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People you feel you should like but you don't... (pg. 3)
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| chimera66 |
| quote: | Originally posted by silene
I've been trying to figure this one out. There's a person who I interact with on a rather frequent basis, either in person or over IM. She's really sweet, compassionate, smart, and sincerely means well for those in her life. I have no legit reason not to like her. But she's just not that socially adept and, honestly, quite unattractive (saying this makes me feel like a huge cock, but it's true.) I generally like to think that I'm humane enough to be above such low judgments, but I don't just not have fun when I'm around her, she positively irritates me like no one else does. All of this is making me feel like a horrible person. I feel like I should like her for her humility and empathy since I love those characteristics in others. But somehow it's just not enough for her. I've been trying to force myself to like her, but for some strange reason I can barely tolerate her.
Feel free to share personal stories to alleviate my suffering and let me know I'm not alone (please :nervous:?) Am I a shallow ****, or could it be that her and I are just incompatible? She's very innocent and naive, while I'm also naive but much more outgoing and partake in almost every debauchery. |
everyone is nice to someone so just because someone is nice to you doesn't mean you should like them back. i can think of three people right now that i don't like just because. i have accepted that there are people i just won't like and it doesn't matter how hard they try that will just piss me off more. as for the attractive thing you don't like her and even if she was good looking that shouldn't change the person inside. if it makes you feel better i have a friend who i don't think will make friends with unattractive people, she's never said it but i see how she is...glad i got "in" at 15 ;) |
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| silene |
| quote: | Originally posted by SteelWolf
Haha been there man... the really sweet girl and shes all cool but... can't get past the 4 chins... now, I loooove a thick girl but theres a limit! Big difference between a little pudge and GOD DAMN!!!! Fat girls need love too, BUT THEY GOTTA PAY!!!!!! |
:haha: unfortunately (?? is it?) most fat girls can find someone to bang anytime they want. There are plenty of guys who'll hit anything.
| quote: | | would you let her suck your c*ck? |
no, but I'd def. let you. call me? Unless you have 4 chins. That's my limit.
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everyone is nice to someone so just because someone is nice to you doesn't mean you should like them back. i can think of three people right now that i don't like just because. i have accepted that there are people i just won't like and it doesn't matter how hard they try that will just piss me off more. as for the attractive thing you don't like her and even if she was good looking that shouldn't change the person inside. if it makes you feel better i have a friend who i don't think will make friends with unattractive people, she's never said it but i see how she is |
Is your friend attractive? Could be an insecurity thing. Oh, and you sound like a cock, though there's probably more to it than what you said. Why the wouldn't you like someone 'just because?'
I think I finally figured out why I don't like her - it's her voice. One part annoying voice one part czech (?) accent. A person's voice has always been important to me, for some reason. Combine a funny voice with an awkward speech pattern, and I just find myself being repulsed.
I'm a as well. :p |
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| heathen |
really?
i've always found czech accents so sexy. |
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| malek |
close friendship between males and females without any sexual tension is bull unless you're gay.
I'm not talking about a girl you hang with from times to times, buddies of some sort (even with that, there's always some sexual mingling going on).
Its perfectly normal for you not to dig her because you're not attracted to her physically, thats how things are dude, don't fight it. |
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| heathen |
| quote: | Originally posted by malek
close friendship between males and females without any sexual tension is bull unless you're gay.
I'm not talking about a girl you hang with from times to times, buddies of some sort (even with that, there's always some sexual mingling going on).
Its perfectly normal for you not to dig her because you're not attracted to her physically, thats how things are dude, don't fight it. |
Embrace it. |
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| malek |
Personnaly, I simply don't dig, and I mean at all, people with rabbit teeth. I will mock them and avoid dealing with them the best I can.
go figure |
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| EXTREMUM |
| quote: | Originally posted by echosystm
the only female friends i do have are ones i want to bang.
it's normal. |
I can relate. :o |
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| silene |
| quote: | Originally posted by malek
close friendship between males and females without any sexual tension is bull unless you're gay. |
I'm bi, so I'm kinda ed then, no? :p
honestly, I learned to build purely platonic friendships with anyone. Though I guess I would most of my friends, given the chance, which makes me a bloody hypocrite.
can i 'embrace' you instead? :p |
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| jastiC |
bi as in u take up arse?
or put in brown male hole?
:p |
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| silene |
| quote: | Originally posted by jastiC
bi as in u take up arse?
or put in brown male hole?
:p |
neither actually. |
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| Halcyon+On+On |
It's taken until relatively recently for me to realize that I in fact feel this exact same way about most people, especially female friends. :stongue:
Genuine attraction is an oddly rare thing for me - it tends to take time and personal exploration for me to actually like someone on an individual level.
But don't take this as me saying you're normal - I'm usually a pretty poor basis of comparison when it comes to social relationships and normality. :p
But I suppose I do very much identify with your situation in that I have had exact experiences to relate with. That said, I also posess female acquaintances who are quite attractive as well as those who most certainly are not. Funny thing about the world is that there's really nobody who is universally un-attractive... I mean outside of TA, of course. Like, there is always somebody for someone out there - I'm not talking about that lofty bull called love - I mean sex and attraction. Perhaps it all too often resorts to merely settling for someone's poor physical condition or just plain hideous looks... we'd all like to think we never have to settle, but if it seems like a whole lot of people end up doing just that. :stongue:
I can recall a few people I was somewhat repulsed with or irritated by upon first impression whom I warmed up to over time. Sometimes exposure is all it takes. But sometimes not. I would recommend getting to know her as well as you are comfortable with - give her a chance if you think there may be something there by your acknowledgment of her attraction to you. You may be totally wrong. I know I have been before. But you may very well be right, too - what's most important is trusting your own feelings, keeping an open mind and accepting people for who they are. If all else fails, string her heart along for a while so she can buy you food and drugs, then beat the out of her just for the fun of it. Ahh, the human heart. |
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| AlphaStarred |
| From what I see, you're in a kind of dilemma: either tell her you don't want to keep company with her any longer (being absolutely blunt about it) or tell her to grow a spine and start being a little selfish (being absolutely blunt about it). |
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