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The Heartbreak Thread
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| DickRenegade |
Hey fellow TA's!!
I just had my heart ripped out for the first time in my life (27 years) 2 months ago when the first girl I ever truly loved dumped me. Now she's afraid to even talk to me because she says she can't really stand to hear how upset I still am. It was all because of miscommunication and could've been worked out. She was also scared because I was her first real boyfriend, the first guy who ever truly cared about her, and she knew I would marry her. She thought things moved too fast, wasn't sure if she loved me, and was confused.
I'm just sitting here looking for advice or to hear other stories of heartbreak like this. Anyone ever been in a similar situation and have the girl come back to them? :(
I was also wondering if there could be a relationships part of this forum. I would like to hear some TA's relationship stories.
Thanks,
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| Ibizadreamer AG |
| Are you the dude with 5% bodyfat? |
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| Orbax |
*hands you a beer*
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| DickRenegade |
yeah, "i'm the dude with the 5% body fat"... thx for the beer but i did that for a while and it didn't help a damned thing. i'm respecting this girl's wishes for me to not contact her... although she wrote me a few days ago, i wrote her back, and haven't heard anything.
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DR |
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| Ibizadreamer AG |
| Just let her go. If she loves you she'll come back to you. Now, focus on other bitches in the meantime. |
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| {b.s.e.} |
how old was this girl? you're 27 and I can only assume that she was much younger? It would seem that the two of you are at different points in your lives. Give it time and things have a way of happening/straightening themselves out.
Otherwise.. go fish. :wtf: |
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| Orbax |
3 things to work on:
Self Improvement
Justifying why what happened is OK
Letting time pass
the first two need to happen first.
Brains need to rationalize because random things throw your world into chaos. So just figure it out. First priority is knowing exactly what happened.
Then possible fixings, but there has been a serious breach of trust here and if someone doesnt give you the benefit of the doubt or runs away because they..trust and love you too much....
so something else is going on. focus, target, rationalize, explore options, act or move on.
Its all the cliche bull. Humans aren't well equipped for grief and it takes a long time to get a mechanism in place that handles it. |
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| UWM |
| quote: | Originally posted by Ibizadreamer AG
Just let her go. If she loves you she'll come back to you. Now, focus on other bitches in the meantime. |
Game, set, match. Thread closed. |
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| DickRenegade |
UWM
That's what I was thinking.
I have been doing a lot of self-improvement things but at least once every day I just get so sad. I mean, here I am posting about it on the internet... sheesh. What's wrong with me? I'm not psycho or anything, just having such a hard time getting over her.
DR |
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| MrSquirrel |
"There are many women in the toilet bowl of love."
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| UWM |
Well in all honesty that's good that you're out there doing self-improvement stuff, but you've got to stop beating yourself up over this. It's certainly not getting you anywhere positive and it's probably making things worse. If at all possible, take on more hours at work, go out with friends more often, do things to keep your mind occupied and take your mind off of her.
How old was she, btw? |
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| Stilez |
| quote: | Originally posted by DickRenegade
UWM
That's what I was thinking.
I have been doing a lot of self-improvement things but at least once every day I just get so sad. I mean, here I am posting about it on the internet... sheesh. What's wrong with me? I'm not psycho or anything, just having such a hard time getting over her.
DR |
Nothing's wrong with u dude...
No matter how much time passes by... it's extremely difficult to completely GET OVER someone who might've been u're true luv/greatest luv of all, the person who u saw u're self getting married to.:sadgreen: |
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