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My dilemma... opinions sought please. (pg. 2)
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| nusty |
| quote: | Originally posted by malek
if you need some arms...
on a side note, she has to leave him by herself... because she'll be back with him sooner than you think... women are like that:rolleyes: |
I should be able to handle him and a few of his friends, but if he shows up with more than 5 buddies then I'll for sure be online trying to grab ya! :) Thanks for the offer.
As for her leaving him... she's trying, she knows she can't be with him so it's an issue of whats the safest way to do it. She's pretty good about not going back to guys afterwards even if she wants to she has never let herself do that, so I think once it's done and he gets lost she'll be fine.
| quote: | Originally posted by Elendil
Well, if you truly feel in your heart that you are needed there, then thats what you need to do. However, remember this: he may not be able to hit her, but he's damn sure going to be able to hit you. So be very prepared for the probable consequence. Good luck. Be safe. |
As for him hitting me, I am fully prepared to take a few hits from him. He knows my trainning/experience and I doubt he would be dumb enough to actually come at me, he has a pretty good idea of what I'm capable of even when I'm holding back.
Andrew: My plan is to let him know that I am fully prepared at any point to drive the 6 hours to Montreal from NYC to straighten him out if need be. I'm not going to let him know that I'll actually be in LA. I hope if I can come across strong enough the first time I won't have to make a second appearence. I'll leave him thinking I'm only a few hours away from him.
Jayx1: She doesn't want to call the police. The guy hasn't actually hit her so she doesn't really have any grounds to call the police.
I was up most of the night talking with her so I just got up now. I'm packing up and then hitting the road to go see her for a bit. |
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| Jem_hadar |
^^ I wish you much success in this situation! :(
Drive safely Dave. |
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| nusty |
| quote: | Originally posted by Jem_hadar
^^ I wish you much success in this situation! :(
Drive safely Dave. |
Thanks. This should be an interesting next 24 hours.
Even if it's all just to give her a hug and let her know that she has friends that would do this for her then it's worth it I think. |
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| MarkT |
| quote: | Originally posted by ChemEnhanced
Dude....friends are a precious thing....if you can help her out of what sounds like a very bad situation then you do it. It there is any way possible for you to go you should. I know I would do anything for a friend and by the sounds of it....from many of your posts....you are exactly the same way. She needs someone who can help her and I know that you definately could. I say go....even if it means being a little late getting to LA....I'd still do it. |
that about sums up my thoughts too...well said.
I'm not sure what awaits in L.A., but if something happened to her while you were away, you'd never forgive yourself too.
I think you're making the right decision by stopping in Montreal...just be careful. |
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Without a doubt you definately should head over there to try and rectify the problem. What I think you are forseeing is the fact that even if you got into a brawl and or the situation got out of hand and you beat the piss out of him... what will stop him from coming back the next day to take revenge, when your gone to LA? If anything I can easily see it escalating his anger to an even higher degree where he could get more buddies/weapons and or whatever else he pleases. If he has been the dictator in the relationship he will continue to do so until he gets HIS way, no matter what barriers are in place (you).
My 2 Cents.
Fingers Are Crossed, Goodluck! |
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| NuERA |
| dont forget tunes for the car! have a safe trip buddy. |
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| nusty |
| quote: | Originally posted by NuERA
dont forget tunes for the car! have a safe trip buddy. |
haha, that's the only reason I'm still logged on. I'm waiting the last few minutes it takes to burn those mixes you sent me. ;)
I'll be on the road in about 10-15 mintues busting out to Montreal.
Since you and Kevin just sent me stuff I should be good for the first 10 hours now... then it's back to 30 hours of other trance. lol. This is starting to remind me a lot of our trip to New Orleans. ;)
ROAD TRIP!!!!!! |
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| Elendil |
Just thought I'd clarify something:
In no way did I mean to imply that you weren't up to the fight, or that you wouldn't soundly thrash him. Rather, I meant to express that while he probably wouldn't go to the extent of hitting her necessarily, having you there is MUCH more likely to inflame his already rampant ego. Your presence is highly likely to create a more violent situation. Remember, few things are as dangerous as a man with a severely inflated ego, who gets his pride deeply wounded, and feels in the moment he has nothing to lose.
Be very, very careful and especially intune with your vibe and social acumen when you enter into that situation. |
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| Jayx1 |
i repeat... why doesnt she call the police?
If he hasnt hit her but she feels she is in trouble she can always at least give a statment so that its on record. She can then go to many many social services that will put her up in an emergency shelter. The police will even escort her to the apartment so she can get her stuff.
They WILL put a spouse in emergency housing if violence is immenent even if it hasnt occured.
Im going through this with a friend of mine (yes he is a male) and violence has occured (she hit him among other things)... its a tough situation for sure
If you go there and trouble starts he could always have you arrested for assault. Then you wont have to worry about LA. |
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| Jem_hadar |
| quote: | Originally posted by Jayx1
If you go there and trouble starts he could always have you arrested for assault. Then you wont have to worry about LA. |
Thats also very true and needs to be thought on. You dont want to jeopardize eligibility to live/work in LA man! |
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| Euphorica |
| ok, i wonder what happend.... Im not sure I wouldve went...im with jay on this one :eyespop: |
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| Mandrick_v |
| quote: | Originally posted by malek
if you need some arms...
on a side note, she has to leave him by herself... because she'll be back with him sooner than you think... women are like that:rolleyes: |
Amen |
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