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why won't she sit on my face? (pg. 6)
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| AnotherWay83 |
| quote: | Originally posted by Looney4Clooney
do you pay SWs to supplement your sex/love life or is that the only source of "affection" you get. Have you ever experienced say being in love or having someone desire you and hte feelings that come with that. I am genuinely curious. I guess i'm wondering if there is something in your life that happened maybe too personal to share that has guided you this way at a rather young age. Most people that start doing this tend to be older.
Brahms ( composer from the 19th century if you aren't familiar ) was raised in cathouses where his father made him play piano while having to endure that environment which he wrote about later with vivid disgust. The interesting thing is that he never had a relationship and he spent most of his adult time in regards to the opposite sex with the courtesans and the same environment he was around as a child. He did have a few crushes that were pretty intense but he never acted on them. Of course what prostitution was then and what it is now isn't quite the same but regardless, your lifestyle is one that is hard to understand and it does make one curious. I'm not asking if you were raised by a sw, but perhaps a reason why you think this has worked for you so far. |
i've been infatuated (what i thought was "love" at the time :haha: ) before, but i'm very fickle and fall in and out of it quickly. i've dated around and had a few flings, but i've never been in a relationship and quite frankly have given up on ever having one. looking back, i used to be much more romantic. now the whole thing seems like such a charade the idea of "dating" actually turns me off. IMHO it sucks even more once you enter your late 20s and up, because by then the women you meet seem much more interested in: the car you drive, if you rent or own, if you live in the city (what neighborhood?) or the suburbs, if you live with a roommate, etc etc. for this reason i've always preferred younger women (<25) and been envious of guys in that age bracket, because of the access they enjoy to said women. they seem much more interested in you as a person than in how you fit in with their grand plans for the future.
as a kid i was acutely shy around girls, and moving to a whole different country didn't exactly help. i had my first date when i was 20 years old, and had sex without paying for it for the first time at 24. even then it was with some 45 yr old hag that had a thing for younger guys, so no great conquest really. i also had serious depression issues which put me on meds, the result of which was severe weight gain. this only made things worse, as you could imagine.
due to the above i was never able to pull a girl i was really, really attracted to physically. all the non-pros i've been with were always just fill-ins, the kind you while you wait for something better to show up. frankly, i couldn't possibly have slept with them more than once or twice at the most. the ones i really wanted, never wanted me (they still don't, btw :p). i'm not trying to make a thing out of it, i don't hate women and i'm not one of those who thinks that just because a girl isn't into me, she's a "bitch" or a "lesbo" or whatever (except when she refuses to sit on my face, of course :D ) . i'm a pretty firm believer in doing what's best for yourself, and if a girl is attracted to some guy other than me, i'd rather see her with him than try to convince her otherwise.
my problem is that unlike most guys, i can't just settle for whatever comes my way. i couldn't, you see - if i did, i would likely have remained a virgin for even longer, and would only ever have had lousy sex with women i was barely attracted to. this, too, is acceptable to some guys...i'm just not one of them.
growing up i always felt that there were just two options really as far as the whole romance thing is concerned. the first (and obviously, best-case) option is to get with someone with whom there's intense mutual attraction at every level - physical, mental, emotional, etc. the second would be a compromise in one or more (and likely all three, as is the case with so many couples) of those areas.
once i got out of school and got a decent paying job, however, a third option inserted itself between the 2 - escorts of the high end variety. however, even though i prefer this over the last remaining option, it's still a very distant second in the list, and i can't help but look with envy (lame, i know) upon those who are lucky enough to experience the best. |
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| AnotherWay83 |
| quote: | Originally posted by Jon_Snow
He posted this thread with the intent of garnering attention and creating a venue to brag about his exploits. |
yes to the first, no to the second. i quite enjoy my reputation as TA's resident creep :toothless but i believe i've talked about my sexploits frequently enough in the past...
i just wanted to draw attention to or remind people of the pleasures of having a chic sit on your face, that's all. if that makes me a Bad Person then that's fine by me. |
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| SYSTEM-J |
| So this is the thread where your persona goes from slightly odd running joke to depressing, totalising reality. Neat. |
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| Lira |
| quote: | Originally posted by AnotherWay83
it sucks even more once you enter your late 20s and up, because by then the women you meet seem much more interested in: the car you drive, if you rent or own, if you live in the city (what neighborhood?) or the suburbs, if you live with a roommate, etc etc. |
That's because of the people you're surrounding yourself with.
Really, mate, you don't have to be a victim of these circumstances you're telling us about :) |
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| Jon_Snow |
| quote: | Originally posted by AnotherWay83
yes to the first, no to the second. i quite enjoy my reputation as TA's resident creep :toothless but i believe i've talked about my sexploits frequently enough in the past...
i just wanted to draw attention to or remind people of the pleasures of having a chic sit on your face, that's all. if that makes me a Bad Person then that's fine by me. |
I think you're making too much of this whole sex thing, probably because of your history. If you haven't already read the classic " on a Pedestal", there are some lessons to be learned. Irregardless, do what you will makes no difference to me.
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| Banora |
| quote: | Originally posted by Lira
That's because of the people you're surrounding yourself with.
Really, mate, you don't have to be a victim of these circumstances you're telling us about :) |
This. I tell guys all the time the only reason they keep finding shallow, materialistic girls is because they keep going after the same bitchy, entitled, stuck-up princess types. |
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| Jon_Snow |
| quote: | Originally posted by Banora
This. I tell guys all the time the only reason they keep finding shallow, materialistic girls is because they keep going after the same bitchy, entitled, stuck-up princess types. |
Come on that's not fair, mother nature has pre-programmed us be that way. It be like if we told you women to stop shopping. Ain't goin happ'in. |
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| Ian |
| tl;dr - did anybody say "because you're a cúnt" yet? |
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| Lira |
| quote: | Originally posted by Jon_Snow
Come on that's not fair, mother nature has pre-programmed us be that way. It be like if we told you women to stop shopping. Ain't goin happ'in. |
Bollocks it did.
We may have come pre-wired to do loads of stuff, and that probably includes fancying attractive girls with certain physical attributes, but if you find yourself going after that kind of girl over and over again, don't blame mother nature: You probably "shop" girls giving it as much thought as they do when they buy purses. |
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| netroM |
| quote: | Originally posted by Jon_Snow
Come on that's not fair, mother nature has pre-programmed us be that way. It be like if we told you women to stop shopping. Ain't goin happ'in. |
Nature programmed us to want curvy women with big bosoms so that they could provide strong offspring.
Society might have edited that program along the way, though. |
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| Looney4Clooney |
| quote: | Originally posted by Lira
Bollocks it did.
We may have come pre-wired to do loads of stuff, and that probably includes fancying attractive girls with certain physical attributes, but if you find yourself going after that kind of girl over and over again, don't blame mother nature: You probably "shop" girls giving it as much thought as they do when they buy purses. |
I think we have been hard wired to fornicate with as many people as possible so i think i agree with you that staying with that sort of girl is not something that could be argued by being adaptive from an evolutionary standpoint.
I'm hardwired to do hardstands when I feel threatened. |
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