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when dating two people......... (pg. 2)
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| Orbax |
| You know who else wanted to have fun? Lucifer. |
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| Allied Nations |
Multiple partners that don't know each other-- I don't like to mess with that because I know I'd be pissed if she did something like that to me-
Multiple partners at the same time... |
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| NebulousQ |
In my "younger" days I was "seeing" two cute girls at the same time. I didn't think it was anything serious, nor did I consider my outings with them "dates" or "dating". I found out the hard way that they thought otherwise when one of them saw me with the other and proceeded to express her anger with me.
That kinda ended my relationship with both.
Lesson to Take Away: Girls are clingy and never under any circumstances have girl #1 see or hear about or think of girl #2 and etc. |
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| AndreaCKY772 |
| it seems fun, but because there are so many diseases out there i am reluctant to do it. plus i have a boyfriend at the current time. |
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| bananas |
| NUTTIN BAD WHEN I DO THAT, VERY BAD WHEN YOU DO THAT. |
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| trewqy |
I thought we're allowed to date with more than 1 person at a time..
I mean its not "Boyfriend/girlfriend" stage yet. |
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| Slylee |
| quote: | Originally posted by wizniz
let them know from the beginning that youre interested in being in multiple relationships. this is kind of what i told my ex when she wanted to get back together:
I want us to hangout too rather than just BUT people jump into relationships too quickly and this creates all sorts of problems and expectations down the line.
I don’t know about you but I am not looking for a serious committed relationship which is based on monogamy, in other words people that trap themselves into old fashioned relationships where one person is expected to be with another forever. I am sure you don’t want to get bogged down in a relationship like that, do you?
We are both young, and I'm sure you want to explore what else is out there before you even start to think of a serious relationship. True?
So if you would like to continue what we have now, see each other, have great sex, hang out then its cool with me, as long as I get to do whatever else I like to, maybe meeting more people sometimes, you can do exactly the same which is cool with me too.
I want to be honest with so we have nothing to hide, when you have nothing to hide there’s no lies, no deceit, no jealousy and id like to have that kind of a relationship with you, if you are cool with it then we can continue, if not then you may leave to look for something that you may think you want.
yes i saved it because i thought it was worded well and quite honest. |
yea take it from the high schooler. he knows what's up when it comes to dating.
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| DigitalMP |
dating, bf/gf stage, it's all trivial.
labels mask too much, and their definitions are interepreted differently across the board.
the key is to communicate, so each person is aware of whether the other thinks the relationship is exclusive.
if you cheat, you're a spineless piece of . |
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| lücid |
| quote: | Originally posted by OZzz
What is your philosophy for dating multiple people at the same time? Do you make sure and let all of the people involved know what the situation is...? Do you only tell them the truth if they ask...? Do you lie to them if they ask...? |
as long as you're continuously upfront and honest with all of them, then i see nothing wrong with dating multiple people at the same time. they deserve to know the truth, especially considering there are feelings involved. you wouldn't want to start falling for a girl and then find out she's been falling for some other guy she hasn't told you about. as long as you respect your partners and don't play games or cheat, then it's all good. |
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| OZzz |
| i think for a situation like this to work it is important that all parties know exactly what the relationship is. in some ways it kind of seems like way too much hastle. |
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| lücid |
| quote: | Originally posted by OZzz
i think for a situation like this to work it is important that all parties know exactly what the relationship is. in some ways it kind of seems like way too much hastle. |
it is a hassle, and the prospect of things getting serious really tends to make things even more confusing. you're constantly trying to figure out what you feel for person A, while also trying to figure out your feelings for person B. personally i find it much easier to focus on one person, whether it's gotten serious yet or not... at least that way you can gauge exactly what your feelings are without any interference or outside influence.
by "dating" do you mean actual dating, like going out on dates and treating them as if they are a prospective long-term significant other... or are you just hanging out casually with a few different people you like to have sex with? |
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| OZzz |
| dating as in taking both out and spending time with each other. its definitely not all about sex though im just not exclusive with any one person at this point and love to spend time with both of them. i could see things getting confusing down the road as things progress though. |
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