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| Orbax |
This isnt elimidate where they get dropped when they up.
You have absolutely no respect for people or for yourself if you think this is an ok situation. |
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| Mr. Pink |
i've done it.
I "dated" 3 girls at once back in Puerto Rico during one of my summer's from college.
No big deal. They knew i was going to leave in a matter of a few months. One girl knew about both and just dealt with it. Another knew about nothing, and the 3rd girl only knew about one of the girls.
total minipulation. :wtf:
would i do it again? naaaaaaaaaaaaa....i was stupid and tryin to be a pimp :stongue: |
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| OZzz |
| isnt that what dating is though? even if your seeing one person you stop seeing them if you dont like it anymore... |
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| D-res |
Wisconsin represent!
anyway i wouldnt get in the situation of dating more than one person at a time. even if you make it completely clear to both people that you're dating more than one person, someone will most likely still get hurt. its the same concept as friends with benefits. at some point one person is going to get attached while the other isnt. |
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| trewqy |
Right, like you've never "played the field" before.
Please, you wanna act all sappy and self righteous about being faithful and caring about the other person's feelings, get out of this thread.
Variation is the spice of life. If he hasnt told any of the 2 girls that hes going out with them "EXCLUSIVELY" then I dont really see a problem.
What makes u think girls dont go out with more than 1 guy at a time? |
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| lücid |
| quote: | Originally posted by trewqy
What makes u think girls dont go out with more than 1 guy at a time? |
i've seen girls do it more than guys, actually. |
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| OZzz |
| i definitely agree with lucid here. guys definitely have the stereotype of being un emotional dogs that will anything that crosses their path but the girls can hide behind sweetness and innocence very easily. |
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| Orbax |
To be honest, Ive never hung out with the kind of person who dates a whole bunch of people. Its called throwing against the wall and seeing what sticks. If you keep dropping a girl to one up and date because you dont know if you really like this person...what happens when youre married and you meet a really awesome babe? Oh its just a formalized date is what marriage is? lets cancel?
The mentality that allows you to actively date more than 1 girl for more than a date or two implies:
lack of judgment on issues of character recognizance\
lack of morals. Social Morals. Call me old fashioned but have you noticed the trend between number of partners and rise in disease? Im sure its just coincidence though...
and realize that girls are ing nuts. They want to be with you. Their ty self esteem will allow them to date a guy dating two girls but if a girl tells you on the phone "hey, im just douching out from sex 5 minutes ago, but ill be right over sweetie, get ready for love. Oh remind me to brush my teeth when I get there, you dont want none of that teehee!" let me guess what your reaction is. and if its anything but disgust youre a low on the totem male wholl accept sharing a woman.
Ah, the word that describes it all just came to me. Pathetic. Dating multiple people is pathetic.
AHh. Catharsis. |
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| Orbax |
| Also, please dont be childish enough to use the "well...they did it too" excuse. Take some responsibility. |
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| OZzz |
| i strongly agree with you about the diseases and it is definitely an obvious sign to do something different. what would you think of dating two people if it is not sexual though? more than hanging out with a friend because you both have romantic feelings for each other but you arent sexually active? |
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| Mr. Pink |
| quote: | Originally posted by Orbax
lack of morals. Social Morals.
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oh c'mon.
if you're going to get into social morals, then you also have to take into consideration the other side of the spectrum.
there are cultures that allow more than one wife, etc...
im not saying *I* would do it, but who are you to say that is downright WRONG? |
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| Orbax |
The Golden Rule, as cheesy as it is sometimes, helps. Even if its not sexual...Think of calling up a girl and shes gonna go on a date with Bobby tonight. Say youve thought of something really fun and awesome to do and she says sorry, I already am going on the date.
Doesnt make you feel very special does it? Doesnt make you feel like this person is ready to make an effort and put some energy into the relationship and see if it works out.
You reap what you sow.
and I can guarantee a relationship where 1 of the partners doesnt feel special is a doomed one. As much as guys hate to admit it, it feels good to be needed and to know that out of everyone else, youre the guy who gets to be with this girl.
Takes all the magic out of a relationship to juggle them like they are types of desserts. |
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