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does anyone else find monogamy completely bizarre (pg. 3)
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| nchs09 |
Ohhhhhhhhhhhhhhh i remember when making ALT accounts was cool back in 2005
wait, no i dont. |
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| TheProperWolf |
| quote: | Originally posted by ChemEnhanced
the majority of the animal kingdom thinks its bizarre |
And why as thinking, rationalizing, self-aware, considerate human beings should we give a damn what most animals think?
Rhetorical question. I'm not waiting around for an answer of any kind from anyone here. |
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| JenJenBoo |
| quote: | Originally posted by ChemEnhanced
8 months....you're still in the lovey dovey stage.....see how you are 8 years from now |
Maybe for you it could not last that long because you don't believe it can or you just would not want it to. Because a huge part of it has to do with you yourself and what your motives and priorities are. |
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| ziptnf |
| quote: | Originally posted by JenJenBoo
Maybe for you it could not last that long because you don't believe it can or you just would not want it to. Because a huge part of it has to do with you yourself and what your motives and priorities are. |
I mean, not really. People change. What starts out as a beautiful relationship can turn ugly as priorities change, new jobs, financial issues, children, and other people come into play. True commitment is permanent, but incredibly ing rare. |
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| ChemEnhanced |
| quote: | Originally posted by JenJenBoo
Maybe for you it could not last that long because you don't believe it can or you just would not want it to. Because a huge part of it has to do with you yourself and what your motives and priorities are. |
I'm happily married and love my life.....but come on 8 months is barely even a relationship. Of course you are still finding it gets better and better each and every day. The outlook may be a lot different after you have been living together for 10 or 15 years and life starts to become repetitive with nothing new and interesting to talk about. |
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| ChemEnhanced |
| quote: | Originally posted by TheProperWolf
And why as thinking, rationalizing, self-aware, considerate human beings should we give a damn what most animals think?
Rhetorical question. I'm not waiting around for an answer of any kind from anyone here. |
When it comes right down to it we are animals with animal instincts. It goes against our primal urge to just be with one mate. Men want to spread their DNA everywhere and women want the best DNA they can find. |
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| JenJenBoo |
| quote: | Originally posted by ziptnf
I mean, not really. People change. What starts out as a beautiful relationship can turn ugly as priorities change, new jobs, financial issues, children, and other people come into play. True commitment is permanent, but incredibly ing rare. |
So you would automatically doom me (us) to obscurity just because you think things are supposed to change and then make a difference about how 2 people feel about each other? I'm sorry but I truly believe such pessimism and acceptance are why divorce rates have climbed in the past 40 years. Personal strength of commitment does have to be considered because of course circumstances of life will change, but that does NOT mean that 2 people will automatically or necessarily grow apart from each other. In fact their levels of need for each other will also change too with age. My mom and dad were totally devoted to each other and obviously IN LOVE with each other till she was killed in a car accident. My bf's mom and dad were married (and he says very happily) till the day his dad died, at age 70, and she never remarried till she passed at age 82. His grandfather, 75 years, platinum wedding anniversary, I've seen the pictures and even a news article that was saved from the local paper. It happens, if 2 people want strongly enough for it to happen then it will happen, that is really all there is to it. |
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| EddieZilker |
| quote: | Originally posted by JenJenBoo
So you would automatically doom me (us) to obscurity just because you think things are supposed to change and then make a difference about how 2 people feel about each other? I'm sorry but I truly believe such pessimism and acceptance are why divorce rates have climbed in the past 40 years. Personal strength of commitment does have to be considered because of course circumstances of life will change, but that does NOT mean that 2 people will automatically or necessarily grow apart from each other. In fact their levels of need for each other will also change too with age. My mom and dad were totally devoted to each other and obviously IN LOVE with each other till she was killed in a car accident. My bf's mom and dad were married (and he says very happily) till the day his dad died, at age 70, and she never remarried till she passed at age 82. His grandfather, 75 years, platinum wedding anniversary, I've seen the pictures and even a news article that was saved from the local paper. It happens, if 2 people want strongly enough for it to happen then it will happen, that is really all there is to it. |
And here we have one of the reasons why my mother was pulling in over $100K per year as a divorce lawyer. |
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| srussell0018 |
I'm guessing TheProperWolf is VAR.
JenJenBoo is probably also VAR. |
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| ChemEnhanced |
| quote: | Originally posted by JenJenBoo
So you would automatically doom me (us) to obscurity just because you think things are supposed to change and then make a difference about how 2 people feel about each other? I'm sorry but I truly believe such pessimism and acceptance are why divorce rates have climbed in the past 40 years. Personal strength of commitment does have to be considered because of course circumstances of life will change, but that does NOT mean that 2 people will automatically or necessarily grow apart from each other. In fact their levels of need for each other will also change too with age. My mom and dad were totally devoted to each other and obviously IN LOVE with each other till she was killed in a car accident. My bf's mom and dad were married (and he says very happily) till the day his dad died, at age 70, and she never remarried till she passed at age 82. His grandfather, 75 years, platinum wedding anniversary, I've seen the pictures and even a news article that was saved from the local paper. It happens, if 2 people want strongly enough for it to happen then it will happen, that is really all there is to it. |
People can be happily married and still be bored and wanting other things. Why does someone have to love only one person? |
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| netroM |
| quote: | Originally posted by srussell0018
I'm guessing TheProperWolf is VAR.
JenJenBoo is probably also VAR. |
post a new caption, you . |
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| JenJenBoo |
| quote: | Originally posted by srussell0018
I'm guessing TheProperWolf is VAR.
JenJenBoo is probably also VAR. |
And I'm "guessing" (since we seem to be playing a game) that you don't know who or what you are, other than just another droll troll who likes to harass people.
| quote: | Originally posted by ChemEnhanced
People can be happily married and still be bored and wanting other things. Why does someone have to love only one person? |
Certainly that's true but people can also be alone and bored and wanting more but can't get it, and they also don't even have a best friend around to talk to.....and maybe they will even die alone, or that's a major fear because i've heard elders say it out loud....really I think it's all a question of balancing life from beginning to end. No one with a good sense of reality will ever expect life to be "good" nearly all the time or even half the time. But do you know how it feels to be totally alone with no apparent hope at all for any kind of future? ......I do (it's a hard thing to tell about but I think you would understand) and maybe that's why I see things in a certain way. And my boyfriend also has his specific reasons for seeing things much the same way. That is one key, we were very lucky in finding one whose life priorities and goals are so much the same and that is a big part of our bond. Listen I am a very beautiful woman with a great body and I could have the attention of any man I want. But that does nothing for my future (because I will not be young forever just as you will not be young forever) and I want my future to be as secure as my life is right now. That is one reason why believing in commitment is so important. It's the same as planning financially for retirement. Some ongoing sacrifices are needed now to build financial security for later. It just seems so logical. |
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