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on a break? (pg. 3)
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| muzzybear |
If you've been together a year and he doesn't want to get married, then as we say in my family " or get off the pot." When you've been with someone "all four seasons" (1 year), that's pretty good to know if you're suited (according to my mom, who I didn't listen to and eloped after 5 months, but it was definitely the right choice!).
Once trust is gone, that's it. Wondering what he did while you were apart will drive you mad. Not worth it. Better to move on, although it's hard. Like getting up the courage to rip off a bandaid. It'll hurt, but only for a bit. |
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| ** TigerLily ** |
I guess it depends what context you're going into a break with. I tried it after a 5 year relationship but it was more because I wasn't sure it was going to work long term and need some time away, for myself. During the break I thought I wanted him back, but once were were back together it was clear we had just grown apart and weren't wroking out. Less than 2 weeks after the break ended (which lasted about a week) we broke up.
Hope that doesn't happen to you.
I would sugget have clearly defined rules of what can/can't happen during the break and make sure you're on the same page. I can't help but think of the Friends episode when Ross and Rachel were on a "break" and he slept with someone else.
Think of how you'll feel if you start to find out about the things he's doing during the break. You don't want to cause yourself any unnecessary heartbreak - especially if things are going well for you two right now.
Good luck! Relationships are tough but int he end if it's meant to be, I'm sure it'll all work out well :D |
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| El Kay Dee |
| hold on a sec...jsut noticed that u said u 2 live together...this might cause alot of tension when seeing others |
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| Wyndham |
| quote: | Originally posted by Summer21
In my opinion a "break" is a bunch of B.S... it's like cheating but with an excuse. If you feel the need to see other people, then you're not meant to be together, and/or there are some serious problems in the relationship. I never understood this approach.
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| VERTiG0 |
| quote: | Originally posted by Summer21
In my opinion a "break" is a bunch of B.S... it's like cheating but with an excuse. If you feel the need to see other people, then you're not meant to be together, and/or there are some serious problems in the relationship. I never understood this approach.
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Took the words right out of my mouth. |
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| Crib |
breaks = asking for trouble
^^ at least in my experience |
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| ChemEnhanced |
LittlePoonzgirl = Rachel
Boyfriend = Ross
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| Crib |
| so who's gonna be the hot whore Ross sleeps with? |
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| INTRANCE |
Breaks = bad idea
If either of you starts seeing other people, it might lead to something, and if only one of you finds someone they like hearts will be broken.
And even if you come back to one another there will most likely be some jealousy and trust issues. |
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| Sly_Guy |
michelle, my question is....
will you still be living together during this 'break'? |
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| DigiNut |
| quote: | Originally posted by LittlePoonzgirl
no, not from partying...I want to party now more than ever
So my bf and I have been together for over 3 years, and living together for over 2 years. And, well, he's quite a bit older than me so the question of our future (ie. marriage) came up. To be sure we are right for each other we decided to go on a temporary 'break'.
has anyone else gone through something like this? |
Needing a "break" is an excuse people use when they feel like the other person - or just the relationship in general - is getting too serious. The buzz I've got from married couples - and I'd tend to agree - is that if you're with the "right" person then you will know that very quickly (certainly by 3 years into it) and won't have to second-guess yourself. To me, this situation is indicative of a fear of commitment, or perhaps just a reluctance. And if you're living together, it could also get really awkward.
I'm not claiming this to be hard science nor am I saying that it definitely applies to you and Eric, but I sometimes got that speech from girls in my naïve days and it pretty much always turned out the same way (splitsville). I hope for the best for you guys, sorry if that wasn't what you wanted to hear! |
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| rabbitjoker |
| quote: | Originally posted by El Kay Dee
Breaks> DDTT |
Blasphemor. |
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