|
my parents are getting divorced (pg. 4)
|
View this Thread in Original format
| Slylee |
for everyone saying, "oh my parents got divorced and it was the best thing"... yea i'm sure it was...but probably cuz they were fighting all the time and miserable? just guessing.
anyway, this situation is worse because it seems like his father just out of nowhere decided this and his mother was happy and had no clue. that's the worst. i think it would be easier on everyone if they had been at each other's throats for a while and were expecting it. |
|
|
| lücid |
| quote: | Originally posted by Slylee
for everyone saying, "oh my parents got divorced and it was the best thing"... yea i'm sure it was...but probably cuz they were fighting all the time and miserable? just guessing.
anyway, this situation is worse because it seems like his father just out of nowhere decided this and his mother was happy and had no clue. that's the worst. i think it would be easier on everyone if they had been at each other's throats for a while and were expecting it. |
some people choose to keep their problems hidden from those around them.
yeah, i think it's a little unfair to just immediately decide to get a divorce, without trying to talk about it or work it out or even go to counseling together... but i also think that it's unfair to go through the hassles of working on fixing it, if one person is absolutely sure they know it's not what they really want.
i'm not trying to defend Will's dad... because it definitely sucks that'd he'd just up and leave after 27 years, especially right after she had surgery, but trying to force a relationship just for the sake of one person or the kids or whatever is a bad idea. |
|
|
| tubularbills |
thanks for all the words. i gues i'm just still really disappointed/sad about the whole thing.
it would make more sense to me if they were arguing and fighting and all that. but they weren't. it was just....sorry, you aren't getting better and i can't deal with that. which to me is a bit lame of an excuse. like, wtf happened to "in sickness and in health" you know? and like my mom said too, it's not like he's having to change diapers, or do some really really gross stuff....it's just she's in pain and can't go out and do stuff a whole lot.
my brother is super pissed...he's getting married next february so this is kind of putting a kink in his plans and stuff now too.
my dad i guess had been hiding his feelings for some time. which to me seems like betrayal now. i guess. i dunno.
i've got so much on my mind. movers came at 0830 this morning w/ out and notice to take my stuff out to louisiana [where i'm getting stationed at]. and now i'm hungry. i'll probably PM some of you later, when i have more time.
again, thanks for the support and words. |
|
|
| Archon007 |
| It is disappointing to say the least. Despite the fact that half the marriages in the US end up in divorce, we always believe that our parents will stick together. The most troubling part is when you see your mom or dad start to date others or marry into someone who has kids. But what can we do? Statistically speaking many of us will probably end up divorcing our partners as well. I guess there's not much left of the once hallowed institution of marriage. |
|
|
| tubularbills |
so its been three years since my dad left my mom; and their divorce is still not finalized.
its *almost* done; but has been a long, drawn out process. neither of my folks have a ton of money; and i've even paid for my mom's lawyer (some of it at least).
but i found out my dad is getting remarried this august. and he's still legally married to my mom.
its pretty ed up; to say the least. communication with my father has been limited at best; and i only found out cause my mom sent me a link to his wedding registry on Amazon.
awesome.
i've never met the chick that he left my mom for. she tried to add me as a friend on facebook; and i cliked ignore. i don't mean to sound like a child; but the whole thing kinda sucks, and i still have little support for my dad at all.
anyone ever dealt with folks getting REmarried? how long after a divorce was it? how old were you? |
|
|
| Banora |
| I was the flower girl at my parents wedding when I was three, they 'divorced' when I was... uh, 5 I think. Turns out they were never married in the first place because both were still legally married to other people. :crazy: |
|
|
| nchs09 |
Divorce sucks.. my parents got divorced a year or 2 ago.... i felt i was old enough not to get too emotional and understand both of their needs, but it has ed me up a little inside.
My dad is dating some ing 24 year old ATM (he is 49)
!!!!!!!!! i am dating a 34 year old, lder than what my dad is dating... he must have some ing game (i think its disgusting though) |
|
|
| Sushipunk |
My parents divorced when I was 6.
My mum got remarried when I was 12, to a Dutch guy. Didn't work out and they divorced when I was 15.
Dad remarried when I was 16, to this cool Chinese lady. Didn't even invite me to the wedding though :wtf: I didn't even know they got married until a few months later.
I never really got along with either of my parents very well (especially as a teenager, lol) so it didn't bother me too much at the time, or now. |
|
|
| nchs09 |
man.. sounds like FOR THE LOSE
DIVORCE ING SUCKS
FML |
|
|
| pkcRAISTLIN |
c-c-c-c-combo breaker!! (sorry)
| quote: | Originally posted by Arbiter
Look I don't mean to be insensitive, |
lol. insensitive would be your middle name mate!! |
|
|
| pkcRAISTLIN |
| quote: | Originally posted by Sushipunk
Dad remarried when I was 16, to this cool Chinese lady. |
good work senior stu! |
|
|
| tubularbills |
| quote: | Originally posted by Sushipunk
Dad remarried when I was 16, to this cool Chinese lady. Didn't even invite me to the wedding though :wtf: I didn't even know they got married until a few months later.
|
:wtf: :wtf: i'm thinking this is going to happen to me too. although she's not chinese.
ha, i didn't even think about her kids (she has 4 i think or something like that).
weird. step siblings i've never met either. awesome. |
|
|
|
|
