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Aspects of your personality that have a double edge. (pg. 2)
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| idoru |
| quote: | Originally posted by gehzumteufel
This one time Lee Burridge was spinning and a record he had was scratched but he didn't see it. The music stopped and he just went with it. The ability to deal with these things in a public setting and allow criticisms is what makes you a BETTER musician and dj. |
Oh, I know. I'm perfectly capable of taking criticism and always like when something goes wrong because it teaches me something. There's nothing wrong with having an off-beat mix once in a while or accidentally pressing down on the platter of the wrong CDJ. I know this, but the perfectionist inside me can't stand it one bit. |
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| RJT |
There is only one perfect DJ in the world and his name is Danny Howells.
Everyone else s up from time to time, and in my mind, it's the ones who up but don't let it consume them who are the most fun to see play.
Jake, you're good at what you do and I wish you weren't so self-conscious about it. |
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| Project-K |
| quote: | Originally posted by gehzumteufel
It's easier to stay in your comfort zone than to venture out where it could have worse repercussions than your usual actions. It is hard to say that either is better really. |
I think the greatest thing about being like this is that it allows some very interresting relationships with people who are the opposite. Most of my friends are fiercely competitive (like RJT described), and I provide a balance in a group; they charge forth agressively and I'm the guy who sits back and makes sure nothing bad happends. |
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| gehzumteufel |
| quote: | Originally posted by RJT
Well part of the problem the second time was that if you challenge me on something I'm very passionate about and feel like I have a good handle on, I absolutely will not tolerate the perpetuation of half truths or lies. In those cases, where someone just digs in their heels and doesn't particularly care to acknowledge that they're saying some pretty ridiculous things I get even more ed off and that's when I end up at a point where I ask myself "For s sake, is this even worth it anymore?"
It's often a fine line between education and arrogance, and unfortunately the impression of me I know loads of people are left with falls into the latter, and not the former category. |
Believe me, I feel the same way. I become a super when people talk about things that they know all about, and I have to go in and set it straight. I had to do that with a thread on another forum, and I do it with people that try to talk about cars and know jack (Kinetic energy is guilty of this! ugh) about them. So I have been in your exact shoes. When I would argue about anything and everything, even if I didn't know about it, everyone took me as an arrogant that can't be wrong. As I said, it took stumbling on something that I *shouldn't* have seen, but I did. It was good that I did, as it helped me. The fact that you realize that you do this, is commendable itself. What I *try* to do, is as I am arguing, I try to slow down, think about the response, and then rebut. It usually helps me keep a handle on the argument and not get out of control or anything. I will also, end an argument myself, if I see that neither side will agree. It is something that normally helps keep everything more positive. These things work well for me, but I have no idea what would work best for others. |
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| idoru |
| quote: | Originally posted by RJT
There is only one perfect DJ in the world and his name is Danny Howells.
Everyone else s up from time to time, and in my mind, it's the ones who up but don't let it consume them who are the most fun to see play.
Jake, you're good at what you do and I wish you weren't so self-conscious about it. |
Thank you, Rob. |
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| gehzumteufel |
| quote: | Originally posted by idoru
Oh, I know. I'm perfectly capable of taking criticism and always like when something goes wrong because it teaches me something. There's nothing wrong with having an off-beat mix once in a while or accidentally pressing down on the platter of the wrong CDJ. I know this, but the perfectionist inside me can't stand it one bit. |
Well, just deal with it! lol jk :p
| quote: | Originally posted by RJT
There is only one perfect DJ in the world and his name is Danny Howells.
Everyone else s up from time to time, and in my mind, it's the ones who up but don't let it consume them who are the most fun to see play.
Jake, you're good at what you do and I wish you weren't so self-conscious about it. |
haha while I love Howells, I think that there are others that have the skills he does. Burridge is one of them imo. Sasha & Digweed probably another, even if I am bored with Sasha.
| quote: | Originally posted by Project-K
I think the greatest thing about being like this is that it allows some very interesting relationships with people who are the opposite. Most of my friends are fiercely competitive (like RJT described), and I provide a balance in a group; they charge forth aggressively and I'm the guy who sits back and makes sure nothing bad happens. |
haha that's probably a really good thing then! Considering how men can get retarded in an argument. |
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| Moral Hazard |
| I'd have to say that the biggest double edged personality trait I have is that I'm indifferent to people's feelings... note; I'm not insensitive, I just don't care. This carries with it obvious negatives socially; however, it also provides a great many benefits in terms of clarity of communication and efficiency in interpersonal and professional dealings. Ultimately, the advantages usually outweigh the disadvantages but I have made a concerted effort to be a little less curt in recent years. |
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| gehzumteufel |
| quote: | Originally posted by Moral Hazard
I'd have to say that the biggest double edged personality trait I have is that I'm indifferent to people's feelings... note; I'm not insensitive, I just don't care. This carries with it obvious negatives socially; however, it also provides a great many benefits in terms of clarity of communication and efficiency in interpersonal and professional dealings. Ultimately, the advantages usually outweigh the disadvantages but I have made a concerted effort to be a little less curt in recent years. |
I have been accused of this at times too. :( |
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| KiNeTiC ENeRgY |
| quote: | Originally posted by gehzumteufel
Believe me, I feel the same way. I become a super when people talk about things that they know all about, and I have to go in and set it straight. I had to do that with a thread on another forum, and I do it with people that try to talk about cars and know jack (Kinetic energy is guilty of this! ugh) about them. So I have been in your exact shoes. When I would argue about anything and everything, even if I didn't know about it, everyone took me as an arrogant that can't be wrong. As I said, it took stumbling on something that I *shouldn't* have seen, but I did. It was good that I did, as it helped me. The fact that you realize that you do this, is commendable itself. What I *try* to do, is as I am arguing, I try to slow down, think about the response, and then rebut. It usually helps me keep a handle on the argument and not get out of control or anything. I will also, end an argument myself, if I see that neither side will agree. It is something that normally helps keep everything more positive. These things work well for me, but I have no idea what would work best for others. |
seriously, how can u say I know jack about cars? You have no clue what I have done. I screw with more peoples heads than u will ever know. I grew up in exotic car shops my Father owns. I worked for 10 years at auto body and mechanical shops...actually 4 different shops since I was 15, and put myself through college busting my ass covered in bondo dust, grease and paint. I have done more with cars than u can imagine. I raced and built Yamaha karts, Shifter Karts when I was 12, re-built the engines for them, built small and big block Fords from empty blocks to complete long blocks, welded roll cages and tubs for drag cars, installed suspensions, brakes, drag raced an 89 steeda Mustang for 3 years while in school, with nitrous systems and went supercharged for a while. I laughed when u went searching for glass headlight assemblies for a late model Mustang, which demonstrated your knowledge but I'm not going to sit here and gloat anymore about my experience. *steps off soap box* :D |
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| jdat |
I am extremely sensitive to my surroundings yet I easily get aggravated by peoples behaviors towards me especially close friends with the nagging etc.
One example I could give is when I drive I tend to be extremely alert of other drivers, I try to be respectful etc. I do try mega fast so if I wasn't conscious of what was going on I'd be dead long ago.
So in this particular case I'm respectful regarding others but when they do something obnoxious I could throw a fit. Multiple times visions of myself walking out of my vehicle and shattering the "opponents" windows with a crowbar have taken over my every thought.
This heightened sensibly to others makes me more alert to what others may be going through, I am also prone to crying while watching movies or listen to broken hearted chick music. Various emotions of the sort are also found in the way I work, I analyze, and drifting away from this notion that we are all the same, hence all must understand me and the local common "us".
Flip side of the coin when people nag me I can become super sensitive about it. If it's direct confrontation questioning what it is I am doing I can speak in a toned matter and defend me myself and I.
If you piss me off as a joke I can sometimes turn into a ragging ball of fire and want to kill you.
My way of being is also found in the way I work. Countless times I have been told that I pay way too much attention to details and am excessively demanding. But the sweet irony is despite the fact I'll concentrate hard on minute details, I tend to be more productive as others ( a lot of this stems from being able to lay things down and get to work much quicker and also higher technical operational speed and ability ) |
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| lücid |
| quote: | Originally posted by UWM
Being a perfectionist is both a blessing and a curse. Your work is always good but you're never truly satisfied. |
i can totally agree with that.
i think there are a lot of aspects of my personality that tend to affect me in both positive and negative ways. i tend to be very cautious, reserved, defensive, emotionally intense, and selfish... which all serve as barriers that protect me, but they can also make me seem withdrawn, intimidating, or antisocial at times. it takes a lot to earn my trust and i won't show my true self until i feel totally comfortable around someone. this makes it hard for me socialize and network in social situations, but the friendships and relationships i do keep are much stronger and more passionate in return. |
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| jdat |
| quote: | Originally posted by lücid
i can totally agree with that.
i think there are a lot of aspects of my personality that tend to affect me in both positive and negative ways. i tend to be very cautious, reserved, defensive, emotionally intense, and selfish... which all serve as barriers that protect me, but they can also make me seem withdrawn, intimidating, or antisocial at times. it takes a lot to earn my trust and i won't show my true self until i feel totally comfortable around someone. this makes it hard for me socialize and network in social situations, but the friendships and relationships i do keep are much stronger and more passionate in return. |
very much with you on most counts.
This past weekend there was some church weekend thingy my parents wanted me to go to. Most of the people there were pissing me off asking me ignorant questions just trying to make conversion and I just hate that.
Tonight my father was asking me about the weekend and saying I appeared distant. I went on explaining that I can't stand doubt the whole chatty thing. If there isn't something of interest there you can right bugger off.
Friends are an investement in time and I don't want to waste my time on people who are worthless to me. Feel free to read into this as pseudo-seflish behavior, but if not being alone at times means being with people that you have zero interest in I prefer the former. |
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