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Does your bf/gf/spouse know about TA? (pg. 5)
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| lenazi |
haha i don't really use ta much from home, but if she walks in and sees the black screen she just kisses me on the head and goes and looks at perez hilton or sites about guitar chords.
everyone has some stupid site on the internet that they go to for lulz.
i don't know about the "on ta so and so said..." thing though. That would get met with the same reaction i would give to ,"you will never guess who lindsey lohan is fucking now.".:p |
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| Slylee |
pat and i have never discussed in detail our sexual/relationship past, but we have the jist of our former important relationships. neither of us really care to know the details. we both know that we had some wild times and some disfunctional relationships and grew and learned from them. we're together now and that's all that matters.
we would never lie to each other though, whatever he asks me i'm going to tell the truth and vice versa. |
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| lenazi |
| quote: | Originally posted by jennypie
I can't imagine hiding anything from my mate. I just don't think you can really come to know a person without complete and total honesty..past and present. Having parts of one's life that are off limits sends up a huge red flag to me. |
It isn't hiding anything if both parties really don't care about the past imo. |
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| Silky Johnson |
| quote: | Originally posted by Slylee
pat and i have never discussed in detail our sexual/relationship past, but we have the jist of our former important relationships. neither of us really care to know the details. we both know that we had some wild times and some disfunctional relationships and grew and learned from them. we're together now and that's all that matters.
we would never lie to each other though, whatever he asks me i'm going to tell the truth and vice versa. |
No well I don't mean in detail, but I do think it's important to know where you and your partner have both been/what you've come to. |
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| Moral Hazard |
| Mrs. Hazard is aware that I post on a site but I'm not certain she knows which... not that I hide it, I just don't think she cares enough to pay attention. If she does then she certainly hasn't bothered to check it out, as evidenced by the fact that I'm still married. |
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| Silky Johnson |
| quote: | Originally posted by lenazi
It isn't hiding anything if both parties really don't care about the past imo. |
I think people who "don't care about the past" actually have to hide, and that's their only reason for "not giving a ".
If you don't care about the past, then sharing it should be no issue, imo.
I really do not believe you can know a person authentically without knowing their past. A person is more than just what they do in the now. The whole life story DOES matter, and it does mean something. |
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| lenazi |
| to an extent yes. I was frank about stuff like heavy drug use, but i have never thought of things like how many people she has been with or have never been asked the same. I don't even think i would answer that one, simply because is has 0 effect on the current. |
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| Slylee |
| yea true. i know that when he first came to the US he was running with a really bad crowd (working at a chop shop like fast & furious lol) and hanging out with little no name porn star sluts. lol but he got on track and started working for his dad and left that life behind. i don't judge him. he's awesome and everything he has gone through in life made him who he is today. |
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| Arbiter |
| quote: | Originally posted by jennypie
I can't imagine hiding anything from my mate. I just don't think you can really come to know a person without complete and total honesty..past and present. Having parts of one's life that are off limits sends up a huge red flag to me. |
I can appreciate the sentiment, but having worked a job where basically everything I did at work was a state secret, that seems a little ridiculous to me. |
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| lenazi |
| quote: | Originally posted by jennypie
I think people who "don't care about the past" actually have to hide, and that's their only reason for "not giving a ".
If you don't care about the past, then sharing it should be no issue, imo.
I really do not believe you can know a person authentically without knowing their past. A person is more than just what they do in the now. The whole life story DOES matter, and it does mean something. |
see previous post and add : not hiding any of that stuff. I'll be dammed though if i ever decide to just go tell people "hi i posted pics of getting my dick sucked" like a golden star on my chest.
she has never asked me if i did stuff like that, and to be honest it doesn't really matter.A person is more than what they say and do now, but what they say and do now is way more important to what got them to that point imo. |
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| Silky Johnson |
| quote: | Originally posted by Arbiter
I can appreciate the sentiment, but having worked a job where basically everything I did at work was a state secret, that seems a little ridiculous to me. |
Well then, I think you've already said far too much. :o |
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