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Oh for crying out loud...
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| Slylee |
why does this always happen to me?
ok, so when i FIRST broke up w/ the ex and was yacking about an FB, i had a guy in mind...i knew him from middle & high school...got back in touch via myspace, bla bla bla. it's all in my "FB" thread from a long time ago. anyway, never happened with him, but we still talked from time to time. we have a history, he was my prom date, i was best friends with his sister, etc...
well he had surgery (he's training for wrestling) and got addicted to pain killers. it was a huge turn off for me and i lectured him at one point about how he always sounded loaded when he'd call me.
well he went to rehab, and i'm really happy for him, but i mean, A LOT has happened since we were talking about hooking up, but i guess to him, he's still stuck at what was going on his life right before rehab.
so he's like up my ass right now, trying to date me and telling me how in rehab they had to talk about people they'd like to "reconnect" with and stuff and he said he mentioned me because i sounded really sincere when i lectured him, which i was, but i mean, i was just being a good friend. we go way back and i hate to see someone i know and like go down that hill.
so i dunno what to do. we have plans to chill next week and he is like bringing it up every time i'm online...like, "i can't wait to hang next week, what do u wanna do? bla bla bla bla" i can tell he really likes me and i don't know what to say. he asked me if i was with someone, and it didn't occur to me to lie, but i feel like i should have told him i'm seeing someone now. . |
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| Perfecto Fluoro |
| quote: | Originally posted by Slylee
so he's like up my ass right now, trying to date me and telling me how in rehab they had to talk about people they'd like to "reconnect" with and stuff and he said he mentioned me because i sounded really sincere when i lectured him, which i was, but i mean, i was just being a good friend. we go way back and i hate to see someone i know and like go down that hill. |
Wow I feel completely out of luck... dumb girls...
anyways...
Just tell him no deal, you like him as a friend only.
Speaking from experience though (as the guy getting told) it wont really help, but it might put him off to the point that he wont bug you anymore. |
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| SuspicionVandit |
show him it's over
spit, don't swallow
that'll send the message |
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| Slylee |
lol
i know he wants to bang, but i can tell he wants something more too...he was just rambling about the "possibilities" of us.:wtf: i dont even know what to say! i'm just like, "umm...brb" |
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| Aristronica |
jamie did you ever think that maybe it's not all these dudes that have faults but it's actually you with a problem?
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| gehzumteufel |
| quote: | Originally posted by SuspicionVandit
show him it's over
spit, don't swallow
that'll send the message |
:haha: :haha: :haha:
jamie: tell him straight up. if hes still trying make it more obvious. if it gets to a point you are really annoyed then stop answering his calls/ims/spyspace messages etc. he will get the hint sometime. sometimes thats what it takes. |
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| Ygrene |
| quote: | Originally posted by david.michael
Buttsex |
Fixed!
But seriously, just nip it in the bud and lay all your cards out on the table. As long as you're open with him about how you feel, what have you got to worry about?
It's just like creating a paper trail at work to cover yourself if things get ty. |
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| gehzumteufel |
| quote: | Originally posted by Aristronica
jamie did you ever think that maybe it's not all these dudes that have faults but it's actually you with a problem?
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LOL shes said she has commitment issues. she said that like 2-3 months ago! |
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| Slylee |
| quote: | Originally posted by Aristronica
jamie did you ever think that maybe it's not all these dudes that have faults but it's actually you with a problem?
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of COURSE i have problems...who doesnt? :p
but his pain killer addiction and him thinking that my sincerity in being a friend is more than friendship, isn't my problem. |
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| Perfecto Fluoro |
| quote: | Originally posted by Slylee
lol
i know he wants to bang, but i can tell he wants something more too...he was just rambling about the "possibilities" of us.:wtf: i dont even know what to say! i'm just like, "umm...brb" |
Seriously, just tell him no, you don't want that with him. If it takes not being friends with him anymore then do it.
I seriously wish girls would take this attitude with me.
Don't be a , sometimes you gotta break hearts. |
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| weymouth |
| Life isn't suppose to be this dramatic, just say you got a dude and be done with it. Or you could say you have a drug problem and you wouldn't be a good friend if you were around someone trying to be clean. |
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