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| goonerjack |
well, the 6 month relationship with my girlfriend has ended recently - details here, skip if you want... she started ignoring me a while ago, wouldn't talk about whats up etc, she never 'officially' dumped me - it was more kinda a progressive thing where she wouldnt speak to me and it was fairly obvious that we weren't going out anymore. however she wouldn't meet up and talk things over - instead she sent me a text saying she just thought it wasn't working and we'd be better as mates.... so yeah a pretty ty breakup
was just contemplating my choices -
1) cut all contact and forget about her
2) have a friendship with her
I'm feeling pretty hurt after all the she's put me through recently, but for some reason I still miss her a lot - guess I still have feelings for her. I talked to her tonight for the first time in a while, and it's eased things a bit, but she's said we should meet up for a game of tennis. Now i can handle texting her and speaking on msn, but i'm pretty worried that if we meet up then it's just going to hurt me even more, which is definitely what I don't want.
Part of me still wants to be with her, but then I look at how she's treated me and just think that's she not worth it... so is the friendship ever going to work? And is the best way to get over her by seeing her as a mate, or just trying to forget about her - which really isn't easy...
Any thoughts? |
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| dj_alfi |
| stay "friends", make her parents go save horse and be shot for trespassing, make chili of her, invite her and alot of people to a chili cook off, make her eat her parents, believing that you are eating the ones with pubes in, and tell her what youve did, and get a band/artist she really likes come and see her crying and then say shes ghey, and then lick the tears of her chin... |
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| Michael19 |
cut all ties, now.
trust me on this. |
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| metalgearsolid |
| 6 months you only went out with her for six months and you got this close to her that you are posting her on TA? I think you were to close for six months. Get a new girlfriend and have fun but don't fall so easily. |
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| StanVoid |
| i nominate radiohead to be teh band |
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| Ibizadreamer AG |
| I should play her in tennis. And move on. Seriously. Go meet new women, she's not TEH only one. I would say delete her off your brain for good. |
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| M@t |
| Well from reading other threads you wont be able to be friends until you're both over each other. So that means breaking ties for a while. |
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| shades_of_gray |
naaaa, dont do it.......dont meet her for a game of tennis
if you do she has got you by the short and curlys, and she will try and use you.....and thats how girls get us....friendship probs wont work.....cos u will still be thinking of the way she hurt you, and it will be in the back of your mind niggling away......or if you become friends, you will probably try and get back with her again.....dont do it for your sake....but i reckon if you dont contact her for like a couple of months, im sure she will try and contact you, asking you what you are up to ;) |
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| bananas |
| quote: | Originally posted by Michael19
cut all ties, now.
trust me on this. |
yes. yes. and yes. |
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| klingklang77 |
| cut all ties. dont try to be 'friends' so soon, it never works. one of you will have feelings still and you will never really move on. it is unhealthy. |
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| Basstard |
got all ties. how can u be friends with some1 who treated you do badly?
keep asking urself that question and eventually u'll realise it could never work out. dont hurt urself - cut all contact with her. if she tries to contact u, dont cave in, because 99% of the time shes just looking for ATTENTION! |
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| Sjagga |
Hmm i know your situation, and i can assure you that trying to be friends won't work out. After my last breakup (which was weird and doubtful) i knew we both still had some feelings for each other, and it took me a damn lot of time before i figured out that friendship just won't work.
And as said before, don't keep your hopes up that it might someday get back to as you used to, since it most probably won't and you'll only end up miserable with feelings that won't be answered. And even if they will you know it won't last..
But that's my personal opinion, if matters are different to you i recommend you not to listen to me, since i tend to make wrong decisions all the time ;) |
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