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| musicaddict |
ok pleas, I want true/honest/sense making answers...no bs..thanks(sorry if its long but please reply if you know of any good advice)
ok this is how it started..
I met this girl about 2 months and something in school. I found her interesting to be around with. I feel very comfortable talking to her. Theres something special about her. The problem is that at first I didnt really think I have feelings for her but as time passes by and I talk to her more and more I thought about her more and more. I think about everyday for this past 2 weeks. So this means that I really like this girl but I don't think she has any interest in me. It seems like she likes talking to me except only as friends. There's no sign of her liking me.
Then last week we talked for the longest time since we met and as we were talking I THOUGHT I that she's starting to like me or at least have somewhat feeling for me. I was a lil nervous and shy but I asked her out to dinner on Friday. She said yes and damn I was hella happy. So I was telling myself "damn, this is like one of the happiest moment of my life. A chick I like is going out with me on a date and I think she's starting to like me."
So on Friday we went out on our date. I had a great time and I'm pretty sure she did too. So when I dropped her home I asked her for her #. She gave it to me so then I asked if we can go out sometime again and she agrees. I thought to myself, wow this is too good. I drove home one happy man.
Then later that night I called her. I really wanted to tell her that I really have feelings and I really like her but I didn't think it was the right time (I mean 2 months and something is too early in the game) so I told myself "no, dont tell her how you feel yet...wait until you go out again". So my plan was to call and talk for a while but then after talking for a while I feel like I really have to tell her how I feel before it's too late. So then I started to tell her that I think she's a very nice/sweet/kind/special person and there's something thats bugging me for while and I have to let it out. So then I told her how i feel about her. She was all quiet and listening to me. AFter I told her how i feel for her I asked her if she feels the same way.
What happens next made my happy day turned into a hell day. She told me that "I only see you as a friend. Nothing more." Then I asked her what about our date today, what do you see it as? Then she said "Just a friendly date. Friends going out with friends." After she said those words I got really depressed and sad but I had to act like I wasn't sad but I really was. I was also happy in a way because I got to find out the answer to my question.
AFter all is said and done, I asked her "well do you think we have a chance?" She said "maybe" and I was like "NO! I want a Yes or a No answer. So then she said "yes" so that made me feel a lil better but still, I don't think I can see us as just friends. I mean I have to see her everyday in school. I don't think I can handle it. Now, I don't even know if i will have the guts to look at her when we go back to school on Monday.
So anyways, what do you guys think? Do you think that I told her how I felt too early? Coz this is what I was thinking to myself..I told myself that we've know each other for 2 and something months and I think that it is the right time, but hell I was wrong. I was also telling myself that if I didn't tell her now, I might be too late. DAmn im sooo wrong..so please replies with some good comments/opinions.. this this lost soul out..thanks
btw, sorry if its too long but I just gotta let all this feelings out. |
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| Devbert |
Honestly dude, it sounds like she's ing with your head or she's pitying you.
If she liked you, she'd say so and stick with it. If she didn't, she wouldn't say "maybe" and like that.
Either way your emotions are getting ed with. Move on and forge ahead.
Sorry to be so blunt, but hey, that's how you gotta do it sometimes.
And 2 months is plenty of time dude. 2 weeks might be to short, but 8 weeks is a long time.
As to the school situation, your kind of ed, especially if you have the same friends. |
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| Trance-Canada |
| Hrm.... Do yuo go out with may girls ? Cuz i found that if I just asked them if they wanna go out some place for dinner or fun they said yeah right away, never had a no yet :D But like after 2-3days of talking to them :) Maybe you are just insecure ? or shy combination of both.. I dunno... there my 2 cents |
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| AnotherWay83 |
| quote: | Originally posted by Devbert
Honestly dude, it sounds like she's ing with your head or she's pitying you.
If she liked you, she'd say so and stick with it. If she didn't, she wouldn't say "maybe" and like that.
Either way your emotions are getting ed with. Move on and forge ahead.
Sorry to be so blunt, but hey, that's how you gotta do it sometimes.
And 2 months is plenty of time dude. 2 weeks might be to short, but 8 weeks is a long time.
As to the school situation, your kind of ed, especially if you have the same friends. |
exactly. women do this ALL THE TIME. u can never be absolutely sure what she's actually thinking |
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| bluE_Neon |
| i think that maybe she might be also a bit shy and nervous. sometimes people dont know wat to say and they have those insticts that they dont mean when they say it. the way i see it, give her some time, hang around with her and see more wat she's like. in about 3 weeks time more from now, you'll see wat she's really like. you'll know if she's playing with you or teasing you around. otherwise she's not worth it man, and dont let her bother your head ;) |
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| Linx_da_cat |
| or she just likes the fact that you like her and is ing with your emotions so you'll stick to liking her. |
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| High Spirit |
As for me, you shouldn't have told her anything about your feellings. Girls aren't stupid, they feel everything. If you asked her out, it does mean that you like her and she knows this(why would you ever hang out wiz da chik that you don't like). If there;s nothing has been sad yet, there's still the level of challenge (or competition cauz she is'nt the only one who might be interested in you) for a girl and she'll go for it, but after you tell her everything, there's nothing to challenge and that's where you start loosing it. The most funny is how this thing works all the time: oyu loosing her and you want her back.. the more you trying to get her back, the less chances you'll get it.
Sorry dude, I think this one is gone.. As someone told you already on this thread, just move on.. I know it's not easy, but you're gonna be cool.
Good luck. |
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| DJ El Kay Dee |
been there, done that....
and no..no happy ending...sorry..it just s it up when u tell em how u feel without being certain about their feelings for u
actually..been there and done that twice.... so for the past 2 years ive just stayed away from women i like cos i dont want a 3rd strike...
call me pessimistic i dont care but..ya...
i believe that if anything should happen for me, it will happen... ive shifted from the internal locus of control to an external locus of control..depressing but true |
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| Eugene |
| 2 months is a long time! Most people share how they feel about each other much earlier than that... |
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| Essential1 |
| "Maybe" could mean that she doesn't know how she feels yet and doesn't want to lie to u. Just give it time and see what happens. The only real advice I can give u is NEVER use the word LOVE. U can say u care about her, u have feelings for her, but don't say "I love you". Once u sau those 3 magical words, 2 things could happen: she'll either get scared or she'll get obsessed with you. I've made that mistake b4 and the outcome is not very pretty. |
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| DJ-Ande |
i had the same sorta problem, and jesus girls are hard 2 understand!!!!!!!!!!!:( :(
its not fair sometimes...........but u gotta keep trying, ya never no!!!!!!!!!!:D :D |
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| Dj DoomForce |
Whoa man...that's a mess there.
She might be playing with you but she may not.Maybe you caught her unprepared with that and she was scared or something,i really can't describe the feeling.
Whatever,the key is having faith in yourself.
U can just go find her at school and either say:look im sorry bout that night,maybe i was overjoyed with it,let's keep it low..pausee.. but i do like u,thats a fact-smile-" or "...-after some conversation in that,please think of the approach-please dont play with me/my emotions and be clear on it cause ur definetely something special to me".
Whatever u choose to do,remember to have faith in u and that its not the end of the world!Things like that happen all the time!
:) |
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