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Beauty and Attraction (pg. 2)
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| Slylee |
yea i definitely look back on my high school sweetheart and a few others i dated and think, "eww wtf was i smoking, they aren't even that attractive".
if that's what u were asking...yea. :p |
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| jonze234 |
| quote: | Originally posted by Slylee
yea i definitely look back on my high school sweetheart and a few others i dated and think, "eww wtf was i snorting, they aren't even that attractive". |
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sorry jamie :stongue: :p |
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| Slylee |
| quote: | Originally posted by jonze234
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sorry jamie :stongue: :p |
hahah true that! |
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| Aquarian |
I've experienced this before. Both in situations where physical features enhanced emotional attachement and where emotional attachement enhanced perceived physicical features.
I have no idea what causes it, but if I had to take a wild guess I would say that it would be similar to how prejudice is formed; the mind takes something complex like attraction and simplifies it down to a basic concept that's easy to understand. In the process, it causes all these different perceived elements (both physical and personality-related) of attraction to "blend". |
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| Cuervo79 |
I agree with Teresa, for me one thing is being gorgeous and another is being atractive to me. For me it has to do with as Teresa put it "intelectualy stimulating" as well as visually.
And as other people have said sometimes the personality adds to the visual and sometimes the visual adds to the personality.
Although this doesn`t mean that when I se a gorgeous woman I wait to talk to her to see if I´m attracted.
One thing I see that most agree on is when looking at ex`s and thinking WTF was I thinking when I was with that person. |
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| Lira |
| quote: | Originally posted by UWM
Pissed off at her or not, I still love her big breasts. |
Yes, you're my hero! :D
(I feared no one would do that :p)
| quote: | Originally posted by Blake
As for other girls seeming more attractive when your girlfriend whips out the claws; eh, either you deal with the issues or you run away. It makes sense that other girls look great when there's tension between your girlfriend and yourself, but leaving the relationship for another, while it may solve the immediate conflict, isn't a solution. The same problems could arise with other women. Whatever the issues are it'd be best to confront them and break up, or confront them and stay together, but you shouldn't be just looking for a quick way out, as instinctual as that may seem. |
Yeah, I'm pretty aware of that, being fond of reading about Psychology. I'm against taking this quick way out, as you said, being aware of the fact that it would just infinitely repeat in other relationships.
That's more exactly what I meant by my first post - the fact that it's not anything related to my girlfriend, but something existing only inside myself. But, more importantly, how dynamic attraction actually is due to subjectivity. How our perception about one's atractiveness may change rather quickly, as Theresa pointed out - it's still the same person, yet your judgement changes thanks to our extended comprehension.
How important is the first impression then?
By the way, if you have the time, I'd love to read about the behavioural neuroscience stuff you said you've got :)
| quote: | Originally posted by Slylee
"eww wtf was i smoking, they aren't even that attractive"
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Did these relationships end in good terms?
| quote: | Originally posted by Aquarian
I have no idea what causes it, but if I had to take a wild guess I would say that it would be similar to how prejudice is formed; the mind takes something complex like attraction and simplifies it down to a basic concept that's easy to understand. In the process, it causes all these different perceived elements (both physical and personality-related) of attraction to "blend". |
hmm... there's something here that seems a bit off from what I perceive and from what I've studied so far. I'd have to reflect on that bit. |
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| Allied Nations |
Yep, After she nearly vomited on me, that was that!
Once a girl vomits in my presence I get so incredibly turned off. This will probably mess me up sometime in the future. |
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| Boomer187 |
i feel compelled to reply...but i get to leave work now...
ill reply later withj some godo shiat. |
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| RapidFire |
I find that attractiveness is mental. plenty of men find themselves attracted to women other men would shrug off (physically speaking). so when someone dissapoints you in some way (verbally perhaps) that can turn you off.
yeah its happened with me. its happened to anyone who gets turned down or is dissapointed in someone. |
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| venomX |
| I gots another possible explanation for the dichotomy. It's something called cognitive dissonance. Basically your brain will always try to reconcile what you think with what you do. If because youre emotionally attached to that person you think she/he is attractive then your brain will gear up all the biological/mental processes that involve attraction in a positive way towards that person. The opposite is also true. |
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| Holymen |
| 1 in 10 girls are bangable. |
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| CranberryJuice |
| quote: | Originally posted by igottaknow
Poor Floorfiller will be devistated when he reads this |
im not talking about jason i was referring to the lil crushes when i was for example in high school n00b
:rolleyes: |
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