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dating,, i am hopless (pg. 9)
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| jsibilin |
| quote: | Originally posted by Audious
Shut... the ... up. |
it's STFU.. u dumbass! |
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| tubularbills |
| quote: | Originally posted by Frenchie
LOL... |
i lawled too |
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| Lira |
You can now be hopful again.
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| Ania_xox |
| quote: | Originally posted by Fibonacci
dating is an interview? thats so ing lame. dating should be fun. if you really dont like the other person, oh well - it shouldn't be a waste of time. |
I think an actual date is the least complicated part of dating.
Just be yourself, don't be f*cking ghey... don't follow any stupid rules you have heard... do what feels natural... don't put on a show... whatever.
Even if you don't feel a connection with the person, that doesn't mean the evening should be wasted... have a good time anyway... go do something fun... movie, salsa, bowling, smoke a spliff, go in a public washroom lol whatever floats your boat.
The complications come after with the who should call first and when BS.
"What is too soon?"
"I don't wanna seem too forward."
"What did he/she think of last night?"
"Should I have done this? Should I have not done that?"
... it's enough to make anyone go insane. And the worst part is that it's all unnatural phenomena that's placed in people's heads as relationship propaganda... aka Dr. Phil or "Sex and the City" or the "He's just not that into you" book
It turns into this huge game of appearances and "symbols" and "hints" and "signals" and people are taught to ignore their instincts... when really - your gut feeling is all you should be going with when it comes to something as important as establishing a connection with someone who could ultimately be your partner in life.
k peace out...
/ghey epiphany :toocool: |
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| iammesol |
Why can't more people be like you?  |
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| wizniz |
tough to decipher the signals... youre being... honest?
i might like you, lets do tea & a spliff. |
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| kadomony |
| quote: | Originally posted by Ania_xox
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this is why men shouldn't take dating advice from women. :P
i'm feeling generous so here we go:
"I think an actual date is the least complicated part of dating.
Just be yourself, don't be f*cking ghey... don't follow any stupid rules you have heard... do what feels natural... don't put on a show... whatever."
wrongggggg. if he's being himself, he's being a guy that doesn't feel very confident around women. that's not attractive. i like the saying "if you keep doing what you've always done, you'll get what you've always had"- i forget who said this but it's awesome advice. dont put on a show? how else are you going to differentiate yourself from the other men that hit on her that week, or even THAT DAY.
"Even if you don't feel a connection with the person, that doesn't mean the evening should be wasted... have a good time anyway... go do something fun... movie, salsa, bowling, smoke a spliff, go in a public washroom lol whatever floats your boat."
sure it does. if you feel like it's not going anywhere, why waste your time with them when you could be talking to other women and getting more experience? eject politely and find someone else.
"The complications come after with the who should call first and when BS.
"What is too soon?"
"I don't wanna seem too forward."
"What did he/she think of last night?"
"Should I have done this? Should I have not done that?"
... it's enough to make anyone go insane. And the worst part is that it's all unnatural phenomena that's placed in people's heads as relationship propaganda... aka Dr. Phil or "Sex and the City" or the "He's just not that into you" book"
this is kinda true. call whenever you feel like (just not 5 minutes after you leave) and your 1st phone conversation better be DAMN interesting or you'll lose some or all of the attraction you built up with the girl.
"It turns into this huge game of appearances and "symbols" and "hints" and "signals" and people are taught to ignore their instincts... when really - your gut feeling is all you should be going with when it comes to something as important as establishing a connection with someone who could ultimately be your partner in life."
true, however society has ed up and suppressed a LOT of guys internal feelings and they don't know how to deal with it or have a fear of escalating to sex as it's not "proper" or some such . |
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| wizniz |
| god damnit, kado... god damnit... |
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| noikeee |
| quote: | Originally posted by kadomony
"I think an actual date is the least complicated part of dating.
Just be yourself, don't be f*cking ghey... don't follow any stupid rules you have heard... do what feels natural... don't put on a show... whatever."
wrongggggg. if he's being himself, he's being a guy that doesn't feel very confident around women. that's not attractive. |
Exactly. "Just being yourself" only works if you have an attractive personality in the first place... |
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| Ania_xox |
| quote: | Originally posted by kadomony
this is why men shouldn't take dating advice from women. :P
i'm feeling generous so here we go: |
It wasn't meant as dating advice for men.
It also wasn't directed explicitly for the males here.
It wasn't really meant as advice necessarily either.
Just my general opinions on dating based on MY personal experiences and those of my friends/colleagues.
I don't really like your way of debunking my post there... I think you misinterpreted a lot and took a lot personally... not sure.
The only thing I feel it necessary to reply to is the confidence bit. Hugely important (for me... and for a fair amount of the ladies out there I think)... but again - not meant to be exemplified via "putting on a show". Guys who do this tend to make ing asses of themselves. I've seen girls look like total morons too, attempting to demonstrate how "self-accepting" they are.
Quiet confidence is so ing hot in a guy. Speaks volumes. |
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| Ted Promo |
| Let me paint your chromosomes. |
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| Fibonacci |
| i would never continue to date a chick that farted on the first date |
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