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Sending a vibrator to my girlfriend's parents house?! (pg. 9)
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| Silky Johnson |
| quote: | Originally posted by Slylee
i agree about being happy from within, but if ur with someone for years and they just simply never tell you that you look beautiful any more and you go out of your way to be sexy for them, with no luck, then i think it's perfectly fine for the women to feel rejected and hurt. it doesn't necessarily mean she relies ONLY on him to feel good about herself.
there's only so many spa appointments and girls night out u can have to feel good and happy. but at the end of the day, when ur man just simply doesn't seem interested and u guys are married, it's really sad, and that's when i think that maybe there's a little bit of justification.
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Yup...I agree with that...I'm not disuputing that's it ok to feel rejected and hurt. But I AM saying that if it's a problem that has been ongoing, then cheating is only the easy way out. It takes courage to step up and demand what you're worthy of, and people need to do that for themselves. It's my opinion that if they haven't done that, they are at as much fault as the person doing the neglecting. If you're unhappy in a relationship, just get out of it! Sure it's hard, but after the initial hardship of it, the person will be much better off in the long run. Like seriously, why torment oneself??
Like Dr. Phil says, "you get the treatment you ask for". And if you're sitting back playing the victim of neglect, it will only validate the person's behaviour that's doing it.
I dunno, I guess not everybody has the strength within themselves to walk away from unfulfilling relationships...but in an ideal world they would! |
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| Slylee |
honestly, dildos get the job done i guess, but i would much rather have the real thing. i have a vibrator i bought recently but it's not big enough because i didn't want to insult my boyfriend and get one bigger than his lol.
anyway, the other night we were fooling around and getting ready to have sex and he wanted to bust it out, and i was just like, "umm, ok if u want". i could tell it turned him on to use it on me, but i would have much rather had him go down on me and use his own body. oh well. men...lol gotta please them i guess. i can understand how it would be a turn on for a guy to use one on his girlfriend as a little foreplay. it was kinda hot, but i was just like, "yea um, can we now" lol
oh and by the way, my vibrator has 3 changing "heads" and one of them is supposedly for a G-spot..it curves up. it hurts! :( i dont like the hard ones. mine is plastic and purple. the next time i'm getting one of the ones that is more "flesh-like". lol |
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| dj_bas |
| quote: | Originally posted by jennypie
Like Dr. Phil says, |
Every single post you've ever made on TA has just become invalid and wrong. What does that feel like? |
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| Theresa |
| quote: | Originally posted by Slylee
honestly, dildos get the job done i guess, but i would much rather have the real thing. i have a vibrator i bought recently but it's not big enough because i didn't want to insult my boyfriend and get one bigger than his lol.
anyway, the other night we were fooling around and getting ready to have sex and he wanted to bust it out, and i was just like, "umm, ok if u want". i could tell it turned him on to use it on me, but i would have much rather had him go down on me and use his own body. oh well. men...lol gotta please them i guess. i can understand how it would be a turn on for a guy to use one on his girlfriend as a little foreplay. it was kinda hot, but i was just like, "yea um, can we now" lol
oh and by the way, my vibrator has 3 changing "heads" and one of them is supposedly for a G-spot..it curves up. it hurts! :( i dont like the hard ones. mine is plastic and purple. the next time i'm getting one of the ones that is more "flesh-like". lol |
From personal experience, I find the "flesh like" ones to be uncomfortable. The material is very "resistant" unless there is a LOT of lube. And of course the real thing is better... but this is in the event that the real thing is not accessible.
Oh.. and for all you guys who are anal fans and can't get your lady into it, check this out:
"Developed by Juli Ashton to entice people to break the anal barrier. Starting with the smallest sizes, you'll enjoy hours of kinky fun as you progress to the larger sizes." |
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| Slylee |
| quote: | Originally posted by jennypie
Yup...I agree with that...I'm not disuputing that's it ok to feel rejected and hurt. But I AM saying that if it's a problem that has been ongoing, then cheating is only the easy way out. It takes courage to step up and demand what you're worthy of, and people need to do that for themselves. It's my opinion that if they haven't done that, they are at as much fault as the person doing the neglecting. If you're unhappy in a relationship, just get out of it! Sure it's hard, but after the initial hardship of it, the person will be much better off in the long run. Like seriously, why torment oneself??
Like Dr. Phil says, "you get the treatment you ask for". And if you're sitting back playing the victim of neglect, it will only validate the person's behaviour that's doing it.
I dunno, I guess not everybody has the strength within themselves to walk away from unfulfilling relationships...but in an ideal world they would! |
have you ever been in that situation where you were with someone you loved and things like that started to happen and you were crushed and confused and didn't feel like ending things because u still had hope?
if u've been with your man for 8 years like you say, and u've been on cloud 9 those entire 8 years, then u really dont know how you would act or if u would have the courage to that yourself.
that's all i'm saying. it's easy to sit there and preach...i could say the same thing, but u have to put yourself in other people's shoes too and look at things objectively. i always do. |
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| Nrg2Nfinit |
| quote: | Originally posted by Azia
I just think that orgasms are not as expected from women as they are from men. Yes, they are amazing; but I do not think most women will actually get pissed if one is not received, as men do sometimes. :nervous:
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speak for yourself in your relationship :p
my gf counts the number of orgasms i owe her.. it actually pisses me off a bit |
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| asfdz |
| quote: | Originally posted by dj_bas
Every single post you've ever made on TA has just become invalid and wrong. What does that feel like? |
she quoted dr. phil :haha: that is all.
| quote: | Originally posted by Theresa
From personal experience, I find the "flesh like" ones to be uncomfortable. The material is very "resistant" unless there is a LOT of lube.
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I've always preferred ones that are as "realistic" as they come, with the veins and everything (lube ftw)....glass or really smooth plastic ones just don't feel right for me |
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| Theresa |
| quote: | Originally posted by Azia
she quoted dr. phil :haha: that is all.
I've always preferred ones that are as "realistic" as they come, with the veins and everything (lube ftw)....glass or really smooth plastic ones just don't feel right for me |
Well, to be fair, I have never used plastic, glass or metal, so I suppose I have nothing to compare to.
But, as I said, I find the "realistic" ones resist a lot, which can be quite painful if you're running low on lube. |
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| Slylee |
| quote: | Originally posted by Nrg2Nfinit
speak for yourself in your relationship :p
my gf counts the number of orgasms i owe her.. it actually pisses me off a bit |
why dont u try eating her out instead;) lol
i have literally pushed my boyfriend off me and been like, "ughh, forget it" and got in the shower and was pissed for about 20 minutes.
:stongue:
i know it's bad, and i try to work on it, but man i get PISSED if i'm really close to having one and he has to cum. :whip: |
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| Nrg2Nfinit |
... then your gf gets those monster dildos and you cant get any satisfaction because shes too loose
"is it in? is it in yet?"
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| Silky Johnson |
| quote: | Originally posted by Slylee
have you ever been in that situation where you were with someone you loved and things like that started to happen and you were crushed and confused and didn't feel like ending things because u still had hope?
if u've been with your man for 8 years like you say, and u've been on cloud 9 those entire 8 years, then u really dont know how you would act or if u would have the courage to that yourself.
that's all i'm saying. it's easy to sit there and preach...i could say the same thing, but u have to put yourself in other people's shoes too and look at things objectively. i always do. |
No, it hasn't been cloud 9 the past 8 years. Our relationship has had ups and downs, which is why it's still going strong.
And yes, I HAVE been in that position..with my first boyfriend. He was madly in love with me up till the point someone else caught his eye. He started going on dates with her while we were still together. And yes, when I found out, I dumped his ass.
You don't have to believe me. But that's just how I am. I'm a strong person and I always stand up for my needs and what I feel I deserve. I'm not some weak-willed who stays in an unhappy situation. Life is the result of the choices one makes...and I've always taken responsibility for my happiness. And life has thrown me a lot of . I don't see why I would change now. |
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| asfdz |
| quote: | Originally posted by Slylee
why dont u try eating her out instead;) lol
i have literally pushed my boyfriend off me and been like, "ughh, forget it" and got in the shower and was pissed for about 20 minutes.
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i know it's bad, and i try to work on it, but man i get PISSED if i'm really close to having one and he has to cum. :whip: |
now that's totally understandable.....and if it's cause your boy came, that's when you say "you ain't done" and you whip this mother out
 *courtesy of theresa*
woot woot! |
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