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| drivingforce |
| quote: | Originally posted by SuspicionVandit
Dr. Drew says your relationship is going to fall apart |
i def dont want relationship falling apart, it sounds like it wont if both or you, esp my girlfriend is comfortable. Im sure if everyone is comfortable it can go smoothly and be enjoyable for all parties. |
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| EXTREMUM |
| quote: | Originally posted by drivingforce
cool thanks so far guys...i figured it would of been better to keep it in the group but a friend of mine said that might make things weird or awkard. Also the other thing is setting, should like we all go bar hoping get little drunk to lossen things up...or just give them both rophie collada's lol. |
Good luck on your decision, but I think it's a bad idea to handpick a random chick, to have a threesome with. Personally, I wouldn't even even do that, when I'm single. Call me modest, but I hold trust as a factor, no matter who I get into bed with. Count that, plus your girlfriend to have sex with another girl. |
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| XaNaX |
Don't be surprised if this ends in disaster as far as your relationship goes. Your girlfriend may be doing it just because she knows you want to and she is trying to please you. Things can get ugly quick once jealousy rears its ugly head.
Personally, I wouldn't be into doing this with a girl I actually cared for. If she was just a , then sure why not. |
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| Moral Hazard |
Without question, the other woman involved should be of your girlfriend's choosing. Contrary to what Andrea has said, I would strongly caution against involving any woman that you already know and/or interact with on any regular or even semi-regular basis. Threesomes can bring forward all sorts of feelings, insecurities, jellousy, that you simply cannot anticipate. You may react differently to something this third party does, give her too much attention, seem too interested in the other woman, etc, and it may bother your girlfriend... conversly she may do the same. If any of these little problems that tend to crop up in threesomes does happen and it's someone you already know or have regular contact with they will be magnified. Play it safe, have your girl invite someone you don't already know and will likely never see again into the mix... that will mitigate any insecurities or jellousy that may develop (trust me, I wish I had incisted on this).
Another tip... no matter what you may think; THIS IS NOT FOR YOUR ENJOYMENT EXCLUSIVELY, IT IS NOT ABOUT YOU. If you girl is willing to do this it's likely because it's something she wants. Let her take the lead, don't be pushy or demanding, and don't be surprised if there are times when you are largely ignored.
Finally, if you really love this girl but the relationship has any sort of instability then don't do it. Threesomes can be good in a stable relationship where both partners are equally open to the idea and very secure in their standing with the other, however, if there is any instability or insecurity this will likely be the begining of a horrible downward spiral in your relationship. Unless you have a rock solid relationship, this is a bad idea.
PS... Craigslist.org |
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| drivingforce |
| Thanks...But the idea bout bar hoping with me the gf and the other girl to kind of chill and see where it goes? What did everyone else do to lead to it...just invite them over or actually go out and try to go have a good time? |
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| lücid |
| quote: | Originally posted by Moral Hazard
PS... Craigslist.org |
good tips, Craig... but that'd be the last place i'd look... :nervous: |
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| Moral Hazard |
| quote: | Originally posted by lücid
good tips, Craig... but that'd be the last place i'd look... :nervous: |
I'd think it's less scary then grabbing a random whore at a bar. |
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| Frenchie |
ahaha craigslist..
Hmmm random whore on line, random whore at a club..what an ultimatum. |
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| dj tek |
| quote: | Originally posted by Moral Hazard
I'd think it's less scary then grabbing a random transexual at a bar. |
agreed. |
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| Moral Hazard |
| quote: | Originally posted by drivingforce
No im def goign to keep it in the group... |
Seriously, DON'T DO THIS! My ex (NOTE EX) and I engaged in a number of 3-somes over our years together. The ones with random girls were good and generally had no fall out, the ones with girls we knew were horrible due to the aftermath. My girl was, for months afterwards, suspicious of her friends or of me. We lost several friends due to this (either from her insecurities or the other girls'). Any regular contact with the woman who shares your bed will just exacerbate any problems that may happen. Trust me, 3-somes are not just fun and excitement... they are a world of emotional termoil. |
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| lücid |
| quote: | Originally posted by Moral Hazard
I'd think it's less scary then grabbing a random whore at a bar. |
at least his email inbox wont get filled up with photos! :p |
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| Moral Hazard |
| quote: | Originally posted by Frenchie
ahaha craigslist..
Hmmm random whore on line, random whore at a club..what an ultimatum. |
point of order... that's not an ultimatum.
I post the craiglist idea because it's much easier then picking up a chick at the bar who's a) bi and b) ready to and suck ya both |
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