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live with the grrrlfrend...yay or nay? (pg. 4)
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| Lephaid |
Moving in with someone is pretty much the final test in a relationship. Expect:
-To deal with them dragging their ass and being grouchy in the morning if they're not morning people (and who is?)
-That you'll run into some financial problems about something sooner than later. Remember to chill out, it's just money and you can usually always get more of it. Sit down at some point and make financial goals and agendas if you wanna hang in for the long run.
-Sex to get a little more boring. When you wake up every day next to someone, shower with them, and spend a lot of your waking life being around them, your infatuation is eventually gonna wear itself out.
It's a trying thing and if you make it through a year or more of it, you've probably found someone you should stick with for at least a while. :) |
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| L.E.N. |
Nay...I spent 8 years living with my ex. Its better if you have your own spaces. Sure its fine for the year or so ( mine was cool for about 4 years) Then the nagging kicked in. When I get off work I dont want to hear ....gimmie like an hour to relax. I dont mind doing chores but dont put me to work before I get my shoes off.
You know how they laugh at your jokes and think your funny or agree with your opinion....that stops. All of a sudden your wrong most of the time and they start "correcting" you. It gets old fast.
Besides all that..it varys between couples.
Its nice to have your own place. You decorate the way you want it....if you move in together, get ready to be overruled on your opinion. Your couch, sheets, drapes, pictures on the wall, etc. will have to get her approval.
IMO guys need their own space to do whatever. After my ex and I mutually split. I come home and I finally get some peace. So I left a beer bottle on the coffee table the night before....I dont hear any bitching and I take care of it. If I put off the laundry for a couple days...no bitching. If my friends call at 1am and want to stop by...sure....no bitching.
You can still have a healthy relationship without living with eachother. |
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| igottaknow |
| quote: | Originally posted by Floorfiller
i've lived with a boyfriend before. it can be hard especially if you need your space from time to time. you need to make sure that you can still find a way to get that. it's hard putting up with anyone you live with 24/7 let alone someone you are dating... |
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| butterfly |
i moved in with my bf 5 months after we met. it was a unique situation because i was supposed to move to california for 8 months and then go back to new york. so in a way it was low risk because if things didn't work out with us we could just go our separate ways at the end of the 8 months. and we talked about that and agreed we would do that if it didn't work. as it turned out, we are a perfect match and we have been together 3 years now and we are going to get married.
but to answer the original question - No, you two should not move in toghether. if you have any hesitation, it is a recipe for disaster. plus at 20, you should leave more flexibility in your life. |
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| squirrelly |
| quote: | Originally posted by Lephaid
-Sex to get a little more boring. When you wake up every day next to someone, shower with them, and spend a lot of your waking life being around them, your infatuation is eventually gonna wear itself out.
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Definetely not true haha. At least not in my case. |
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| Lephaid |
| Was so for me. But, it depends on yourself...and this is definitely long term, like, 3+ years. I have a sex drive in the first place, though. |
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| dallastar |
| quote: | Originally posted by chucho
my gf is asking to live together but im not sure about it; going to a better apartment, get another car and well...stay together
sort of roommate...
but i have my doubts
any experience-advice? |
If you do - you could be single before the day ends,
living with bitches is a hard thing to do!:thepirate |
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| sakabatou |
| quote: | Originally posted by dallastar
If you do - you could be single before the day ends,
living with bitches is a hard thing to do!:thepirate |
You could be happy, if it ends because you move in with her then it would have failed any other way.
Get it done, pain or not your 20 and have fun while you can. |
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| pkcRAISTLIN |
| quote: | Originally posted by chucho
any experience-advice? |
how do you expect the relationship to work out if you turn to complete strangers to make decisions for you? if i were your gf id already be ing someone else. |
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| chucho |
| quote: | Originally posted by pkcRAISTLIN
how do you expect the relationship to work out if you turn to complete strangers to make decisions for you? if i were your gf id already be ing someone else. |
i didn't ask "should i do it or not"...
i just wanted to hear experiences from other people to know what are the issues that bring the living-together relationship down |
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| dallastar |
| quote: | Originally posted by sakabatou
You could be happy, if it ends because you move in with her then it would have failed any other way.
Get it done, pain or not your 20 and have fun while you can. |
yeah you could - but you may argue constantly as well - who know - you will just have to try and see how the situation works out, good luck! |
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