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Delaying adulthood, floating forever in adolescence (pg. 3)
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| Zild |
| quote: | Originally posted by R.j.
Whoa, you lost me; do you mean why would I want to leave from my folks' house? |
Right why struggle when it isn't necessary? |
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| KiNeTiC ENeRgY |
| 3 & 6 is how I see things. The economy is worldwide. Growing up really does suck, and so does committing to one person forever. Divorce rate is at an all time high...it is time for change. I was lucky enough to get my degree without a single loan of any kind, and even with that, I have had to struggle at times. Luckily I'm in a better place now and able to buy expensive toys. My advice is u need to choose a BF/GF that is actually going somewhere with their life. You can't just get with someone. You really need to know how they are financially and if they can be trusted and that they want to better their lives. It might sound shallow, but your supposed to Marry up, or get with someone who is better off then u :D |
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| elFreak |
the economy is not worldwide.
speak for yourself;) |
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| R.j. |
| quote: | Originally posted by Lira
Yup. |
Ah, well that's an easy one, a no-brainer: First off, I "lived" in Laredo, Texas, aka the -hole of Texas (once rated the worst city to live in--and for good reason, too); it's located right next to the border, and, well, if you want to do anything serious with your life, there's basically, essentially no way to reach any goals in that city.
Two, I want to be a novelist, and, if I'm lucky enough, a film-maker so that I can adapt my stories to the screen. In Laredo, I would have no chance whatsoever to accomplish or get anywhere near accomplishing those goals. So, I figured, get as far away as possible, to somewhere I can master my writing craft... and, later, when and if I'm published, I can relocate to another area where I can study film, etc. I've planned this all, and the only thing that's missing is the work, which I'm barely getting started on.
So far, I think I'm making great progress; I've written three novel-length stories and dozens of short stories. Next semester, after I'm rather settled, I'll be resuming my schooling at the college here.
That's about it. |
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| KiNeTiC ENeRgY |
| quote: | Originally posted by elFreak
the economy is not worldwide.
speak for yourself;) |
Ok well China is booming and they own the US so your correct, hehe. |
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| Zild |
| quote: | Originally posted by R.j.
Ah, well that's an easy one, a no-brainer: First off, I "lived" in Laredo, Texas, aka the -hole of Texas (once rated the worst city to live in--and for good reason, too); it's located right next to the border, and, well, if you want to do anything serious with your life, there's basically, essentially no way to reach any goals in that city.
Two, I want to be a novelist, and, if I'm lucky enough, a film-maker so that I can adapt my stories to the screen. In Laredo, I would have no chance whatsoever to accomplish or get anywhere near accomplishing those goals. So, I figured, get as far away as possible, to somewhere I can master my writing craft... and, later, when and if I'm published, I can relocate to another area where I can study film, etc. I've planned this all, and the only thing that's missing is the work, which I'm barely getting started on.
So far, I think I'm making great progress; I've written three novel-length stories and dozens of short stories. Next semester, after I'm rather settled, I'll be resuming my schooling at the college here.
That's about it. |
I would have GTFO of Laredo too. I understand why you left. |
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| elFreak |
| quote: | Originally posted by KiNeTiC ENeRgY
Ok well China is booming and they own the US so your correct, hehe. |
The Mexicans to the north of you are also prospering;) |
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| RJT |
| quote: | Originally posted by Allied Nations
Go out? Meet people?
There must be a bar close-by, no matter how ! |
Believe me - in Wisconsin, finding a bar is not a problem, but meh - I've done the bar scene here before, and honestly, it's the same burnt out kids who've never left home and are still in the dead end jobs they had in high school. Just a very depressing overall experience.
There's one place I like going out to up here (actually a lounge I'm going to begin spinning at again in a few weeks), but waiting for my job to start and having little to no money while doing so also kind of cramps that as well.
Just an odd few months after graduating, I guess. Being gone for 5+ years and coming back it really feels like a different world. |
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| Lira |
| quote: | Originally posted by R.j.
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So, in your case, you've got a good reason to live (similar to mine, actually). But, if you can achieve your goals while you're at your parents' house, why would you want to leave?
The way you put it, it seems like there was a moral obligation behind this issue (i.e. ~unless you move out, you're a lazy bastard~). |
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| R.j. |
| quote: | Originally posted by Lira
The way you put it, it seems like there was a moral obligation behind this issue (i.e. ~unless you move out, you're a lazy bastard~). |
Well, I guess that opinion came from living in Laredo; the situation there is horrible, trust me. But, like I said, it's just an opinion, and, perhaps, after living out of that city for sometime it'll change.
As for, "But, if you can achieve your goals while you're at your parents' house, why would you want to leave?," the way I see it, personally, is, when asked years after how did you accomplish whatever feat you've accomplished, doesn't it sound more, I don't know, noble? (I can't really think of a better word) to say that you started, essentially, from scratch? I guess what I'm trying to say is (and maybe it sounds a bit snobbish, a bit haughty), wouldn't you feel more complete that you did all of what you did by yourself? I know it isn't the most popular feeling around, but, for me, that's how it is. |
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| epdarks |
For me it's about sacrifice...
Why would I give up my parents 5000 sq/ft house, 4 cars, cabin, free food, etc... just so I could live in a studio apartment in the ghetto, barely scraping by? I can save nearly $1000/month more living at home. In another year I'll be able to buy a decent place and be out of debt.
So #5 for me. |
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| SYSTEM-J |
I'm trying my very best to avoid it. I'll be out of university at 21 with no debt whatsoever. My cousin got out this year and he told me that too many people don't think about jobs until they've graduated. He told me to start looking as soon as my final year begins (this month), which is what he did. He's got out of university and has gone straight into a job.
I don't want to live here for any longer, I really don't. I live in a mining village in the limbo between countryside and city. Our house is too small for the four people that live in it- my bedroom is smaller than the room I had in a hall of residence last year, and my possessions literally won't fit in my house anymore. I go to the pub and the parents of everyone I went to school with rub shoulders at the bar with their (grown up) children.
No tiny apartment can be smaller than the space I inhabit at home. No part of the world can be less interesting than this village. Staying here for the comforts really isn't worth it. |
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