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relationship thread 8.3 (pg. 2)
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| smokeape |
If you ain't even getting any hooter action, then you're going nowhere... Grab for the pair of gustos...
;)
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State of Grace - Wonder Why (CJ Stone Mix) |
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| Tranceplant |
| quote: | Originally posted by wizniz
ok heres the deal...
theres this chick and i know she likes me...
my friends are telling me,
her friends are telling me...
she flirts w/ me on aol instant messenger whenever i get on.
problem:
she has always hung out w/ a very specific group of friends, which makes things dificult. for example, last night i went on my 4th "date" w/ her. we watched "amelie" at her house... she is only just starting to get comfortable w/ talking to me in person and her body language is very conservative... |
Just ignore her. When a girl likes you and you ignore her she is alot more open about her true feelings. If she ignores you as well then she probably didn't really like you. But you have to remember something very important girls don't invite just any guy to their homes. |
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| M@t |
| quote: | Originally posted by smokeape
If you ain't even getting any hooter action, then you're going nowhere... Grab for the pair of gustos...
;)
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State of Grace - Wonder Why (CJ Stone Mix) |
them bazookas are too big |
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| wizniz |
:eek:
no they aight :cool: |
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| töbias |
This girl appears to suffer from shyness.
Shyness is really common, and I'd even hazard a guess that over 50% of the members of TA would suffer from mild to severe shyness in many situations. Internet forums are excellent way for shy people to express themselves, and I'm sure that many of the largest personalities here can be a little quieter in the outside world. This poster's story where the girl has difficulty expressing herself in a face-to-face setting then becomes a different person in an online setting is almost a textbook example of this.
I suffered from bad shyness when I was a little younger, and it took plenty of hard work to overcome it. And sometimes I feel an onset, and its something pretty much everybody feels from time to time.
Back onto this girl. Shy people can often give the impression that they are rude, or not interested, or giving mixed signals, mainly because of their difficulty in expressing themselves, or taking personal risks that could lead to embarrassment, or rejection, or being made out to be an idiot. Even the smallest of steps, like cracking up a conversation, kissing someone, can be frightening for a overly shy person, and then when they take a big risk in taking a small step it is often not enough to go all teh way, and then they beat themselves up and it gets worse.
So for the poster, I guess that you need to get really good at getting this girl to open up. One thing with shy people is that because they often don't open up their feelings to anyone when they do that person often means alot to them and they can be great girlfriends/boyfriends and love you like no-one else has, although chronically shy people can turn out to be mass murderers, or perverts, and often react badly to their feelings being hurt.
So the best way to get a girl to open up is by asking questions, such as:
How do you feel about that?
What do you think about it?
Whats most important for you?
How strongly do you feel about it?
What are your priorities?
How am I doing?
What specifically do you mean by that?
So don't feel rejected and especially don't be mean if this girl has trouble expressing herself, because that just makes it worse. Just inviting a guy around can be a daunting task for a shy girl. Encourage her, compliment her, tell her she is quite assertive, make her feel good about herself, ask her questions, make strong moves, more than likely she wants to your brains our but just doesnt know how to go about it. |
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| Orbax |
| quote: | Originally posted by wizniz
she flirts w/ me on aol instant messenger whenever i get on |
I read somewhere that means marriage down the road. Confucius say, you lucky! |
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| wizniz |
thx tobias :)
thats a nice insight because ive never had problems being outgoing and making friends on the spot, etc...
just tonight i went skinny dipping w/ 2 ladies ;) :cool:
alright ill give her more time... ask her opinion on things, and just keep up being myself!
this helped.
thanks |
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| töbias |
| quote: | Originally posted by wizniz
thats a nice insight because ive never had problems being outgoing and making friends on the spot, etc... |
Thats probably what she likes most about you.
If you really want to impress her don't sit at home, take her out, and be really chatty with people, and make friends, and say daring things to people you don't know, she will admire you greatly for it. So long as you don't embarrass her along the way... |
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| MeLLyMeL |
| quote: | Originally posted by töbias
Thats probably what she likes most about you.
If you really want to impress her don't sit at home, take her out, and be really chatty with people, and make friends, and say daring things to people you don't know, she will admire you greatly for it. So long as you don't embarrass her along the way... |
I nominate you to be the CORes official Sex Therapist.
Great advice in all the relationship threads!
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| Ang ' ela_ie |
God FORBID a girl doesnt kiss on the first or second date! Whew... she must be a Quaker, right?
Wrong.
Give the girl some time. Who knows, shes probably worth the wait.
(No offense to Quakers, I love them.) |
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| vrahnos |
she's ing with you...:whip: :whip: :whip:
i was in a situation like yours....
i knew this girl because she was the girlfriend of an old friend of mine...
so they broke up....we started talking over the msn after a year or two...
we were talking always about sex, and like that, basely things....i was hitting her and she was hittind on me...
she send me nude pics....i send her nude pics....everything was pointing to one thing: SEX....
so everytime we met each other she was like ice cube....:wtf:....
she was a different person over the net....this happened 2-3 times...and when i asked her, wtf is going on, she told me mumbo-jumbo ....i was sick and tired of her by then and i let it off....
i'm a straight guy and i told her that i wanted to have sex with her but after her behavior i was completelly turned off....
^^that happened two years ago
2 months ago, we talked over the msn and she turned on the webcam....nearlly at the end of our conversation she asked me if i like her shirt....and she zoomed to HER to show me the shirt from close....
:whip: :whip: :whip:
she just wants to make me horny and leave me with my dick into my hand
and....i still have frustration to have sex with her :(
yes, my english suck i know |
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