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American TA - How true is this about American women? (pg. 5)
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| Halcyon+On+On |
| quote: | Originally posted by Slylee
oh ok so it's just a big defense mechanism. push it away and don't experience it at all because it might haunt you later in life and make you actually have feelings!
in robot:rolleyes: |
That's not what he said at all. |
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| Slylee |
| quote: | Originally posted by Arbiter
For me, loneliness is always tied to missing some specific individual. As a result, the risk of loneliness may actually be higher if I were to marry, since I might well experience considerable loneliness associated with that person's absence if I were to outlive them. Granted, that's a risk with any long-term relationship, marriage or no marriage. I've already been down that road, and I'm not in any particular hurry to go there again. |
that's what i was talking about and i think it sounds like a defense mechanism....according to page 222 in chapter 9 of this psychology book i have at home. |
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| Halcyon+On+On |
| GOD. YOU'RE SO DUMB. IT'S PAGE 227! |
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| Arbiter |
| quote: | Originally posted by Slylee
that's what i was talking about and i think it sounds like a defense mechanism....according to page 222 in chapter 9 of this psychology book i have at home. |
I was merely pointing out that fear of loneliness would be a poor reason for me to reconsider my views on marriage. However, I am not necessarily opposed to a course of action that carries with it a risk of future loneliness, so long as it offers benefits sufficient to offset that risk.
Of course, I won't deny that I employ a variety of defense mechanisms. Love is a battlefield, and I always carefully observe Zhongda's five operations:
If you can fight, fight; if you cannot fight, defend; if you cannot defend, flee; if you cannot flee, surrender; if you cannot surrender, die.
Marriage is surrender, so I will always defend or flee if possible before resorting to such action. |
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| Slylee |
arbiter, who hurt you?
LET ME IN!
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| Slylee |
well to me, being able to love again after being burned is a huge sign of strength. not letting anyone else in because of something that happened to you in the past is weak as far as i'm concerned.
i'm really glad that i was taught by both parents that happens in life and when you fall down or get your heart broken, you grieve for a little bit and then you get back up and dust your shoulders off and keep moving. it's a trait i have that i'm very proud of actually. nothing can really keep me down when it comes to stuff like that. life is too short. |
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| Slipmat |
| Tell us more about yourself, Slylee. |
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| Slylee |
| quote: | Originally posted by Slipmat
Tell us more about yourself, Slylee. |
drama queen |
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| Arbiter |
| quote: | Originally posted by Slylee
arbiter, who hurt you? |
No one who has lived to tell the tale. |
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