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Wake up call (pg. 4)
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| Skipper |
| quote: | Originally posted by Abercrombie
Thank you nomore for your thread. I see what you have been through and understand the negative experiences on one's life when drugs take the best of someone.
Myself and ALL my older friends of the scene, have a second life as well, where we don't let these worlds collide. We have great careers (for me, 12+yrs at probably the largest IT company in the world, and promoted several times in that span), some have families, cottages, go to BBQs, company picnics, etc... with friends outside of the scene) This is perhaps what you personally would call age-appropriate.
Perhaps we know what goes on more because we's seen it before in others, and fortunately for ourselves, learn from that.
When I was in my early 20s, sure I liked to test my limits like anyone else at that age. By the time you're 30-something, it becomes fairly clear where one is, where they are going, and think more about the future. Perhaps this is where you are now. I spent many years building my career, and my future. It's not easy, it's work. We all have avenues to the way which we work to deal with stress. For some, going to a club is a little getaway. It's a getaway, not a substitute for reality.
So life is all about balance. Going to extremes in both positive and negative is never good. Cutting everything out is not the key. "All things are good in moderation". So I'm glad you realized it was time to focus on your outside life, and working to improve it, and share your experience with others. |
Great post. |
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| Jayx1 |
| quote: | Originally posted by DiskoBiskit
Jayx1 - cant figure out how to cut and paste your aswers to Nomore questions, but;
Stop making excuses and burying your head in the sand. Surely you can't be that naive.
Nomore makes some VERY good points and I think that by arguing against what she / he says, you are denying that this could happen to you.
If you think you are invincable to the effects of partying, then you need to have a word with yourself.
The truth is that the scene is addictive whether you take drugs or not, especially if all your friends are in the scene. Like Nomore says, I know people who are incapable of talking about anything but the next party. It's frightening. |
Making excuses for what? I was addressing his condescending post about age and lifestyle. You dont know me and dont know my lifestyle. You dont know the lifestyle of many other older people outside a club.You dont know if i party every weekend or not. I can tell you that i know a lot of successful businessmen and even a doctor who hits the town hardcore almost every weekend. And in Europe its the norm, not the exception!
Either way, im not going to let someone talk down to people and lecture them on how to live their life based soley on their age and his opinion. I happen to be 32 and im sick of the canadian mentality that everyone is too old for everything by the time they hit 25... well these days i even hear 21 year olds saying it. Its sad.
So again i say, do what you want at any age as long as you dont hurt anyone and as long as you are happy doing it. |
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| ChemEnhanced |
| quote: | Originally posted by Moral Hazard
So, am I okay... do I have your permission to keep going out or do you, the self-appointed age appropriate party watch-dog deem me unfit to party? |
I think the bigger question is do you have Mrs. Hazard's permission to keep going out. :D |
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| Moral Hazard |
| quote: | Originally posted by ChemEnhanced
I think the bigger question is do you have Mrs. Hazard's permission to keep going out. :D |
Until the developing hazard arrives; yes, afterward is anybody's guess. |
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| English Rachel |
| quote: | Originally posted by Abercrombie
Thank you nomore for your thread. I see what you have been through and understand the negative experiences on one's life when drugs take the best of someone.
Myself and ALL my older friends of the scene, have a second life as well, where we don't let these worlds collide. We have great careers (for me, 12+yrs at probably the largest IT company in the world, and promoted several times in that span), some have families, cottages, go to BBQs, company picnics, etc... with friends outside of the scene) This is perhaps what you personally would call age-appropriate.
Perhaps we know what goes on more because we's seen it before in others, and fortunately for ourselves, learn from that.
When I was in my early 20s, sure I liked to test my limits like anyone else at that age. By the time you're 30-something, it becomes fairly clear where one is, where they are going, and think more about the future. Perhaps this is where you are now. I spent many years building my career, and my future. It's not easy, it's work. We all have avenues to the way which we work to deal with stress. For some, going to a club is a little getaway. It's a getaway, not a substitute for reality.
So life is all about balance. Going to extremes in both positive and negative is never good. Cutting everything out is not the key. "All things are good in moderation". So I'm glad you realized it was time to focus on your outside life, and working to improve it, and share your experience with others. |
yes yes yes yes yes
| quote: | Originally posted by Moral Hazard
Nope, the middle aged skasians have me beat by a decade or two.
Over 30, most of my friends are in the same ball park. I have more friends over 40 then in their early 20s; however, I fail to see the relavance of having younger friends.
Nope, nearly all of my friends are successful professionals or skilled trades persons.
Many of my friends have been friends since highschool.
I've paid off almost half my home in 3 years... I'd say I'm doing okay
Yes.
Yes, sometimes we even have real conversations at parties.
No.
I can party sober, I prefer not to.
So, am I okay... do I have your permission to keep going out or do you, the self-appointed age appropriate party watch-dog deem me unfit to party? |
yes yes yes yes yes |
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| capo tutti di |
| quote: | Originally posted by Jayx1
do what you want at any age as long as you dont hurt anyone and as long as you are happy doing it. |
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| Gen3r4l1ty |
| quote: | Originally posted by Abercrombie
Thank you nomore for your thread. I see what you have been through and understand the negative experiences on one's life when drugs take the best of someone.
Myself and ALL my older friends of the scene, have a second life as well, where we don't let these worlds collide. We have great careers (for me, 12+yrs at probably the largest IT company in the world, and promoted several times in that span), some have families, cottages, go to BBQs, company picnics, etc... with friends outside of the scene) This is perhaps what you personally would call age-appropriate.
Perhaps we know what goes on more because we's seen it before in others, and fortunately for ourselves, learn from that.
When I was in my early 20s, sure I liked to test my limits like anyone else at that age. By the time you're 30-something, it becomes fairly clear where one is, where they are going, and think more about the future. Perhaps this is where you are now. I spent many years building my career, and my future. It's not easy, it's work. We all have avenues to the way which we work to deal with stress. For some, going to a club is a little getaway. It's a getaway, not a substitute for reality.
So life is all about balance. Going to extremes in both positive and negative is never good. Cutting everything out is not the key. "All things are good in moderation". So I'm glad you realized it was time to focus on your outside life, and working to improve it, and share your experience with others. |
+1
Says it all. |
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| afterhrsgurl |
| quote: | Originally posted by Moral Hazard
Nope, the middle aged skasians have me beat by a decade or two |
hahahaha |
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| Mortyman |
To the poster...
Age is a state of mind man.
I'm still in the scene and I'm WIDE AWAKE, and happier than ever!
It sounds like YOU needed a wake up call. I'm glad you got one. |
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| Stilez |
| quote: | Originally posted by activate
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I agree with everything you've said in this thread so far.
Everyone eventually gets a 'wake-up' call at some point and time, and realizes the direction their lives are heading, and where they'd like to be. Some, quicker than others. Some, unfortunately, have to hit rock bottom to realize this. |
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| Abercrombie |
Bop till I drop!
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