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Jealousy.... (pg. 3)
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| Swamper |
| This always happens at a clubs... a guy will go up to your girl and ask 'who are you here with?' as one of the first couple of questions - then take off once they see they're taken - or - put on a fake smile and pretend to want to meet you (lollers). |
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| Frenchie |
I can't be bothered to read the posts in here so if what I say is a "repost" you all:p
IMO, there really is no need for jealousy, ever. It happens to some but is it really necessary? If you, no if the both of you, have trust in the relationship then the jealousy bug should not be biting either of you.
The fact that you have never gotten it , up until now, is a good thing. I guess some people look at it as, " You're jealous that means you care, because if you didn't get jealous that means you couldn't care less who your boyfriend talks to yadda yadda yadda", I don't. Both my serious boyfriends and even the little flings on the side had mostly female friends or was just around a lot of women and there were always women flirting with him and/or ignoring me. So, what there will always be women who will be into your boyfriend and skeeses who don't care they he has a girlfriend, that's just something a woman is going to have to deal with unfortunately.
For the guys who say, " OMG I want to bash the face of the guy my girlfriend talks to in the club" grow up, seriously. If you don't want them talking to her than she should know better and not just stay there and chatting up with them. |
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| AndreaCKY772 |
| quote: | Originally posted by mezzir
well put, although this is much easier to say when you're in a secure relationship and have been for a while :p |
thanks. yeah, that is true too...
i used to be best friends with this girl who was VERY insecure. every boyfriend she had, if she saw another hot girl walk by her boyfriend, she would STARE at him until the girl passed (to make sure he didn't look). or she would get mad instantly if she found out he was talking to another chick that she didn't know... even if he and the other girl weren't flirting.
that type of behavior will make YOU look stupid in the end and only shows that you are not very confident. |
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| Theresa |
Yea, I half wonder if perhaps I have a little bit of insecurity surfacing. In my last real relationship, it was also my first... I didn't have the experience of needing to feel concerned about other girls.
However, now that I know after the fact that I was cheated on several times, etc. I wonder if sub-conciously I am worried it will happen again.
The thing is, is that I really trust my boy. He has never given me a reason to be worried about what he's doing, and I feel confident that the type of guy he is will prevent him from making stupid decisions like that.
Hmmmm.. I dunno :conf: |
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| Aristronica |
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| Caela |
it all comes down to how much you trust your boy.
my last relationship...not so great, trust was gone...so i became a VERY jealous girlfriend who was paranoid all the time (which later proved to be for good reason).
it seems like your guy handled it well by putting his hand on you while talking to her, and giving other hints that he was not going to stray.
i have been AMAZED how low a girl will stoop to hook up with a guy that's taken. that's one thing i have vowed to myself never to do...and i have certainly kept my promise. subtle flirting (girl hitting on your guy) is incredibly annoying but most of the time it's harmless and at the end of the day, you have your man and she doesn't. however, if it crosses the line on her end, you have every right to call her out on it. i find that a lot of girls that act like they can hit on ANY GUY (taken or not) just have yet to be put in their place. |
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| lücid |
T, were you in a bad mood before this happened? i can be a very jealous person sometimes, but it usually only comes out when i'm in a bad mood or i'm feeling upset about something else totally unrelated. if i'm having a good time and i'm happy, it doesn't phase me one bit.
yeah, i'm totally psychotic when it comes to getting jealous. sometimes i'll flip out in my mind over the tiniest and i have to tell myself to calm down and chill out and not make a scene, lol. other times i'm totally chill about it, like nothing could bother me. |
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| emc^2 |
Jealousy is a natural progression from insecurity. Could be something minor or bad. Like you just noticed your first cellulite dimple. Or he cracked a smart-a$$ comment you didn't understand. Maybe he commented about your hair... or your clothes. You stand there totally clueless and confused why he pulled out of her (noticeably smaller hips and obviously tighter enclave) and then sprayed his man juice in your face! And then wiped his freshly used member with your Prada shirt!
You know - that can definitely put a ding into your trust and cause doubts to set in. Evaluate your situation and main thing - don't overreact.. Just COOK and CHILL. :p |
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| RJT |
| quote: | Originally posted by lücid
T, were you in a bad mood before this happened? i can be a very jealous person sometimes, but it usually only comes out when i'm in a bad mood or i'm feeling upset about something else totally unrelated. if i'm having a good time and i'm happy, it doesn't phase me one bit.
yeah, i'm totally psychotic when it comes to getting jealous. sometimes i'll flip out in my mind over the tiniest and i have to tell myself to calm down and chill out and not make a scene, lol. other times i'm totally chill about it, like nothing could bother me. |
You just relax - you've got nothing to be jealous about ;)
Me, on the other hand, well - let's just say it's good that "Thou Shalt not Covet thy Girlfriends Car" is not one of the commandments! :gsmile: |
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| stren |
| obviously, he's cheating on you, leave him |
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| lücid |
| quote: | Originally posted by RJT
You just relax - you've got nothing to be jealous about ;) |
i was speaking generally... not neccesarily about you or our relationship. it's just how i've always been - a little psychotic but not out of control!
lol @ stren... YOU CANT HAVE HIM! :mad: |
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| RJT |
| quote: | Originally posted by lücid
it's just how i've always been - a little psychotic but not out of control!
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