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Today is the day! Mellymel and Zewad comes to Toronto! (pg. 5)
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| FallingMoon |
whoa whoa...yes I've said that but it doesn't mean I am a doormat & I don't stand up for myself...I am very rebellious & I talk back but that seems to not work...I think it's the guys not the women in this case.
A good man won't tell a woman what to do or how to do it...also a good man won't let a woman boss them around.
All in all you can't assume I am doormat material because a guy treats me bad...I have a big mouth & although I'm not a bitch I do stand up for myself, might not be effective because power tripping men ALWAYS want things their way...don't work on compromise or anything.
So me being a "doormat" NO. Me being a sensitive person who ends up backing down in the end. YES...a doormat is someone a guy steps all over without ever opening their mouth or fighting back. |
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| verndogs |
| make sure Mel stays outside as long as possible :toothless |
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| igottaknow |
| quote: | Originally posted by Moral Hazard
Liz, you've admitted to staying with your bf even though he treats you like and you're not happy. I'd say this lands you in doormat territory. Being a doormat you will attract men who wish to hold power over women.
Jamie, you're a bitch, no question there. As a bitch you attract weak men that need to be mothered and told how to behave, what they want, and what to do.
Neither of these extremes is good. Most men prefer women that are somewhere in the middle. Women who will take a stand for what they deem important and will challeng their partners but are also willing to backdown when something is of great importance to their partner. More then anything men (when considering long term relationships) want someone that they don't have to fight with but doesn't need constant direction, they want someone who will oppose them but is willing to compromise, they want someone with their own wants and interests provided that their partner is high on that priority list. Neither one of you would be desirable in my eyes as a partner (although I believe you'd both be good as friends). |
spot on but that last paragraph sounded like an airing of your inner dialog. becareful of transference. take a deep breath and count to 10 |
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| Purple |
| quote: | Originally posted by verndogs
make sure Mel stays outside as long as possible :toothless |
You mean out of this thread or out in Canada? |
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| Moral Hazard |
| quote: | Originally posted by FallingMoon
whoa whoa...yes I've said that but it doesn't mean I am a doormat & I don't stand up for myself...I am very rebellious & I talk back but that seems to not work...I think it's the guys not the women in this case.
A good man won't tell a woman what to do or how to do it...also a good man won't let a woman boss them around.
All in all you can't assume I am doormat material because a guy treats me bad...I have a big mouth & although I'm not a bitch I do stand up for myself, might not be effective because power tripping men ALWAYS want things their way...don't work on compromise or anything.
So me being a "doormat" NO. Me being a sensitive person who ends up backing down in the end. YES...a doormat is someone a guy steps all over without ever opening their mouth or fighting back. |
Sorry if I offend you Liz but the very fact that he treats you like and you're still with him makes you a doormat. If he treats you any less then how you deserve to be treated then you have two choices; force him to change his behaviour or terminate the relationship. Since the former is nearly impossible to do the latter is usually more expediant. Either way, until the situation changes you're a doormat for him. When you realize this is in fact the case we can talk further but until then it's pointless because right now you are so desperate for his love that you aren't willing to see things in anyway other then the one that will allow you to justify staying with him. Don't feel bad, lots of people do the same thing. |
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| Arbiter |
Survey says:
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| Moral Hazard |
| quote: | Originally posted by Echo of Silence
wb, Mr Moral. |
it will be short lived |
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| verndogs |
| quote: | Originally posted by Purple
You mean out of this thread or out in Canada? |
Canada. She needs to experience the fun you can have in the cold :) |
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| Moral Hazard |
| quote: | Originally posted by verndogs
Canada. She needs to experience the fun you can have in the cold :) |
Actually it's quite warm right now and no snow :sadgreen: |
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| Arbiter |
| quote: | Originally posted by igottaknow
*drama alert* |
Man your battle stations. |
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| Silky Johnson |
| quote: | Originally posted by Moral Hazard
Sorry if I offend you Liz but the very fact that he treats you like and you're still with him makes you a doormat. If he treats you any less then how you deserve to be treated then you have two choices; force him to change his behaviour or terminate the relationship. Since the former is nearly impossible to do the latter is usually more expediant. Either way, until the situation changes you're a doormat for him. When you realize this is in fact the case we can talk further but until then it's pointless because right now you are so desperate for his love that you aren't willing to see things in anyway other then the one that will allow you to justify staying with him. Don't feel bad, lots of people do the same thing. |
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