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My dilemma... opinions sought please. (pg. 4)
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| AwakenedAddict |
| quote: | Originally posted by Cosmic Fur
LOL! I strongly doubt nusty needs any balls to grow.
P.S. Where in his post did you get that he needed to grow some balls anyway? |
Not balls in terms of strength or agression. It seems as though he's into MMA and has good fitness, so I doubt that he'll have trouble in a fight. I was referring to the fact that he's obviously letting this woman jerk him around (who the hell asks someone to drive 5-6 hours to help them break up with a boyfriend). He needs to grow some balls and tell her that it's not his job to do this, ESPECIALLY when he is in the middle of a serious move. Next thing you know, 6 months later she calls him up.. and it goes something like this.
Her: "ohh i met some new guy, he was really nice at first but now I don't like him so much"
Nutsy: "Srsly? That sucks, I'm so sorry hun :("
Her: "Yea, I know, it ALWAYS happens to me, I can never find a good man"
Nutsy: "I'm a good man! Right here baby!!"
Her: "I dunno, I like you as a friend"
Nutsy: (wtf can I do to have this girl like me, omg)
Her: "Oh by the way, could you drive across the country, I need your help to break up with my boyfriend again"
Nutsy: (thinks to himself, "AGAIN?") |
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| FunkyGroove |
| quote: | Originally posted by AwakenedAddict
Not balls in terms of strength or agression. It seems as though he's into MMA and has good fitness, so I doubt that he'll have trouble in a fight. I was referring to the fact that he's obviously letting this woman jerk him around (who the hell asks someone to drive 5-6 hours to help them break up with a boyfriend). He needs to grow some balls and tell her that it's not his job to do this, ESPECIALLY when he is in the middle of a serious move. Next thing you know, 6 months later she calls him up.. and it goes something like this.
Her: "ohh i met some new guy, he was really nice at first but now I don't like him so much"
Nutsy: "Srsly? That sucks, I'm so sorry hun :("
Her: "Yea, I know, it ALWAYS happens to me, I can never find a good man"
Nutsy: "I'm a good man! Right here baby!!"
Her: "I dunno, I like you as a friend"
Nutsy: (wtf can I do to have this girl like me, omg)
Her: "Oh by the way, could you drive across the country, I need your help to break up with my boyfriend again"
Nutsy: (thinks to himself, "AGAIN?") |
umm where in nusty's posts did you get the fact that she specifically asked him to come and help? from what i gathered she didn't and it was Dave's sole decision to go |
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| MarkT |
| quote: | Originally posted by Rodrico
am I the only one that finds when men abusal funny? 'cause I laughed when I read that. Imagine the police escorting you home cause of your wife gonna kick the outta you. |
nah...the issue is that it's perceived to *never* be acceptable for a man to hit a woman (especially by the courts).
she could deck him, but if he hit her back, guess who's going to gett fried by the police and courts?
him.
if you're a guy, you're a if you hit a woman...but you're deemed a if you file a complaint. |
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| Jayx1 |
| quote: | Originally posted by Rodrico
am I the only one that finds when men abusal funny? 'cause I laughed when I read that. Imagine the police escorting you home cause of your wife gonna kick the outta you. |
Its not funny. Especially not when a knife gets pulled on you. Its also not a nice feeling to be in a position where you dont know if the law is on your side if you defend yourself. Sadly, the law is on the side of women so if you defend yourself while being hit, its likely that you will go to jail even though she was the agressor.
These are exactly the sort of things that went through my friend's mind. And trust me, this guy is no wimp. He was a university football player and knows tae kwon do. (sp?) He could have flattened her in a second.
Sadly, violence against men is one of the last accepted forms of violence in our society. And its attitudes like yours that is precisely why most men wont report it. |
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| arek |
| this is a job for chuck norris. |
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| AwakenedAddict |
| quote: | Originally posted by FunkyGroove
umm where in nusty's posts did you get the fact that she specifically asked him to come and help? from what i gathered she didn't and it was Dave's sole decision to go |
Yea, i guess that was kind of left ambiguously out there. Who knows, either way I was wrong to assume so.. but the majority of what I said previously is still relevant . |
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| Rodrico |
| quote: | Originally posted by Jayx1
Its not funny. Especially not when a knife gets pulled on you... |
And thats where you tell her, when shes not busy threatening your life, that if you she can make a sandwhich while she has the knife out. |
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| Cosmic Fur |
| quote: | Originally posted by Rodrico
And thats where you tell her, when shes not busy threatening your life, that if you she can make a sandwhich while she has the knife out. |
10 for composition, 0 for execution
In other words, this would have been hella funny if you didn't the sentence up. |
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| Rodrico |
| quote: | Originally posted by Cosmic Fur
10 for composition, 0 for execution
In other words, this would have been hella funny if you didn't the sentence up. |
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| rabbitjoker |
| quote: | Originally posted by simms327
well - if you believe that there is any chance of her getting injured (him getting violent) then you should go. |
IMO:
The first thing you do is call the police and get them involved.
The second thing you do is get her to move in with one of her girlfriends for the next few weeks.
The third thing you do is put her on a schedule and make sure that wherever she is going - someone knows she is on her way and aproximately what time she should arrive. She should take taxis wherever possible and ask people to wait with her for the taxi until it arrives and also come to greet the taxi when she arrives at her destination. |
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| pinkphantasm |
| quote: | Originally posted by Jayx1
Sadly, violence against men is one of the last accepted forms of violence in our society. And its attitudes like yours that is precisely why most men wont report it. |
Exactly who accepts it?? The reason wife-beating became unacceptable was because women reported it. It wasn't (and isn't) easy for them either. No one should be pulling knives on anyone else - your buddy should report it and press charges! Anyone that laughs or calls him a wimp is an . |
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| tatgirl |
I know its already to late, but I'm with Jay & Aaron on this one.
You driving to Mtl to prove a point to a guy will only serve as a temporary bandaid. He must know you are not a local if you're appearing outta thin air to her aid, and may know you'll be even further away once u move away. Maybe she can't file any charges against him due to a lack of a 'crime', but she can probably get a restraining order issued, which would only result in an arrest if he violated it (since she obviously feels some guilt about involving the police). The sooner you get the police involved & aware, the better. I also find it hard to believe that she doesn't even have 1 other friend locally to help her make these decisions or offer a safe place to stay. Battered women's shelters or agencies are great resources of information and protocol- she should contact them, since you can't stick around forever.
Best of luck, and I hope you make it to LA on time & in 1 piece. |
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