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Couples with an X difference
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| Lira |
Eric (Vivid Boy) was talking in another thread about how weird it is for another TA to be married to a guy 10 years her senior. I, however, always thought guys should me older than girls in relationships, as it's quite common around here (my dad is 10 years older than my mother, my mother-in-law was 10 years younger than my late father-in-law, and I could number quite few couples with a similar age difference). In that sense, I find age difference to be meaningless in a relationship.
I do find it weird, however, to meet couples with religious differences. And, once again, I think it's not uncommon for someone in the relationship to convert to another faith in order to keep the relationship going: I've met a couple of Asian exchange students, for example, that converted to Christianity so they could live according to the beliefs of the person they love(d). In that sense, I don't think I'd be able to date a girl that was deeply religious (unless she was Buddhist, I guess I could open an exception to atheist religions :p). Otherwise, I think it would take a lot of tolerance to be in a relationship like that... and I often worry religious people are not as tolerant as I wish they could be (unless they're Moral Hazard, but he's a married guy :p).
So, what I mean is that, to me, the biological factor (i.e. age/ethnic background) is far less important than the worldview (i.e. religion/ideology) in a relationship, and I wonder if you guys agree or disagree with me. What would you find weirder? A couple with an age difference? A so-called interracial couple? Inter-faith marriages? |
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| denys envy |
| what does religion have to do with love? |
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| Project-K |
| I find inter-faith couples weirdest because I can't relate to them on any level. |
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| chach |
| quote: | Originally posted by denys envy
what does religion have to do with love? |
Really. Love conquers all. |
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| zoogla |
| this is a job for the Official TOTA Multicultural Dating thread |
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| denys envy |
| quote: | Originally posted by chach
Really. Love conquers all. |
All you need is love.
...John Lennon. Smart man. Shot in the back, very sad. |
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| nchs09 |
| quote: | Originally posted by denys envy
All you need is love.
...John Lennon. Smart man. Shot in the back, very sad. |
hehe |
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| Lira |
| quote: | Originally posted by denys envy
what does religion have to do with love? |
Religion (or lack thereof) is a fundamental aspect of our worldview, and it is not just an individual choice, but a social form of engagement with the world.
When you're a deeply rooted Christian, for example, Faith is one of the most important aspects of daily life. If you're a Buddhist, on the other hand, faith - if you can retain the use of this word - becomes something else entirely. At home, I used to face a lot of problems because I'm not religious, my dad is a Catholic and my mother is a die-hard Spiritualist. It felt as if no-one of us lived in the same world. I've seen couples break up because one person in the relationship converted to another religion and their views on what mattered in life became diametrically opposed.
So, I don't find it weird in the sense that I think it's wrong (in case that's what Chach understood). I admit I admire inter-faith couples, because I don't think I'd be able to have similar relationship for more than 5 minutes. |
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| denys envy |
| quote: | Originally posted by Lira
Religion (or lack thereof) is a fundamental aspect of our worldview, and it is not just an individual choice, but a social form of engagement with the world.
When you're a deeply rooted Christian, for example, Faith is one of the most important aspects of daily life. If you're a Buddhist, on the other hand, faith - if you can retain the use of this word - becomes something else entirely. At home, I used to face a lot of problems because I'm not religious, my dad is a Catholic and my mother is a die-hard Spiritualist. It felt as if no-one of us lived in the same world. I've seen couples break up because one person in the relationship converted to another religion and their views on what mattered in life became diametrically opposed.
So, I don't find it weird in the sense that I think it's wrong (in case that's what Chach understood). I admit I admire inter-faith couples, because I don't think I'd be able to have similar relationship for more than 5 minutes. |
i think you're just a bigot and need to get the over it. your "worldview" doesn't necessary determine how others choose to interact with people.
i mean if you choose to put so much importance on such a baseless thing as religion, go right ahead. personally, when i meet a girl, relgion takes a backseat to character, personality, physical looks, and sanity. if a girl is great to bring out among friends, can hold a conversation, treats me right, arouses my penis any given minute, and can - then she can believe in the flying spaghetti monster, for all i care. |
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| chach |
| quote: | Originally posted by denys envy
i think you're just a bigot and need to get the over it. your "worldview" doesn't necessary determine how others choose to interact with people.
i mean if you choose to put so much importance on such a baseless thing as religion, go right ahead. personally, when i meet a girl, relgion takes a backseat to character, personality, physical looks, and sanity. if a girl is great to bring out among friends, can hold a conversation, treats me right, arouses my penis any given minute, and can - then she can believe in the flying spaghetti monster, for all i care. |
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| T-Soma |
| quote: | Originally posted by denys envy
personally, when i meet a girl, relgion takes a backseat to character, personality, physical looks, and sanity. |
I think Lira is saying that religion is apart of the character/personality of a person. |
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