I like lira, but i have to admit i enjoy interacting with him more outside of TA. He is a very intelligent young man albeit not quite a cunt smasher.
Theresa
LOL! Leave it to TA to ruin a thread with nice intentions.
Anyway, I'm not sure I agree with you Jenny. Sure, I have my moments of bitchiness, but for the most part, I either 1. can't be bothered to care enough, or 2. don't feel the need to be an for no good reason. If it's a matter of standing up for myself to the little hoebags who butt in front of me in the Tim Hortons line, then yea, my inner-bitch emerges, but otherwise, why bother?
There is already a whole lot of tiness going on, why add to it? It doesn't usually make you feel any better - or at least it doesn't make me feel any better.
I get a lot more enjoyment out of being nice and making people feel good. Maybe this sounds lame or whatever, but when I do something nice for someone and their face lights up with a smile and you can tell you made their day a little better, it makes me happy. So... I choose to be nice, even when people are dicks.
I am not going to lie, I like it when people like me. With that being said, I also couldn't care less when people hate me. Most of the time if they truly hate me, it's because I did something to warrant it (at least from their opinion), or they are just douche****s who want to hate me for funsies. Either way, chances are I don't want to be friends with them anyway.
I think it takes more strength to be nice in the face of all the ugliness out there than it is to just join the crowd and be another curmudgeonly grump.
It also takes a lot more bravery IMO to defend the little guy instead of jumping on the bandwagon and hating on someone so as to avoid being the next person who gets hated on.
Being nice doesn't mean you have to be walked all over, and it doesn't mean you have to be a yes-man. You can still be nice and pleasant and have a backbone.
As for appreciating people who don't ruffle their feathers... I think people just appreciate others who are positive and make them feel good. No one likes to be around a negative who makes them feel ty.
Ian
turkish or italian?
Silky Johnson
Of course, and I agree with all that as well. I just prefer people who act naturally, and I don't believe that kindness and niceness comes to everyone naturally. I'm not saying I think people should go out of their way to be s at all.
Schadenfreude
i'm having an interracial relationship with a french canadian girl.
Theresa
quote:
Originally posted by jennypie
Of course, and I agree with all that as well. I just prefer people who act naturally, and I don't believe that kindness and niceness comes to everyone naturally. I'm not saying I think people should go out of their way to be s at all.
Are you referring to the nicey-nice people who are always smiling and have a high-pitched voice and you almost wonder if they fairy dust and candy canes?
If yes, then I agree... people who are too nice seem to be trying too hard and it doesn't always come across as genuine, but rather, almost condescending.
Silky Johnson
Yes exactly.
Theresa
quote:
Originally posted by jennypie
Yes exactly.
Did we just agree on something?
The natural balance of the world is off!! No0o0o0o!!
:wtf:
Silky Johnson
Lol, oh noes!!
Theresa
quote:
Originally posted by jennypie
Lol, oh noes!!
Screw you, you're a douche****!
*stab stab stab*
There....that should fix it.
Silky Johnson
Theresa, I should apologize to you, too. I have definitely been unnecessarily cunty to you...and I don't actually NOT like you as I've said a few months ago. As I told Ania, I got carried away and I guess was just so far into it/stubborn to bother going back.
