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Honest Truth about myself. (pg. 4)
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| DigiNut |
Yet another dating thread, haha.
All I'm going to say is that "be yourself" is the lamest, most pathetic advice that one can ever give to a person who has low self-esteem and low self-confidence. Whoever has given that advice in the past, hang your heads in shame.
Some better advice would be: love yourself. Once you convince yourself that the only thing stopping any random woman from grabbing your nuts in the street is the fear that some other woman might notice and start clubbing the first one with a stop sign in order to get them first, you'll be set. |
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| afterhours29 |
| start juicing, this will make you horny as hell and eventually force you to start approaching females |
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| Xavier Moriarty |
| quote: | Originally posted by limpboy
I just know that there is no way she will be ever be my girlfriend, so I dont even try, and when I do try I start getting nervous, its like a loser-cycle am having. |
you cant think like that bro. i had close to 300lbs at one point in my life but i never had problem getting the girl that i wanted.
like lots of people told you already, confidence is the key.
and remember, any man can have any woman that he sets his eyes onto.
good luck man. |
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| Spin Laden |
| quote: | Originally posted by Cribby
Try the Escorts section in the yellow pages, or Craigslist.
kthxbye. |
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| jeeper_095 |
it's somewhat natural, you'll get over this situation in no time.
I remember this one article I read by a user in one of the webmaster forums I post in, here it is: http://www.freewebs.com/befriend/niceguy-girl.html
it has some good pointers in there.
looks aren't everything; if you know how to talk to a girl, you can have any girl you want, you just gotta get past your fear point.
good luck! |
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| Jem_hadar |
also remember:
a nice sized beer belly fits perfectly into the small of a chick's back when ur spooning! ;) :) |
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| Cosmic Fur |
| quote: | Originally posted by limpboy
I am 19 years old, and I was overweight for the past 18 years of my life, I lost about 140 pounds last year.
Now that you know my story, my truth is that When it comes to finding a girlfriend...I suck big time, everytime I see a girl I am attracted too I dont get nervous, I just know that there is no way she will be ever be my girlfriend, so I dont even try, and when I do try I start getting nervous, its like a loser-cycle am having.
this is my Honest Truth, and I would like any advice anyone can give me, but if you dont have something nice to say, please dont say it. |
In my unprofessional psychiatric opinion, you're putting too much emphasis on the "finding girlfriend" part, which kicks your brain and nerves into high gear before you even start talking to a girl, hence the nervousness problems. In my opinion, you shouldn't try to find a girlfriend like you're finding a ripe watermelon at the grocery store. Put the whole "I am 19, I must find a girlfriend or else i will be labelled 'loser'" thought out of your head, and talking to females will be a lot less stressful. Take each conversation for what it is, and not as another attempt to get a gf, and that'll take a lot of pressure out of the talking. Besides, a lot of the guys who are absolutely miserable in their relationships wound up there because they had that specific mission of having a relationship, and thus went for the first fish that bit. Being single is a hell of a lot better than being in a ty relationship (you'll be surprised how quickly your attraction to a girl changes once you realize that she's she's a conceited bitch or dumb as a doorknob).
Also, I must make the distinction that if you're just looking for someone to , then it's a whole different deal, and you can disregard everything I've said in the previous paragraph. Do treat women like they're watermelon at the grocery store. Make it obvious to her (and everyone else) when you find a particular girl attractive. Wear clothes that are too tight for you. Drill into your mind that you are THE , and that you're doing the girl a favour by even talking to her. Remember that at all times when talking, and keep your sentences to strings of one-syllable words. Grunt if you have to. If you say little, she will think you are mysterious. If you say a lot of stupid , she will think you are a joker. If you say a lot of stupid with utmost confidence that you are right, she will think you are smart. Practise accidentally touching a girl's ass. Forget about tact; there's not such thing as "inappropriate". Keep in mind that if you only have 1 minute of potential conversation instead of 20 minutes, you must come on 20 times harder in that minute. DO NOT DESPAIR FOR ONE SECOND about a girl that rejected you - she was stupid, a lesbian, and not worth giving a Dirty Sanchez to. There are many fish in the sea - the faster you find out whether or not she's interested in ing you, the faster you can move on to the next girl. WITH THE LIGHTS TURNED DOWN, EVERY FEELS LIKE .
Good luck in your search. |
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| evil_cookie |
| quote: | Originally posted by Cosmic Fur
In my unprofessional psychiatric opinion, you're putting too much emphasis on the "finding girlfriend" part, which kicks your brain and nerves into high gear before you even start talking to a girl, hence the nervousness problems. In my opinion, you shouldn't try to find a girlfriend like you're finding a ripe watermelon at the grocery store. Put the whole "I am 19, I must find a girlfriend or else i will be labelled 'loser'" thought out of your head, and talking to females will be a lot less stressful. Take each conversation for what it is, and not as another attempt to get a gf, and that'll take a lot of pressure out of the talking. Besides, a lot of the guys who are absolutely miserable in their relationships wound up there because they had that specific mission of having a relationship, and thus went for the first fish that bit. Being single is a hell of a lot better than being in a ty relationship (you'll be surprised how quickly your attraction to a girl changes once you realize that she's she's a conceited bitch or dumb as a doorknob).
Good luck in your search. |
and that's it folks,
srsly, if you need to - read that, over and over and over and over again, till it sinks in. |
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| m2j |
| quote: | Originally posted by DaRoZa
they also have drugs out there for confidence... it's called alcohol :P |
hahahhahahahahhahahha
you said it.
just make sure you don't have too much, or else you'll look sloppy. |
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| Zentac_75 |
| quote: | Originally posted by Cosmic Fur
In my unprofessional psychiatric opinion,
Do treat women like they're watermelon at the grocery store.
WITH THE LIGHTS TURNED DOWN, EVERY FEELS LIKE .
Good luck in your search. |
HAHAHAHA..... hahahahaha..... watermelon at the grocery store...I don't know what that means but its funny.
Anyway...
He who shoots, eventually scores. He who hesitates, eventually masturbates.
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| zokissima |
| quote: | Originally posted by Cosmic Fur
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Ditto on all he said. It all depends on what you're 'shooting' for. Women, for the most part, can smell weakness like the plague, so typically small little twitches and scenes of lack of confidence will show through. Find a place in your mind, wherever it happens to be, that you can learn to suck confidence out of. |
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| afterhrsgurl |
| quote: | | Originally posted by Binder_Dundat when I do talk to other people its just simple words like "YEAH", and "Thats durtee". |
lol... +1 |
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