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| Schadenfreude |
| answer this question very honestly to yourself: Do you trust her? |
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| Silky Johnson |
| I doubt she's ing this guy, but it seems like she's definitely committing emotional infidelity. |
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| Schadenfreude |
if she was ing this guy, it would be a blessing in disguise because why would anyone want to be with a person like this anyways?
until you know she has done wrong, she has done nothing wrong. IF you don't trust her, there is no relationship anyways. |
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| euphoria |
| quote: | | Originally posted by Jackson We haven't spoke in like 4 days, I took the arguement pretty badly and did some ... |
How bad was this u did?
also how long have you guys been together? |
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| Jackson |
So as a whole, do you think I am over-reacting by being upset?
We haven't spoken since Sunday...I got very, very upset and she just ignored it and went to sleep...she has been texting me for a few days but I haven't replied because I don't know how i feel. I haven't cooled down enough yet and I feel any response I give her will be hasty and angry. |
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| Silky Johnson |
| Yes you are over-reacting, mostly because you're the one playing into your insecurities. I don't think it's fair to accuse anyone of anything based on that. It's very insulting to be told you aren't trusted, especially by your partner. |
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| euphoria |
| Don't take too long to reply or else you will push her right into his arms. At least tell her you are still thinking things through and that you will go talk to her once you have had time to collect your thoughts. |
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| Schadenfreude |
you are not overreacting if it is how you feel, you just might not be handling it appropriately. You should be allowed to voice things that affect you emotionally. The fact that you guys are not talking right now means (at least to me), that you guys most likely addresses this as an argument (which almost always lead to hurtful things being said, and many times you can't take those back) instead of sitting down and respectfully putting everything on the table.
If everything is done in a respectful, honest, and serious manner, if you guys are meant to be with each other you can find solutions that leave everyone satisfied.
the communication aspect of a relationship being important might be cliche, but it is so true. There is a big difference with talking and telling imo. |
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| Moral Hazard |
| quote: | Originally posted by Jackson
So as a whole, do you think I am over-reacting by being upset?
We haven't spoken since Sunday...I got very, very upset and she just ignored it and went to sleep...she has been texting me for a few days but I haven't replied because I don't know how i feel. I haven't cooled down enough yet and I feel any response I give her will be hasty and angry. |
You have a right to be upset and your suspicions appear very justified. That said, you really should talk to her about all of this and get to some sort of resolution; however, post all your nude photos of here here before you cool off. |
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| ChemEnhanced |
| quote: | Originally posted by Ania_xox
I used to have a problem with falling asleep alone (still do kinda) therefore, my friends knew that the best time to chat with me was right before bed.
I'm still good friends with a few guys I used to date and they always used to call me at night, even when I started dating my bf.
I would chat for 5 mins or so, but then tell them I'm hanging out with the bf and I have to go. It started to really bug him, so I basically told my guy friends to not call late. That's it. And we just talk on MSN now, or occasionally on the phone at any random time.
Bottom line: my bf told me it bugged him, so I fixed the situation. I love him and respect his opinions because he's not irrational.
If your woman is clinging to this dude, you have to ask her what the is up because this is not normal behaviour for someone in a relationship. |
you didn't fix anything...all you did was change the form of communication...if you truly cared about your BF you would tell your guy friends that they cannot call you and that you will get permission from your BF to call them at designated times throughout the week. |
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| Jackson |
| quote: | Originally posted by Schadenfreude
answer this question very honestly to yourself: Do you trust her? |
I find it hard to trust people in general, as a few older COREwhores know my sister was raped and left for dead...so that as you imagine has a big affect on trust. So I am not really sure if its that I don't trust her or if I don't trust other people...I ask myself that question alot. But I imagine who ever my partner was the situation would be the same.
| quote: | Originally posted by euphoria
How bad was this u did?
also how long have you guys been together? |
I only did to myself...I didn't like go off an sleep with someone.
Been together almost 2 years now. |
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| Silky Johnson |
| Also, the longer you pull this tantrum, the more unappealing you're going to be to your gf. People generally aren't attracted to those who constantly need reassurance. |
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