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halp...am i too nice
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| chimera66 |
When do you cross that line of being too helpful and shooting yourself in the foot? I’ll start by saying I seriously believe my boss has next to no idea what I do everyday and sometimes I wonder if she even cares. She doesn’t care about process, just the results and half the time she’ll know about a big project she wants you to do but won’t tell you to do it until an hour before it’s due back to her :wtf::. Needless to say some people have difficulties working like this…those people get flustered, stressed and can’t get stuff done in time. I just get done, anyhow it’s gotten to the point where I’m constantly shielding others from failing (particularly one person because I pretty much do her job with me getting any type of credit). The one person in particular relies on me so much that when I’ve taken a sick day I can’t trust her to have handled her responsibilies as well as the things I’ve asked her to do for me for that day. I think I’m being nice but am I doing myself more harm than good? This week I’ve stopped helping this person but it’s so hard :( because all she talks about is how stressed she is and how she can’t sleep but maybe I need to do this…she’s the worst culprit but there is one person way above me who takes credit for everyone else’s work including my own and I’m just pissed. it really bothers me because after having a talk with my boss there was the idea that i need to learn more before moving up to the next level...i know i am but i can really back myself up by telling on everyone which i won't do in so many words.
c0r version: I help people, they take credit for it, I get no credit. Am I ing myself over and should I just let people fail on their own? I think it's starting to hurt me professionally :( |
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| XaNaX |
| Take a two week vacation. The people that require your help daily will fail and be exposed in that time period. problem solved |
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| hectorc |
| Do your own job. Stop helping the leaches.:clown: |
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| chimera66 |
| quote: | Originally posted by XaNaX
Take a two week vacation. The people that require your help daily will fail and be exposed in that time period. problem solved |
i am taking vaca in like 3weeks but the problem is the biggest offender is taking her vacation the same time as me and our boss is out of town :(. i think i just have to say something but pose it in an interesting way...my boss doesn't have time to talk to any of us so she has definitely expressed to me in the past that she wants us to tell her what's going on. she likes me but i don't want to be the dept whinner, someone else tells her everything and now our boss just ignores that person's opinion. |
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| Silky Johnson |
| Get some balls and tell people to do their own work, you have your own work to do. |
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| chimera66 |
| quote: | Originally posted by jennypie
Get some balls and tell people to do their own work, you have your own work to do. |
i KNOW but i still don't have to feel good about it...i'm that person who doesn't mind doing it all because it gets done but it's hurting me now. |
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| Silky Johnson |
Well sounds to me like you're confused about what kind of person you are.
You're either assertive, or you're not. If you don't *really* want to do anything about it, then stop whining. |
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| verndogs |
| Well, if her projects sound impressive, you may as well put it on your resume :gsmile: |
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| elFreak |
| punch one homeless person/orphan/handicap a day for 30 days and you will running the company in 6 months.;) |
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| DigitalPhoenix |
you're too nice...stop being an idiot and let other people do their own
who's gonna run to you when you need help?
this chick is holding on to the fact that you've been her cushion all this time
and believe me when I tell you that she'll expect it to be so
as long as you have a job there..
In other words: dont do eeeeet anymore! :mad: |
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| trunks1022 |
| quote: | Originally posted by chimera66
i KNOW but i still don't have to feel good about it...i'm that person who doesn't mind doing it all because it gets done but it's hurting me now. |
it's work, these people aren't your friends. |
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| chimera66 |
| quote: | Originally posted by jennypie
Well sounds to me like you're confused about what kind of person you are.
You're either assertive, or you're not. If you don't *really* want to do anything about it, then stop whining. |
i DO want to do something, i just don't want to feel like a douche bag while doing it because the woman i'm talking about is the nicest person in the world...she bakes me damn cookies and buys my favorite snacks for no reason. i was just wondering if being assertive is the right thing to do which it clearly sounds like it is...i gotta pay for my master's degree somehow so not going to sit on my ass and get passed over |
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