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| tribu |
Ok heres the deal. I started working at the market about 15 months ago. When I met Jenny*, I immediately had a huge crush/infatuation with her. It was rather obvious, and the hand I decided to play was to make the crush blatant and to see how she reacted. This isn't usually a recommended tactic, but I chose this route for whatever random reason I assigned at the time.
Jenny is dating Shawn*, a guy who works in another part of the market. I later found out that they were dating for almost 7 years, but at the time I thought their time together was short. Later it was conveyed to me, in many more words, that she probably would never date me (not me specifically but a blanket rejection of anyone she worked with). I dropped the idea of ever being with her, but as anyone who has ever been attracted to a rejecting party knows, the attraction doesn't ever really go away.
So fast forward 8 months to the present. This weekend, shawn was out of town and me and jenny worked a shift together. Whenever we work together, I am generally calmer and more accepting of the fact that I work a job, and am usually happier at the end of the day. Sunday was a perfect day, full of conversation, flirtation, and all the other things normal co-workers do. At the end of the day, I asked her if she'd like to go have a coffee, basically because I didn't want the day to end.
Today (Jenny only works on the weekends) Shawn approached me as his shift was ending and asked to talk to me. Knowing where the situation was going I prepared myself for a beratement and got it: He told me he doesn't want me talking to her, hanging out with her, or even associating with her. I listened to his tirade and told him that while I accepted his opinion, the only person whose requests of that nature that I would listen to are Jenny's. He was predictably pissed, and I thought he was gonna take a swing at me, but he left.
Who is out of line here? Of coure, I'm still attracted to Jennifer, but I accept the fact that unless some major changes go down, I won't be with her. However, I still count her as a friend, and her effect on me and my moods is somewhat irreplacable. I don't believe he was speaking for her and I think his behavior was pretty unacceptable.
* = Names changed to protect the involved, duh.
Short Version: I asked a girl at my work out for (platonic) coffee, and her boyfriend got pissed and berated me somewhat publically. Should i care? |
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| jonSun |
| Her boyfriend is obviously insecure of himself & thier relationship. If she felt that way she should of said it herself. You were not out of line, Dont worry |
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| Sunsnail |
| I think you should go to him and apologize. |
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| Floorfiller |
| i would've been like "what? you don't trust your girlfriend? i'm not putting a move on her i'm just having coffee . maybe she shouldn't be with you if you're such an over protective dick for no reason. you've dated this girl 7 years and you don't trust her. yeah i had a crush on her, but i'm over it and we're just friends so get the over yourself." |
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| Mr. Pink |
he's going to tell her to not talk to you....she might listen or she might not.
either way, things might get weird for a bit.
but it's not your fault.
he's just a jealous guy, no worries.
just dont go hitting on her and expect her bf to take that . |
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| dj_bas |
well chances are he'll tell jenny that he doesn't like her hanging around you, and depending on her personality she'll stop hanging around you as often or she'll just tell him not to worry and things will continue the way they are.
but hear this, one my girlfriends exes still hangs around (different situation i know), she's pretty convinced that he's over it whatever and just wants to be friends (he's a ing loser with no friends btw). anyway i hate that and can't stand when he's hanging around us. |
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| Boomer187 |
| do him in the p00par! |
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| Silky Johnson |
Well, if your intentions with this girl are to be honourable and respect the fact she has a bf, then I don't think you are in the wrong at all.
Unless she is giving him any reasons to be insecure, your friendship with "Jenny" shouldn't be a problem for "Shawn". |
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| wizniz |
| quote: | Originally posted by Floorfiller
i would've been like "what? you don't trust your girlfriend? i'm not putting a move on her i'm just having coffee . maybe she shouldn't be with you if you're such an over protective dick for no reason. you've dated this girl 7 years and you don't trust her. yeah i had a crush on her, but i'm over it and we're just friends so get the over yourself." |
of all the above, this is the best.
+1 |
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| tribu |
Most of this is along the lines of what I thought, though I never thought of sticking it in his pooper.
Yes, i still like her, and I probably would hook up with her if I was given the chance. I wouldn't do so if I felt like she was doing it to get back at Keith, or if she was trashed, but if I generally felt like there was some sort of connection, I would.
I didn't call him out because i don't feel like thats my place. That's Jenny's job if he tells her we can no longer hang out. The woman I was working with said I was in the wrong for asking a "taken" woman for her time, and I thought that was ludicrous. I guess I should take solace in the fact that the core agrees with me. |
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| Mebot |
Were you trying to put the moves on her when you guys were working over the weekend?
Maybe your actions are not as overt as you'd think and maybe she took something the wrong way.
Either way, punch the bf in the mouth and try to get jenny fired. Win-win situation. |
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| Psy-T |
| quote: | Originally posted by tribu
Most of this is along the lines of what I thought, though I never thought of sticking it in his pooper.
Yes, i still like her, and I probably would hook up with her if I was given the chance. I wouldn't do so if I felt like she was doing it to get back at Keith, or if she was trashed, but if I generally felt like there was some sort of connection, I would.
I didn't call him out because i don't feel like thats my place. That's Jenny's job if he tells her we can no longer hang out. The woman I was working with said I was in the wrong for asking a "taken" woman for her time, and I thought that was ludicrous. I guess I should take solace in the fact that the core agrees with me. |
and now that all is said and done............... wanna roll? :p |
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