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| pete242 |
| I have met lots of girls, but never dated them, I just talk to em, I can be real personal with them and not even have to go out with them. It's all a matter of not caring. I still get shy though, but if the environment is right, then it's all good, just gotta put yourself in the right place where you feel right and everything else just flows. Doesn't always work though, sometimes it just goes flat, in talkin with girls at events or where ever they just tend to give off the body language that they don't wanna talk to you, at the end of the day you suck it up and say that's their problem and move on, it's nothing personal, they'll do it to 100 guys. |
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| DaRoZa |
| congrats, i was kind of in the same boat a few years ago, in my last 2 years of high school i lost about 50lbs. I was still "living in the past" for a bit after that, but got more confidence after sucking it up and just talking to girls i was interested in. once you simply realize that a lot of them out there want the cack, you'll have moved on. they also have drugs out there for confidence... it's called alcohol :P |
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| sufee_b |
| quote: | Originally posted by limpboy
I am 19 years old, and I was overweight for the past 18 years of my life, I lost about 140 pounds last year.
Now that you know my story, my truth is that When it comes to finding a girlfriend...I suck big time, everytime I see a girl I am attracted too I dont get nervous, I just know that there is no way she will be ever be my girlfriend, so I dont even try, and when I do try I start getting nervous, its like a loser-cycle am having.
this is my Honest Truth, and I would like any advice anyone can give me, but if you dont have something nice to say, please dont say it. |
you shape your own universe...no girl is going to want you when you dont like yourself or when youve counted yourself out before you even talk to her |
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| Spin Laden |
| I'm surprised no one here's mentioned popping an 'e'. You'll be asking girls out (with your shirt off) in no time :p |
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| Provocative_boi |
| quote: | Originally posted by Spin Laden
I'm surprised no one here's mentioned popping an 'e'. You'll be asking girls out (with your shirt off) in no time :p |
Dont we all party sober here on TA ? |
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| yankeeBaby |
| Just pretend like you are the even if you know that you are trembling inside. After a while your confidence will increase simply by the positive responses you get from "acting" confident. And stop trying so hard. |
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| Jem_hadar |
^^ Yeah.
Fake it like Dexter does. ;)
Eventually when and where does 'pretending' stop and 'reality' actually start? |
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| MarkT |
| quote: | Originally posted by Tordan
why do you even think about wanting her to be your gf anyway? i'm assuming you do this when you initially meet the girl, right? well, that is your biggest problem. stop the whole girlfriend thing and talk to her like you don't give a damn. |
+1
don't think that far ahead. just talk to people and go from there.
too high expectations = you'll constantly be disappointed
(by expectations, I don't mean how she looks...I mean jumping too far ahead and thinking 'gf').
attraction is obviously important...but compatability and genuine feelings go a lot further if you're looking for a gf and not a casual fling.
exhibit SOME confidence and positivity too...it's an attractive quality if you think highly of yourself (or at least don't think negatively). If YOU don't like you, what makes you think a girl will? ;) |
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| malek |
| if I had lost 140 pounds in one year, I would be swimming in confidence... its so hard loosing weight that approaching girls seem trivial. |
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| afterhrsgurl |
| quote: | Originally posted by Spin Laden
I'm surprised no one here's mentioned popping an 'e'. You'll be asking girls out (with your shirt off) in no time :p |
ya so he can look like this :eek: if the girl's sobber she'll be like wtf! lol |
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| limpboy |
| quote: | Originally posted by malek
if I had lost 140 pounds in one year, I would be swimming in confidence... its so hard loosing weight that approaching girls seem trivial. |
well that seems to be the expected result...but I lost it by having an eating disorder and doing alot of drugs, which I stopped doing, and re-converting that energy into school and gym. |
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| Moral Hazard |
| quote: | Originally posted by limpboy
I am 19 years old, and I was overweight for the past 18 years of my life, I lost about 140 pounds last year.
Now that you know my story, my truth is that When it comes to finding a girlfriend...I suck big time, everytime I see a girl I am attracted too I dont get nervous, I just know that there is no way she will be ever be my girlfriend, so I dont even try, and when I do try I start getting nervous, its like a loser-cycle am having.
this is my Honest Truth, and I would like any advice anyone can give me, but if you dont have something nice to say, please dont say it. |
I've been where you are now. I grew up as a fat kid. I didn't have much luck with the ladies, got to the point I didn't even try, I just took what I could get. When I was 21 I lost 110 lbs. I looked good on the outside but still felt like a fat kid, I still just presumed women were not attracted to me. It wasn't until a very attractive (and thankfully very aggressive) young lady showed a rather clear interest in me that this attitude started to change. I then went on to have a string of short term relationships, one night stands and drunken hook-ups... which, as aweful as it sounds, allowed me to build up some confidence in myself.
My recommendation... start paying attention. There are women out there that will be interested in you, the problem is that you aren't noticing. Once you start to notice the ladies showing interest your confidence will improve... confidence makes people more attractive. My alternate recommendation... try to convince yourself that you're the . Just keep telling yourself that, eventually you'll believe it and that will result in greater confidence... which brings the womenz. |
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