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first true love (pg. 4)
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| DrunkenMaster16 |
| quote: | Originally posted by fitom tiel
so, what was your first true love story?
the one that really got to you.
more importantly, how did you get over them? or did you dump them, have them bug you for a while until they found someone else to cling on?
just a topic that came to mind. everyone seems so experienced lately. i think i'm clinging. |
I just walked out, my ex pushed me down some stairs cause I said I was tired and wanted to go home... ( ok she had been getting on my nerves for a month and I was looking for any way out of that relationship.) She pushed me, I just colected my thoughts and walked out her front door never to call or come near that place again. ing head cases. After the first day she was calling every hour on the hour making herself seem even more pathetic, then after about a week of this the calls slowed and it went from I wanna get back to better to watch your back my friends are looking for you...
Since then we haven't spoken and no, I do not watch my back because to live in fear is to not live at all. I go about my day to day happier. Not 1/8th the amount of sex but its worth it. |
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| Slylee |
| quote: | Originally posted by DrunkenMaster16
I just walked out, my ex pushed me down some stairs cause I said I was tired and wanted to go home... ( ok she had been getting on my nerves for a month and I was looking for any way out of that relationship.) She pushed me, I just colected my thoughts and walked out her front door never to call or come near that place again. ing head cases. After the first day she was calling every hour on the hour making herself seem even more pathetic, then after about a week of this the calls slowed and it went from I wanna get back to better to watch your back my friends are looking for you...
Since then we haven't spoken and no, I do not watch my back because to live in fear is to not live at all. I go about my day to day happier. Not 1/8th the amount of sex but its worth it. |
umm, the thread is about your first true love, not some story about a psycho crackhead bitch you dated. lol |
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| DrunkenMaster16 |
whom I still think I am in love with even thought we went thru alot of , but in my mind I cannot go back into said relationship.
First true love or just first glimpse of what love could be I am not sure. Strong feelings were there and I still have some but ive been trying to get them outta my head for sanity purposes.
I really should start looking for a new gf, its been 3 months and its time to move on. |
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| Slylee |
she pushed you down stairs and would repeatedly call you over and over when u didn't pick up? sounds like it was just more of a really unhealthy relationship with a very psychotic, needy, insecure chick who didn't even love herself, therefore, was incapable of loving you.
that's not really true love, sorry to break it to you. true love requires trust, empathy, loyalty and compassion from both partners at all times.
i just think it's kind of impossible to qualify being stuck on some headcase as "true love".
and yes, u should move on. |
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| wizniz |
i broke up w/ my last gf because she needed my company too badly and i wanted her to go out and make friends. we still chill but shes back to the sit at home do nothing stage.
boredom = unattractive |
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| TiestoFanMatt |
I met my first 'love' on the internet like most shy teenage lads. I was 19 at the time. I live in the UK, she lived in Syracuse, New York. We spoke about one year on the net, before deciding to actually meet. When I first met her, I had never flown on a aeroplane ever, and never been abroad. Originally, we agreed to be friends to begin with, but ironically enough, we both lost our vaginity on the first night in a hotel room.
I spent 3 weeks in USA and quickly realised that I had already fallen in love. Talking to her for one year had already made us close andbecause the physical attraction was there, it just cemented our feelings, which were mutual. I told her I loved her just before I left to go home.
I spent 2 years with her. unfortunately her life was very complicated. Her family were , USA seems to be a hard place to live in respect to money sometimes, and her mum gave her little to nothing in terms of being a loving parent, whilst her dad was a truck driver and was hardly home. Her mum was also terminally ill for the whole duration of the period we went out.
Because of her problems, she relied heavily on me for emotional support. She was my first real girlfriend, and because I loved her, I put aside all the bitching and shouting she did at me, believing it was down to stress. She always apologised and I never held it against her.
After a year with her, I bagan to notice patterns emmerging about her personality as I started to drift apart. I saw her about 6 weeks in the summer, 3 at xmas, at easter and I once made a suprise visit for her prom as a romantic gesture. She was too reliant upon me as a person when together. Speaking on the phone and waiting to see her was ok for me. My life was busy with work and I had just started Uni, she on the other hand, was at school and had nothing to do when getting back home. Her sister stole her car all the time and she had little money, which concequently she used to save up to see me.
There were two times I realised our relationship would be over. The first time was when I went to see my best mate graduate from the navy. I hadnt seen him for around 10 weeks, and he was a changed lad when I went to see him down South/. My gf at the time came with me along with my mates parents and our other friend (we were a group of 3 lads v.close). She moaned about me not talking to her enough. I kept putting it to the back of my mid, but on my 21st birthday, she complained of me spending too much time with my friends on the night i was out drinking celebrating my birthday. She ultimately phoned her mum and said she wanted to come home, totally ruining my bd.
I dumped her when she was here at xmas to her face, as I didnt believe in doing it across the phone. My reasons were actually mainly down to money, time and stress of the relationship due to distance. Its afterwards that I realised that she had made me so unhappy.
I still loved her at the time though, which was hard. About 3 months later I banged this chick and afterwards I realised that I still loved her. Its now, 1 year and a half later that I finally felt ready for a gf and im in love with another girl, only problem is, she is a trainee nurse with little time to spare and I just graduated, looking for a job, which means we'll have little time together due to conflicting time schedules.
Long distance relationships can work, just as long as both understand the stress that u have to go through. I did, but my ex didnt, and she put too much responsibility on my shoulders to comfort her everytime she got upset, which was allot. |
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| sighhh |
| quote: | Originally posted by TiestoFanMatt
I met my first 'love' on the internet like most shy teenage lads. I was 19 at the time. I live in the UK, she lived in Syracuse, New York. We spoke about one year on the net, before deciding to actually meet. When I first met her, I had never flown on a aeroplane ever, and never been abroad. Originally, we agreed to be friends to begin with, but ironically enough, we both lost our vaginity on the first night in a hotel room.
I spent 3 weeks in USA and quickly realised that I had already fallen in love. Talking to her for one year had already made us close andbecause the physical attraction was there, it just cemented our feelings, which were mutual. I told her I loved her just before I left to go home.
I spent 2 years with her. unfortunately her life was very complicated. Her family were , USA seems to be a hard place to live in respect to money sometimes, and her mum gave her little to nothing in terms of being a loving parent, whilst her dad was a truck driver and was hardly home. Her mum was also terminally ill for the whole duration of the period we went out.
Because of her problems, she relied heavily on me for emotional support. She was my first real girlfriend, and because I loved her, I put aside all the bitching and shouting she did at me, believing it was down to stress. She always apologised and I never held it against her.
After a year with her, I bagan to notice patterns emmerging about her personality as I started to drift apart. I saw her about 6 weeks in the summer, 3 at xmas, at easter and I once made a suprise visit for her prom as a romantic gesture. She was too reliant upon me as a person when together. Speaking on the phone and waiting to see her was ok for me. My life was busy with work and I had just started Uni, she on the other hand, was at school and had nothing to do when getting back home. Her sister stole her car all the time and she had little money, which concequently she used to save up to see me.
There were two times I realised our relationship would be over. The first time was when I went to see my best mate graduate from the navy. I hadnt seen him for around 10 weeks, and he was a changed lad when I went to see him down South/. My gf at the time came with me along with my mates parents and our other friend (we were a group of 3 lads v.close). She moaned about me not talking to her enough. I kept putting it to the back of my mid, but on my 21st birthday, she complained of me spending too much time with my friends on the night i was out drinking celebrating my birthday. She ultimately phoned her mum and said she wanted to come home, totally ruining my bd.
I dumped her when she was here at xmas to her face, as I didnt believe in doing it across the phone. My reasons were actually mainly down to money, time and stress of the relationship due to distance. Its afterwards that I realised that she had made me so unhappy.
I still loved her at the time though, which was hard. About 3 months later I banged this chick and afterwards I realised that I still loved her. Its now, 1 year and a half later that I finally felt ready for a gf and im in love with another girl, only problem is, she is a trainee nurse with little time to spare and I just graduated, looking for a job, which means we'll have little time together due to conflicting time schedules.
Long distance relationships can work, just as long as both understand the stress that u have to go through. I did, but my ex didnt, and she put too much responsibility on my shoulders to comfort her everytime she got upset, which was allot. |
sighhh... I feel for you! though i think you should bitch slap your ex! :whip: |
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| TiestoFanMatt |
| quote: | Originally posted by sighhh
sighhh... I feel for you! though i think you should bitch slap your ex! :whip: |
No I think it was just the way her life was. She needed attention. I hardly speak to her now, my choice not hers, but when she does, she still says how horrible she was to me at times.
I think she learnt with me she cant be that way with other men down the line, as most wont be as understanding and patient as I was/am.
PLus she lives in USA lol....bit of a long bitch slap;) |
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| Slylee |
aww that story was sad:( she sounds like she just has some growing up to do and she needs to find her way in life and be a bit more independent. at least she realizes that she was too much and was mean to you. that's the first step in changing...realizing you have a problem.
i don't really agree with you though about long distance relationships "working". they only do in the beginning (honeymoon phase) because you will go above and beyond the call of duty when your feelings are out of your own control (again, that's honeymoon phase taking over your emotions and mind...not real love). eventually, one of you needs to move because you can't just have a relationship with the phone and the computer. |
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| Orbax |
| quote: | Originally posted by DjConfessions
i've never loved a girl or a had a girl love me.
but my top loves are SNES, the car chase scene from the matrix and Pepsi |
thats one of the most beautiful statements ive ever read. *sniff*. Although pepsi should have been Mountain Dew. Come on now! |
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| DigitalPhoenix |
This thread is too emo...
oh wodka..how I luv thee! :) |
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| Lira |
| quote: | Originally posted by TiestoFanMatt
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Hey, I remember you: you wrote a thread before going to the US, didn't you? :)
Nice to see it was a constructive experience, in spite of the sad ending. |
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