think it is very admirable that people have a strong enough character to go against what society feeds them consistently; that sex with anyone, anywhere is ok. |
I wouldn't say that virgins have psychological problems (at least not any more than the average person heh), but it strikes me as a strange assertion that "sex was originally meant to be shared with someone that you loved." I can think of no better measure of what sex was "meant to be" than our most raw and basic desires - our instincts. It is the abnegation of genuine strength of will to be at odds with one's instincts, for they are our will's purest manifestation. |
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| Slylee |
i'm somewhat with theresa but i also think that it's different for men than women (well the majority of men). my libido is off the charts, but i never really got into the whole random sexual thing and just hooking up with guys i met out at clubs and such. i'm sure it's due to the fact that i am an extremely emotionally deep and sensitive person and my feelings are always very intense. i like that really intense bond when i'm involved with someone. you know that "it's just us in our little love bubble everyone else" thing:D it's bittersweet.
i have to be really mentally stimulated by a guy...sex for me has absolutely nothing to do with looks...i've been with a lot of "average" looking guys who weren't like perfectly chiseled stud muffins, but they were god's gift to women in my eyes because i just knew them and their personality blew me away...that's the sexiest thing ever for me.
i've hung out with chicks who would see that typical playboy at the bar dressed to kill (and obviously sure of himself) and would be like, "oh man he's so hot, i would love to him" or something to that effect, and i would just be stumped, like, "hmm ok". never could relate to that.
im not saying i'm this perfect angel either who never hooked up with a guy i wasn't officially involved with...i've definitely done that a few times, but i always had to fake the orgasm and then usually quit calling them because their personality did nothing for me, and neither did the sex.
i can't casually date either and know (or have the feeling) that the guy is dating 2 or 3 other women and possibly (most likely) screwing them too. i guess i'm a big attention whore (NO! haha) and i like them to be all about me. but trust me, i give that same exact respect and attention in return if i really like him. i'm a hopeless romantic and treat my men like kings as long as i am happy too. if i feel neglected, i'm prone to stray for attention or dump him and find a guy who will appreciate me more, because i deserve it. i'm a damn good girlfriend if i don't say so myself:D |
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| trance_shaft |
"Trance, clubbing, writing, DJ in training."
Maugham, Yeats, Keats, Joyce, Elliot....move over
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| ::TranceVanDyk:: |
| quote: | Originally posted by Arbiter
I wouldn't say that virgins have psychological problems (at least not any more than the average person heh), but it strikes me as a strange assertion that "sex was originally meant to be shared with someone that you loved." I can think of no better measure of what sex was "meant to be" than our most raw and basic desires - our instincts. It is the abnegation of genuine strength of will to be at odds with one's instincts, for they are our will's purest manifestation. |
if we all followed our instincts, this world would fall apart into chaos. "i felt like killing the guy. he pissed me off, so i put one between the eyes."
"i thought she was hot, so i raped the out of her."
"i wanted the stereo, so i took."
we are not animals. animals are driven by their instincts. we also have instinctual desires, but unlike animals, we have the power of choice. we dont have to have sex, or kill our rival, or steal for ourselves. |
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