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Love at First Sight? (pg. 2)
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| jsibilin |
| i believe in order to love someone truly you must hate them too.. since love and hate go hand-in-hand... |
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| zoogla |
| quote: | Originally posted by jsibilin
i believe in order to love someone truly you must hate them too.. since love and hate go hand-in-hand... |
I agree. |
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| barbina |
jesse you have to hate someone to love them?
i think you need to explain yourself a bit
i honestly dont believe in love
an extended infatuation and obsession.. yes
but the whole..i love you forever and so on .. no
so love at first sight is an obvious no here. |
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| EvilTree |
| still waiting to test out if this love at first sight is true or not... |
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| TheVrk |
| quote: | Originally posted by fayraree
I fall in love way too easily. As such, I believe in love at first sight. |
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| TheVrk |
| quote: | Originally posted by jsibilin
i believe in order to love someone truly you must hate them too.. since love and hate go hand-in-hand... |
TOTALLY disagree...love and hate don't go hand-in-hand AT ALL
Maybe hate certain things about the person, but not hate them as a person
Dude, i don't hate ANYBODY, let alone the ppl i love.
I love my sisters above anything else on this planet and i DEF don't ever hate them.
Again, i may not like some things they do, but as a whole i can only love them
Whoever told you or wherever you came up with this idea of love and hate going hand-in-hand is whack |
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| FunkyCrew |
| quote: | Originally posted by jsibilin
i believe in order to love someone truly you must hate them too.. since love and hate go hand-in-hand... |
I disagree
that would be some sort of masochistic one way relationship
and that's not even close to being true love, or even love at all
obsession? yes |
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| zoogla |
My perspective on the love/hate thing is that I get easily disappointed by the things that people I love do. I guess when I love someone, I develop certain expectations (I know that's wrong, for some reason that gets programmed into my mind as part of my strong feelings for someone). I've been doing a lot of introspection lately to isolate these "exepctations" because it's not fair for me to get so easily disappointed when ppl don't meet my high standards of their actions.
I have specific issues in mind that I don't have the time to get into detail; I'm not a love nazi or anything (lol) I'm only referring to people's intentions when you're in a serious relationship. So, when I find that those intentions aren't demonstrating love back to me, I get that feeling of hate. I truly hate it when the person I love ignores me without cause. But that feeling of hate (I guess a part of my personality is that I swing back and forth very easily from happiness to disappointment) makes me love sick...cuz I miss the person.
I know I probably don't make any sense :wtf: but I guess my point is that to me, it's important to feel both sides of the spectrum with someone (the strong love I can give, and the bitter hate from disappointment) in order to assess that I will be with this person forever. I don't think j was speaking about family; that's unconditional love as you're stuck with those ppl (lol don't mean that in a bad way; I love my sissies) for the rest of your life. But for a partner, you'd have to know how you feel through the good times AND the bad to be sure that he/she's a keeper. |
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| FunkyCrew |
| ^ but why would you want to be with someone who disappoints you?:) |
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| zoogla |
| quote: | Originally posted by FunkyCrew
^ but why would you want to be with someone who disappoints you?:) |
Because everyone disappoints me at some point and it's how I manage it + how the other person reacts that will compel me to stay with that person. Keep in mind, I'm only talking about "little" disappointments and not "big ones" like cheating or what not. |
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| TheVrk |
| quote: | Originally posted by fayraree
Because everyone disappoints me at some point and it's how I manage it + how the other person reacts that will compel me to stay with that person. Keep in mind, I'm only talking about "little" disappointments and not "big ones" like cheating or what not. |
Ya ppl will disappoint you inevitably..the question is how badly and to what extent...and how much do they care that they did
Your preceding post tho i can understand, especially the fam love part.
But it still doesnt change what i said.
When its about the person you love aka your partner or whatever, you can hate things about them, but not the actual person imo.
Love is pure...so if you hate someone at times its just not pure love...
OR you're just not defining what u feel towards that person properly.
Anger, disappointment, or hating what the person did to you - ya
Hating the person - NO |
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| TheVrk |
| quote: | Originally posted by TheVrk
Love is pure...so if you hate someone at times its just not pure love...
OR you're just not defining what u feel towards that person properly.
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If you're hating someone at times either you :
a) don't really love the person
b) genuinely care about them but don't actually love them...you may just think you do
b) don't love them at all and are infatuated with them or just physically attracted to them
Loving someone means you CAN'T hate them |
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