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Sex with ur ex? (pg. 15)
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| skillton |
| quote: | Originally posted by spitty
you must be very very rich. |
Never said I was, but I usually do ok. That was a hugo boss shirt I was wearing, and there is a versace beside it in the closet. And those guys are my friends, the're both there when I need them and they came there because they got personal invitations, not Facebook invites like most of my aquaintances.
Also, that was supposed to be my going away party, but I have a few things to deal with before I leave for Europe until march. I've been to 3 parties since, and I have another one I've been invited to, but that's tomorrow. |
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| Kytracid |
*Begins to pen his opinion on the question asked by the threadstarter only to realize that the thread itself has been hijacked by the TOTA dimlow brigade*
The problem Fayraree, is that you used the word sex in the thread title. I know you meant to attract attention and hopefully gain some valuable insight (from the enlightened masses that call TOTA home, no doubt). But you what really did was put a big sign on this thread that screamed 'Take a dump anywhere you want". You shoulda known better! Employing keywords like sex on this forum ensures a swift end to any real discussion and only serves to expedite the arrival of the attention whores and trolls. |
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| skillton |
And here's another pic which includes most of my friends that were there tonight, the one I came/left with was the one taking the pic:
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| skillton |
| quote: | Originally posted by skillton
And here's another pic which includes most of my friends that were there that night, the one I came/left with was the one taking the pic:
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| skillton |
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Too much TA. I'm gonna go shoot some pool. |
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| jchung52 |
| quote: | Originally posted by skillton
And those guys are my friends, the're both there when I need them and they came there because they got personal invitations, not Facebook invites like most of my aquaintances.
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what does that mean? |
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| *~LiSa-LoO~* |
It's about damn time TOTA got entertaining again. Don't piss skillton off too much, I say we keep him around for awhile to give us all someone to laugh at.
Oh also, this is a picture of me and my friends. Every Monday night we dress up in different costumes and take pictures just b/c it's fun. Usually though I only were Armani, Prada or Gucci. I wouldn't be caught dead in anything else.
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| spitty |
| quote: | Originally posted by *~LiSa-LoO~*
It's about damn time TOTA got entertaining again. Don't piss skillton off too much, I say we keep him around for awhile to give us all someone to laugh at.
Oh also, this is a picture of me and my friends. Every Monday night we dress up in different costumes and take pictures just b/c it's fun. Usually though I only were Armani, Prada or Gucci. I wouldn't be caught dead in anything else.
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thats me on the very right. i look weird with curly hair eh!
ps. lisa..excellent work on the yellow scrunch socks! |
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| *~LiSa-LoO~* |
| quote: | Originally posted by spitty
thats me on the very right. i look weird with curly hair eh!
ps. lisa..excellent work on the yellow scrunch socks! |
Merci. You left one of your running shoes here. I don't understand how you walked all the way home with one running shoe and didn't notice. |
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| jchung52 |
| the blonde, second from the left is my gf. her name is miranda. her favourite position is on top |
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| zoogla |
LMFAO what happened in here?!?!
| quote: | Originally posted by Kamka
P.S. This thread sucks. I was hoping to read some serious discussion about the original question that this thread was started with, and by far most of the stuff posted here so far consists of arguments about vaginas & penises, and a macho dude trying to impress the audience with his virtual toughnesss.... no wonder it's got ten pages already!! (I was surprised at first to think that a question like this would have so many posts to it so fast, but now I see why :() |
I was thinking the same thing; how the hell did this thread grow so quickly!!! However, I disagree that it sucks. Very glad I was able to provide the next venue in the ongoing "Jennypie attacks" saga. Loved it!!! LOL!!!
| quote: | Originally posted by jennypie
Sorry for ruining your thread, fayraree. :/ |
You did no such thing, girl, and thanks for your initial advice...
| quote: | Originally posted by jennypie
I had sex with the guy I lost my virginity to again, many years after we had done it the first time. It pretty much confirmed my original thought that he had a small penis. See, I couldn't really tell the first time, cause I didn't have much experience with penises at that point.
Anyway, the second time around, I couldn't help but think, "God, he s like a pathetic loser", so I rolled over and passed out.
I hope that answers your question. :gsmile: |
It did make me think about things from a physical perspective, which is extremely important. But before I go there, I thought I'd clarify a couple of things because I think I left my first post a bit ambiguous. The girl we're talking about here is not Jenny, my ex-fiancee who I was with for 7 years; she's back in France and unfortunately I don't even know how she's doing because we haven't spoken/written since December :( Still at odds at whether or not to call her, but there is absolutely no possibility of marriage at this point and I wouldn't want to cause more heartache by contacting her...but let's leave that discussion for another thread (unless anyone has a question; I'd be happy to share!)
| quote: | Originally posted by spitty
often the issues that broke you up in the first place are still there. even though you may miss her and maybe even remember the relationship more fondly then it was, has anything changed so significantly that you think this time will be different then the last? have you re-evaluated your stance? has she changed hers? unless you have, this endeavoyr would be pointless and very painful |
| quote: | Originally posted by yankeeBaby
That is EXACTLY what I was thinking. I cant even add anymore to that!! ^^this girl always has the good answers!! ;) |
Totally agree with you Kelly, I love Andrea's thoughts.
In this particular relationship, when I was 21, I was a totally immature idiot (lol not much has changed) and I was head over heels with this girl who was 19 at the time and I was her first serious relationship. I had very lofty expectations and she could not (and did not want to) deliver. We were together for 8 months and I was basically her floor mat. Even when we broke up I acted in the most immature way possible. Anyway, facebook reconnected us and after I broke up with my fiancee, I've been longing for someone to fill the void, so just yesterday (minutes before my starting this thread) we had a long, deep discussion in which we resolved EVERY detail of the issues we had (which were not really issues; I had no patience and was a control freak...LOL things have SERIOUSLY not changed...LOL and she was not looking for love at the time, nor did she want to have sex). So we never even did anything together past 2nd base!!! LOL!!! Since then I've always wondered...
So to answer your questions, Andrea, those issues that caused the break up are no longer there because both of us have matured over the past 8 years and we can be more clear and open about our intentions. I think maybe most of your questions were in relation to Jenny, who this is not about, but I think your questions are still valid. I don't think this second-time around will be as painful, worst case scenario, just because my life has a bit more stability now than it did before, and I have way more experience on how to interact in a relationship.
| quote: | Originally posted by rabbitjoker
Dude - get over her and move on. |
RJ, thanks for looking out for me bro, but I'm happy that I am pretty much over my ex-fiancee (I think that's who you were referring to) although, I still do wonder about what she's up to...
| quote: | Originally posted by StereoPrincess
anyways Fahad, why did you guys break up before? |
We broke up because she didn't reciprocate my feelings for her and I guess she wasn't ready for a meaningful relationship back then. Kinda makes you wonder why we were together for 8 months but I guess you live and learn. She's totally different now (in a good way) so I'm considering getting back together.
| quote: | Originally posted by Spin Laden
Dr Phil-th suggests that the threadstarter stay away from his ex as will only make things more convoluted. However, seeing as you're both human, it's inevitable that you will get together. And if the previous issues remained dormant, then they will have to be addressed eventually. Be prepared to get/cause hurt as that could very well happen if you're both not on the same page here.
You may even get your closure one way or another if the same spark isn't there anymore. |
Good call. I feel like the spark is there, and there are no further issues as I mentioned above.
| quote: | Originally posted by drgoodvibe
I've found ex-sex to be generally a terrible idea. It digs up old feelings on either party and by the end of it when your ready to move on it's as if you have to breakup all over again.
Unless she's totally cool with keeping it strictly physical, and you are too -- It's not worth the trouble really.
-B |
Thanks, Ben. The breakup all over again would definitely suck, because I had really strong feelings for her long ago, but now that I think back, perhaps it could be interpreted as “puppy love”. Now it seems we have a deep understanding for each other, just from a few conversations because she remembers EVERYTHING about me, which is very flattering and makes me feel quite important. A few minor details like keeping the mixed CD I made for her 8 years ago and still listening to it from time to time and remembering me when she watched “our” movie; these little things mean a lot to me so a lot of emotion is coming back, but I’m still worried because I wouldn’t want to get burned again; but I could be burned in a new relationship too... I’m so confused!!! :(
| quote: | Originally posted by MissK
If we are speaking purely sexual:
yes, I think it is entirely fine to rekindle an ex as a sexual partner with no strings attached. It's comfortable.
If we are speaking back into a relationship:
this is probably a bad idea, as spitty said, you probably broke up for a reason. |
Thanks for the advice, K! Yeah, for me it would not be no-strings-attached, but I feel like this is technically a new relationship because we’ve changed so much over the years; perhaps I’m fooling myself but I’ll have to be patient and see where the “talk” takes us…
| quote: | Originally posted by MissK
Well, I think it depends on the situation....
From personal experience, the years apart took away the attached emotions and left me with a friendship love, and it was pure comfortable...as long as the 'rules' are laid out prior and all parties are a go... it's a dandy thing ;)
some people differ |
I think you hit it here, though, I’m feeling a lot of “friendship love” and feel so comfortable with her! But at the same time I feel pretty attracted because I’m curious about the sexual part because we never had sex…just fooled around.
| quote: | Originally posted by Jeff Button
Chances are - if it didn't work the first time, the second time will prove the same results. You'll just be wasting your time on somebody who will eventually let you down again (or vice versa), when you could be spending it looking for somebody who is actually good for you. It's easy to go back to someone you're comfortable with, simply because it's better than being single. But seriously re-consider that before making that move, you'll more than likely be thanking yourself in the long run. |
BINGO! This is exactly why I started this thread, not knowing which way to go. Thanks a lot for pointing this out, Jeff, after reviewing everyone’s comments I’m thinking that maybe the relationship I had with this girl 8 years ago doesn’t qualify as a full-fledged “normal” relationship with two mature people who know what they want in life. Now that we both know what we want I think it can be much more different. So I’m thinking I’ll take the chance…let’s see if she accepts me!
THANK YOU EVERYONE!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
P.S.
| quote: | Originally posted by spitty
you must be very very rich. |
LOL pwned.
| quote: | Originally posted by Kytracid
The problem Fayraree, is that you used the word sex in the thread title. I know you meant to attract attention and hopefully gain some valuable insight (from the enlightened masses that call TOTA home, no doubt). But you what really did was put a big sign on this thread that screamed 'Take a dump anywhere you want". You shoulda known better! Employing keywords like sex on this forum ensures a swift end to any real discussion and only serves to expedite the arrival of the attention whores and trolls. |
Thanks, Kytracid! However, I don’t see there being a problem because I’m totally happy with all the craziness that ensued. For someone who has taken his share of “dumps” in threads, I welcome it as part of the normal discourse of forum posting!
Carry on…LOL! :p |
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