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Stoned Sex (pg. 5)
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| Krypton |
| Women have to concentrate on orgasming while guys have to concentrate on NOT orgasming... |
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| squirrelly |
| quote: | Originally posted by Krypton
Women have to concentrate on orgasming while guys have to concentrate on NOT orgasming... |
Incorrect. I don't concentrate at all. |
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| Krypton |
| quote: | Originally posted by squirrelly
Incorrect. I don't concentrate at all. |
It was a generalization based on the assumption orgasming for women is more difficult than for a guy. |
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| Spam |
| quote: | Originally posted by Krypton
Women have to concentrate on orgasming while guys have to concentrate on NOT orgasming... |
I always thought that the only thing holding fems from orgasm were their own thoughts going through their head. I would estimate, based on that information, that women need to stop concentrating in general to more easily reach orgasm.
I think it's a similar thing with guys too. Thinking about it makes it harder to hold off the O. You should try remembering sports stats or try to play your favourite video-game in your head to take your mind off of what's happening down below, rather than focusing on the orgasm, and how you're not supposed to have it right away.
That, or find a better girlfriend. One of my closest female friends claims she gets angry when her bf tries to hold off his orgasm. "I don't care if it takes 30 seconds or 30 minutes, the guy getting off is the whole point! Besides, in a half hour you can go for round 2, and he can last for hours then."
I think the problem is that many women are only down for round-1, so guys feel pressured to make it last longer than it needs to. Get the first round done and over with, have some 'fun' for a while, and when you're good to go again, finish her off! |
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| Krypton |
| quote: | Originally posted by Spam
I always thought that the only thing holding fems from orgasm were their own thoughts going through their head. I would estimate, based on that information, that women need to stop concentrating in general to more easily reach orgasm.
I think it's a similar thing with guys too. Thinking about it makes it harder to hold off the O. You should try remembering sports stats or try to play your favourite video-game in your head to take your mind off of what's happening down below, rather than focusing on the orgasm, and how you're not supposed to have it right away.
That, or find a better girlfriend. One of my closest female friends claims she gets angry when her bf tries to hold off his orgasm. "I don't care if it takes 30 seconds or 30 minutes, the guy getting off is the whole point! Besides, in a half hour you can go for round 2, and he can last for hours then."
I think the problem is that many women are only down for round-1, so guys feel pressured to make it last longer than it needs to. Get the first round done and over with, have some 'fun' for a while, and when you're good to go again, finish her off! |
Great idea! |
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| squirrelly |
It is more difficult, but not because of "concentration" - but women not knowing what will cause them to cum. They don't know what they do or do not like, and are afraid to take the more aggressive role in the bedroom. To top it off, the men they are sleeping with don't know what they are doing at all.
If by concentration you mean "doubt of ones self" then... maybe. If a woman is not getting orgasms from her partner, she's not going to really be 100% into sex - which will CAUSE a woman to be distracted and create a less likely chance of an orgasm. If you're not into the sex, you're going to start thinking about whether or not you left the lights on in the living room - and come on, who can cum to thinking of lights?!
| quote: | The majority of women need clitoral stimulation in order to climax. This applies whether they're enjoying loveplay or intercourse.
Some women, on the other hand, believe they can 'come' through intercourse with no manual stimulation of the clitoris and claim that it is the vagina itself that sparks off the orgasm. However, many sex experts reckon what is happening during intercourse is that the clitoris is being stimulated by being pulled down or being rubbed by part of the man's torso.
There is also the G-spot to consider. Some women experience a particularly intense orgasm when that part of their anatomy is stimulated (you can find the G-spot inside you on the front vaginal wall). Indeed, many women who enjoy having their G-spots touched claim that they ejaculate during these intense orgasms. So, there may be a case for saying that there is a G-spot orgasm, as well as possibly a vaginal one, and one that originates in the clitoris.
Our feeling about all of this is that it really doesn't matter whether or not there are different types of orgasms. The important thing is that you should be having good, reliable orgasms whenever you want them - and that you should be enjoying them hugely. |
http://www.netdoctor.co.uk/sex_rela...gasmtrouble.htm
| quote: | The most common physical cause is lack of adequate stimulation to the clitoris. The majority of women need direct touch to achieve orgasm, which often doesn't happen through intercourse alone.
The second most common factor is tiredness or general illness. Our bodies aren't machines - you can't get an orgasm just by pressing the right button. If you're feeling rundown, your body's priority is sleep and recuperation, not sexual gratification.
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Being a perfectionist. Sex has to be just right. The environment has to be just so and you have to be in the right mood.
Fear of losing control. This is a character trait in many areas of your life, not just sexually.
Poor self-esteem or body image. Worrying about whether your bum looks big rather than enjoying your physical sensations is a major passion wrecke.
Shame or guilt about sexuality. This might be due to negative childhood messages or a sexual trauma.
Distractions. Are the children asleep? Will the phone ring? Can the neighbours hear? Did I put the cat out? Did I email that report? Whatever the distraction, it means your mind is not on the job.
Being a spectator. You know the saying "a watched pot never boils"? Well it's also true of orgasms. If you're waiting for the moment, you're not enjoying the moment.
Relationship problems. You can't expect to have enjoyable sex with an enemy. If there's tension in your relationship, sort it out before you enter the bedroom. |
http://www.bbc.co.uk/relationships/...ltyorgasm.shtml |
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| pkcRAISTLIN |
| quote: | Originally posted by Spam
or try to play your favourite video-game in your head to take your mind off of what's happening down below |
hmmm, i think i'd be MORE inclined to blow if i did that :tongue2 |
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| Spam |
| quote: | Originally posted by squirrelly
It is more difficult, but not because of "concentration" - but women not knowing what will cause them to cum. They don't know what they do or do not like, and are afraid to take the more aggressive role in the bedroom. To top it off, the men they are sleeping with don't know what they are doing at all.
If by concentration you mean "doubt of ones self" then... maybe. If a woman is not getting orgasms from her partner, she's not going to really be 100% into sex - which will CAUSE a woman to be distracted and create a less likely chance of an orgasm. If you're not into the sex, you're going to start thinking about whether or not you left the lights on in the living room - and come on, who can cum to thinking of lights?!
http://www.netdoctor.co.uk/sex_rela...gasmtrouble.htm
http://www.bbc.co.uk/relationships/...ltyorgasm.shtml |
Get outa here with your 'science' you home-wrecker!
Womens just need to wait for Round-2! |
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| squirrelly |
| quote: | Originally posted by Spam
I think the problem is that many women are only down for round-1, so guys feel pressured to make it last longer than it needs to. Get the first round done and over with, have some 'fun' for a while, and when you're good to go again, finish her off! |
Uh, what?
What women aren't down for round 2 or more? I can't think of any.
If she's not down for round 2, it's because you suck in the sack. |
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| squirrelly |
| quote: | Originally posted by Spam
Get outa here with your 'science' you home-wrecker!
Womens just need to wait for Round-2! |
See my last post.
And you're an idiot.
"wait for round 2" :rolleyes:
Get some skill and you can "finish" your woman in less than a minute. If you don't know what you're doing you can go 50 rounds and she still won't cum. |
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| Spam |
| quote: | Originally posted by squirrelly
See my last post.
And you're an idiot.
"wait for round 2" :rolleyes:
Get some skill and you can "finish" your woman in less than a minute. If you don't know what you're doing you can go 50 rounds and she still won't cum. |
I have no skill and barely make it to a half-minute. By then I've had my fun and it's time for bed. that ho, she can get round 2 at the club or something, I need my beauty sleep. |
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| ivofivo |
Well I jsut got a call from that girl I had sex wif...she wants to do it again...get high and .
Then she told me that she was getting rolls and that we are going to on E.
Lol...I really dont know. |
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