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Do you find it harder to get INTO a relationship or STAY in a relationship?
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| THE_Chris |
Ok Im bored so I'm posting this for no particular reason. Several people have been saying theres no decent relationship threads in here so here ya go. Go nuts.
Something I was thinking about.
Would you find it easier to start a relationship with somebody, or keep a relationship with somebody going?
I realise this will be different for girls, as they dont have to go to the least bit of effort to get with someone except for more or less saying 'yes'. But it will be interesting.
Everyone may now start discussing this. :) |
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| jdat |
Starting it and getting the first 'click' is hard.
Once past that first step it's often downhill or some form of cruise control ( where too much is taken for granted unfortunately ) afterwards.
I think that pretty much sums it up. |
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| jesteraver |
| I think its harder to get out of them. |
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| jonSun |
| quote: | Originally posted by jesteraver
I think its harder to get out of them. |
Plus 1. Finding em is ez. Getting out is the drawn out hard part. |
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| Coup |
staying.
I can normally find a girlfriend if i try, but my average relationship duration is about a week. I've ended them mostly, when you're used to being single, going into a relationship i feel all of the independance thats second nature becomes trampled on.
I like a girl at the moment and if it works out with her, im not going to end it atleast for a month and see how things pan out. I prob end them far too early. |
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| THE_Chris |
FWIW my thoughts on the matter are this.
I have different standards to everyone else that I know and as such find it extremely hard to find a girl I'm genuinely interested in. Then the chances that girl likes me are very, very slim. 'Normal' girls arent into me at all, I've found that out the hard way after being rejected many times.
But once I'm in a relationship I find it much easier, as we have to get on very very well for her to be interested in me. SO once we're together its much better.
Pity I havent been with anyone for 14 months, but thats life I guess. |
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| Stunade |
| I found a solution to my own 'not wanting to leave' predicament-anytime I want to check out another guy, I go on a little break is all. Wish I thought of that before! Fun to have multiple guys :happy2: |
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| lücid |
starting a relationship is easy... the initial attraction, excitement of being with someone new, the surprises and spontaneity, the "honeymoon" phase... all of that stuff comes naturally.
keeping a relationship going is the tough part... when you start to find out if all the exciting feelings you had for the person a month or 2 ago were really genuine, deciding how you want things to progress, keeping the spark goin so that you don't get bored, etc... that's the stuff that takes work.
not to mention, if we're talking long relationships here, i mean years and years of being together... there's a lot of stuff you have to think about in order to keep yourself and your partner happy. it definitely is easier if you're with someone you're madly in love with who is very compatible with you, but it still takes a certain mindset and level of commitment to keep the relationship going smoothly. |
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| eckmek |
| quote: | Originally posted by jesteraver
I think its harder to get out of them. |
+ Four Billion
i was missing that option! |
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| Mr. Pink |
It's definitely harder to get into one.
I find that once I'm in a relationship, it's not hard to keep it unless someone is being a real douche.
otherwise......finding the right girl is hard as fukkkkkkk |
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| Vivid Boy |
| finding a relationship is easy, finding a relationship worthy of staying in is hard |
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| Orbax |
| the first hard mark seems to be 3 months according to everyone ive talked to (and experienced) and then the 1 and 3 year marks apparently are also difficil |
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