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im really confused..its been almost a year now...
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| stk |
Its been almost a year now since me and my ex broke up, and let me say that i still love her deeply and i miss her so much, i've even tried seeing other girls but whenever i date another girl the only thing i see is my EX.
We've been together for alomst 2 years and we shared SO MANY memories and times together , to the point where we almost moved in together , and we even talked about marriage...
The breakup was my fault. I did so many bad things, and i treated her so bad the last couple of weeks before we broke up. And it was me who made the breakup, thinking that i dont need her in my life, but realizing how much i needed her after we broke up. its been about a year now...ever sine we broke up, she always tried to talk to me and to still be friends..and i said yea..thats the best thing to do. For about 1-2 weeks, we would talk casually like friends, and like after awhile, she started to gradually ignore me..to the point where we DONT talk ANYMORE or even say hi to each other. WHen i try talking to her online? she always says "brb"...or even at school, it seems like she always tries to avoid the path i go.
Recently, about a few days ago, one of her friends gave me back all the stuff i gave her ...
The questions in my mind are:
1) why did she start ignoring me?
2) why did she give me back all the stuff i gave her?
3) does she still have feeling for me? or does she just hate me? (or is this info to vague to actually no)
thx..im very confused..depressed..sad..suicidal..everything...shes like my oxygen, whenever i need air, i think about her, and i could barely breathe. |
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| Endre |
that suck so hard man...i almost start to cry like a little child.
forget her now, or kill your self :(
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| Maaz |
1) why did she start ignoring you?
Maybe she got hurt as well... I lost one of the girls I most care about this way and thought she hugged me the last time we met, from that day on, she started ignoring me :(
2) why did she give you back all the stuff you gave her?
Maybe she got hurt as well... watching everything you gave her obviously reminds her of you and she just doesn't want to suffer anymore, though it could bring her good memories too - it might be that "time to move on" thing...
3) does she still have feeling for you?
It's up to her, mate :p It depends on what you've done, you know? Maybe not even her knows the answer... :rolleyes:
About being confused.. depressed.. sad.. suicidal.. everything... well, I'd tell you to cheer up, but I know it's not that easy. My hint is: without sorrow, you wouldn't know how special happiness is. Now you know the real meaning of happiness. Now that you've learn it try not to lose it whenever you find it again. |
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| Maaz |
| quote: | Originally posted by Endre
forget her now, or kill your self :(
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I don't think one mistake corrects another :rolleyes: |
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| biznology |
umm, youve survived for a year? what makes you think you cant last longer?
if youre taking responsibility for ending the relationship(treating her like ) then you should prolly just realize it will never go back to the way it was. i dont really know what to say here...but i doubt that its as serious as suicide. you lived youre entire life before without her(i assume) and you can prolly continue to. peace| |
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| stk |
| biznology u dont en understand |
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| BluNine |
| stk i think he really does kind of understand, and although thats the kind of advice that hurts...in this situation it seems to be dead on IMO. it seems like what you did a year ago scarred her quite badly, and within that year she had adequate time to heal and get over you :( the fact that she doesnt try to make contact with you and gave you all of your belongings back is what makes me believe so. BUT - if you REALLY love this girl, and really feel like she is THE ONE...if you want ANY chance, you are going to have to do some drastic and gutsy things to show her how you feel and make her actually believe you. you have to tell her how you feel now, and you have to figure out something to do for her that would mean the most to her out of anything in the entire world. be persistent without being obnoxious...if she still feels the same way, you WILL find out. all you can do is hope that shes not too far through the healing stage to not give a damn :( good luck bro |
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| Sarcoman |
| quote: | Originally posted by Endre
that suck so hard man...i almost start to cry like a little child.
forget her now, or kill your self :(
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Ya, OK. there is some amazing advice.
All i can say, is that I had a similar experience. i went out with a girl for 2 and a half years. Loved her like crazy, shared everything. I broke up with her. And still, to this day (4 years later), i stilll think of her. Its because she was the first girl i can say i truly loved. But I realize its over, and will never happen again.
You have to come to that realization too. You will find other girls, and most of them will not compare to Her. Thats because you will compare all girls in your future to your first (or your Best Yet). Since I broke up with my first, I have dated several girls, and none of those seemed to work. I didnt have the same feelings. But I know that eventually, I will find a girl that I can feel strong about again. And so will you. Just hang in there, be patient, and realize that it is over with her, and that you WILL move on. Good luck to ya.
| quote: | 1) why did she start ignoring me? Cause she was hurt by the breakup, and the weeks before the breakup when you treated her badly. And perhaps, her ignoring you is a way to bring her closure to the relationship
2) why did she give me back all the stuff i gave her?Cause she is hurt, and bitter, and wants to make you feel the same
3) does she still have feeling for me? or does she just hate me? (or is this info to vague to actually no)She may say she hates you, but if your relationship was intense, like you mentioned, then she will likely have similar feelings for you. But because she was hurt, will not want to go back with you, out of fear that you will hurt her again |
Just my thoughts |
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| ahlamalek |
i dont know what you did to her exactly, you didn't mention that you tried something to get her back. Ok you love her but does she know it? Did you say you were sorry for what you did? not one time, a 1000 times! maybe she has someone else, maybe maybe maybe.... too many things to consider.
look basically, here's the rule. If you are the one breaking up, then its up to you to repair everything. Don't expect her to come seeing you saying that she wants you back.
You ed everything up... you won't have her back that easily! |
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| FrosT |
You said you were going out for 2 years correct. ITs not like 100% fact or anything like that, but it usually takes about half the time you were going out with somebody to finally get over them. The fact that she got one of her friends to give you all your stuff back, is most likely a sign that she is getting over it. Even though its hard it would prob be best to continue your life. In this situation you really only have 2 choices.
(A.)Admit that it is finally over. Take the fact of her giving all your stuff back as a sign that she has finally let go of her feelings for you. Move on as hard as it is.
(B.)You confront her, tell her how you feel, bring back all the painfull memories, lay it out. See what happens.
Most likey you will just hurt her more, she is finally over it and then you will bring it all back. She waited a year for you to admit how you feel and try to get back together. In this case if you truely feel for her, IMHO the best thing would be to let her go. It would be easyer on her for sure. I could be wrong but after all this time its a scarr, No use to go ripping it back open. Move on friend, i know its easyer said than done, but prob for the best. |
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| stk |
thx guys for your advice..
well finally..i managed to talk to her and i asked her how come she never talks to me anymore? and she said..its cause i always get frustrated when i talk to you...
why is she saying this?? |
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| Linx_da_cat |
it could be that whenever she speaks to you or even sees you, she's reminded of either what you two had, or what you put her through. probably the latter.
harsh...but it's the truth :( |
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