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| DJ Mikey Mike |
| quote: | Originally posted by wizniz
slylee... whats your phone number?
i need someone who i can call and have ed up convos with when im sketching. ;)
no sexorz plz
btw im 4 serious fyi
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someone who is completely outside of my social circle |
You were the crazy grebo kid at school that sat in the corner by yourself drawing pictures of death and pain, because noone wanted to sit with you, weren't ya? |
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| dj_bas |
Ok my girlfriend makes a substaintially higher income than myself. She's older, has her degree, has a career, and gets a little inheritance money on every month on top of that.
The way I deal with it is this...split the bill!! Sometimes i'll pay for dinner, sometimes she does. We always split drinks when we go out...she'll buy a round i'll buy around etc. If she's that immature to have that much money at her disposal and expects you to pay for everything, then maybe you should rethink the relationship.
Or just tell her your situation and hopes she understands. You love spending time with her, and want to be with her...but you don't have alot of money to spend on expensive dates. Simple.
Or just stop drinking so much you damn alcoholics! Drugs are cheaper and last longer anyway :p |
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| Moral Hazard |
| quote: | Originally posted by dj_bas
Or just stop drinking so much you damn alcoholics! Drugs are cheaper and last longer anyway :p |
words of wisdom. You are learning well my son. |
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| DJ Mikey Mike |
| quote: | Originally posted by dj_bas
The way I deal with it is this...split the bill!! Sometimes i'll pay for dinner, sometimes she does. We always split drinks when we go out...she'll buy a round i'll buy around etc. If she's that immature to have that much money at her disposal and expects you to pay for everything, then maybe you should rethink the relationship.
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Bingo. This is what me and my girlfriend do. It's not rocket science really is it. |
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| dj_bas |
Oh yeah...LA area codes.
310 - West LA, Beverly Hills
323 - Hollywood
562 - Long Beach (Split from 310)
818 - Burbank, Glendale, North Hollywood
So only 4 :p. |
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| dj_bas |
| quote: | Originally posted by Moral Hazard
words of wisdom. You are learning well my son. |
Yay! :haha: |
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| kid nyce |
I can relate to this well...
Well not on a personal level but as a witness to the account of both a struggling friend dating an independant successful woman. Personally I think finances are important when considering an ideal significant other. You might think thats shallow, but it puts a stress on any relationship.
First and foremost, before you are ready to get into a relationship, you should be ready with everything you have yourself and be happy with that.
A prime example is one of my friends is dating a fairly attractive, smart, successful, independant girl who is 4yrs older than him. He is fairly young, struggling with a low-paying long hour job which obviously stresses him out.
Now when it comes to doing things he's the one who has to pick and choose what he wants to do only because his finances requires him to do so. Versus her wants is to do all the things we are doing but at the same time is restricted with having to abide by his choice. Clearly she wont participate if he is unable to do so. Yes sucks for her, but thats the committment you make to your significant other when you establish a relationship. Also unfair that his finances restricts her from doing what she wants to do.
Now she might have everything and he might have nothing, but you can see how interest conflict when finances are involved. In your example, you clearly can fund yourself as well as her, and its not to the extreme that im witnessing.
The key to having alot of things is to give something to someone that they cant get/buy/inherit. Something called stability and reassurance. Often times those who have everything also have nothing. Small things are much more noticable to a person versus something large, expensive, or materialistic. |
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| torontotrance |
| dunno, never really cared about the money honestly. Its for love I thought, not money...I might be out of touch with reality, I am getting quite old. |
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| Demoted |
| quote: | Originally posted by torontotrance
I might be out of touch with reality, I am getting quite old. |
Nah, just cliché. |
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| medinaM5 |
| never has happened, never will happen |
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| LiquidX |
| Damm bro. Whats your problem buying her friends drinks?!?!.. That is messed up. You are showing the wrong image, the image of been able to treat her and her friends with elegance and the luxury to throw the money that way, and thats not the reality. Show your girl the reality of things.. I mean we are talking drinks here, nothing more serious then that. I dated the daughter of one of the owners of Carnival Cruise lines. The family was sooooooooooo kind and she was awesome. On my side, im wasnt even on the toe of their high status. She would have everything she wanted, her dad will provide her with everything, he would even give her money to spend on our outings, but I never let her ( just once ). It was clear that she wanted my love, she was after me not after what I had, and she cared less. I was clear to her from the beginning that why did she go after me ( cause she's the one that came after me ).... in your case scneario, it appears that you arent not far off from been in the high class status. Just be clear, and if she dont understand you, then she's a materialist scum. |
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| Groundhog Boy |
| quote: | Originally posted by malek
something's wrong with this whole story!!!
A chinese that drinks alot?? Thats kind of physically impossible, my asian buddies are all out after two drinks.
So either your two drinks are really expensive at some expensive joints or you're full of ... or maybe you're a mutant new brand of chinese super dude.:p |
My girlfriend's half Taiwanese and half Filipino and I'd say 110-120 lbs. and she can drink more than two drinks. We manage to rack up some pretty riduculous bills between the two of us at times. I think we dropped about $300-350 on alcohol when we went to DC two months ago because I'd bombed my LSAT that day and we got 2 bottles of wine with dinner then went out to Glow/FUR and spent another $100 each. And that's just a bit above average. It's usually $200 between us and we go out at least once per weekend.
As for the money situation, you need to address it now if you see any sort of future with her. I do alright for myself but I'm not from a wealthy family by any means. My girl's parents are both doctors and her dad owns a restaurant as well. We go out and spend alot quite frequently both at dinner and clubbing, but when it's getting out of hand, I'll say something. We usually attempt to split the bills somewhat (one night I'll get drinks, she'll get cover/tickets and cabs, etc., or she'll get one nice dinner and I'll get the next one., etc.). Even with splitting the bills, if we've been going out a lot, I'll say that we need to slow down for a weekend and she's usually fine with that. While you may think it's rude to bring it up or that she'll think you're a cheap , if you don't, you'll be broke. Then you won't be able to spend ANY money on her.
As for buying friends drinks, I do occasionally get a drink for a friend of hers. It's usually the first time I've met him/her, or because they did something to deserve it. It's definitely not a regular thing and for your girl to expect that is unreasonable. You're dating her, not her friends. When her friends you, then you can pay for their drinks, too, until then, save your money for the two of you.
BTW, cooking helps. If you're not spending $30-50/night on meals for the two of you, you've got a lot to work with other days. Plus a guy being able to cook well never hurts, either. I guess this is really only applicable if you live on your own and not with your parents, though. |
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